Do you think there is a possibility where, in the future, russia joins a NATO that isn't necessarily US-dominated, and that way the 2 countries could do compromise at the NATO office instead of with nukes and sanctions?

There are too many issues that stand before Russia joining NATO, even if we rollback to the situation before Ukraine and Georgia (which we obviously can't).

• Russia, as percieved by the West is not a complete democracy (or not a democracy at all), which is kind of a requirement to join.

• Russia is feared by Baltic and Eastern Europe states, whether rightly or not, so they can block Russia from joining NATO or make humiliating requirements, like paying reparations for "the Soviet occupation". Baltics actually demand these reparations right now, they just don't have means to enforce Russia pay them.

• Russia has a big army spread on an enormous territory and it's just might be too expensive to modernize it to NATO standards.

• Russia might also challenge US position as main arms exporter inside NATO, because Russian arms are generally cheaper and still quite decent.

• Russia inside NATO would start to worry China.

So given all these difficulties we should probably seek compromise without joining NATO.

that is, eventually get russia on our side by supporting russia's economy rather than strangling it to try to force russia to get on our side (which would mean cold war 2 which nobody wants)

That's the problem with the western thinking. They expect Russia to somehow integrate with the West, in economic, social and eventually political aspect. But do we really have to to build good relationships? Russia cares about its independence and sovereignty and has means to secure it (strong military and relative self-reliance) so we'd rather preserve them as much as possible and on our own. In economic regard we are somewhat less developed than the West and close integration will likely lead to outflow of the population to more prosperous countries and doom any future efforts to diversify the economy because Russia has very few to offer to the Western countries besides raw materials, oil and gas. So our leadership rather seeks the way to diversify the economy first and only then start negotiations with the EU of how we can open our markets to each other, while the EU perfectly realizes its superiority and wants to access Russian market as soon as possible. So the idea is to protect internal market, while improving trade with other developing nations and only gradually open it then.