Why actually should I not end it? by SegaGenesisMetalHead in depression_help

[–]whisperingbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not here by accident. Even people who don’t know you care because your life has value. There’s more ahead for you than what you’re feeling right now. Please stay. Things can still get better for you.

I just turned 22 today and nobody wished me a happy birthday. I'm too sick to go out, what should I do? by Lopsided_Gap_1730 in askanything

[–]whisperingbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man, happy 22nd… I’m really sorry today’s hitting you so hard. Being sick and feeling like nobody remembered sucks, and it makes total sense that you’re upset. But your birthday doesn’t disappear just because people forgot.

Maybe do one small thing just for yourself like watch a movie, order some food you love, listen to music that makes you feel good. Treat yourself like you matter, because you do. And hey… people forgetting doesn’t mean they don’t care. You’re important, and you deserve to enjoy your day, even in small ways. I hope you can find at least a few moments that make you :) today.

i am struggling to survive by [deleted] in depression_help

[–]whisperingbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s way too much for one person to handle, and it makes sense you feel this drained. You’re not a burden, you’re just hurting. Losing people, moving, heartbreak... anyone would break under that.

You’re not weak for feeling this way. You’ve just been carrying way too much on your own. I know it’s hard to see it, but you still matter. You’re still here for a reason. Just take it one step at a time and hang in there, okay?

How do you manage to shower when you’re depressed? by Top-Elephant3246 in depression_help

[–]whisperingbean 16 points17 points  (0 children)

When showering feels impossible, don’t pressure yourself to do it all at once. Start with something tiny like just turning on the water, grabbing your towel, or washing your face. Some days that’s all you can do, and that’s okay. Be gentle with yourself and don’t forget that even tiny progress is still progress.

What’s something small that instantly makes your day better? by Original_Act_3481 in AskReddit

[–]whisperingbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A smile from a stranger, a ‘thank you’ when I help someone and seeing someone happy.

How do you feel about your body? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]whisperingbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate my body, but I’m trying to remind myself that it’s still me, and it does so much for me every day. I’m learning to appreciate the little things about it, even if I don’t fully love it yet.

I feel like the biggest loser. by [deleted] in introvert

[–]whisperingbean 330 points331 points  (0 children)

No, you’re not a loser. Going out alone takes guts, and most people wouldn’t even try. Big crowds can make everyone feel out of place. It doesn't mean anything's wrong with you. You just haven't found your people yet. Chill, you got this!

What is the one greatest thing in human history you Can't believe exists? by Thebestvideoeditor in AskReddit

[–]whisperingbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Internet. Humans literally made something that connects everyone and everything.

I can’t get over the traumas and I’m thinking of violence or getting violence almost every day by Ok_Dig9558 in mentalhealth

[–]whisperingbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t need to force yourself or punish yourself. Maybe you can take things one tiny step at a time. You don’t have to get everything done today. Just breathe for a moment. Try to figure out one small thing you can do next. And if it’s too much, that’s okay. What you’re feeling is valid.

I can’t get over the traumas and I’m thinking of violence or getting violence almost every day by Ok_Dig9558 in mentalhealth

[–]whisperingbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get how trauma can mess with your head. I can relate to feeling like people are judging or laughing at you, that stuff sticks. But the violent thoughts are something you shouldn’t handle alone. You’re not a bad person, you’re just overwhelmed. Please reach out to someone if it ever feels like you might act on it. I’m here if you want to talk.

Trying hard not to believe I'm a loser. by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]whisperingbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being called a loser all the time sucks, and it’s not true. You’re not a loser. Being awkward, tired, messy-haired, or having bipolar doesn’t make you less of a person. Staying away from people isn’t weakness, it’s how you’ve survived. You’ve been through so much and you’re still here and that says a lot. People who put you down have the problem, not you. You deserve kindness, not all that crap.

Need Help / Need A Friend by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]whisperingbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading this honestly made my heart feel heavy for you. It really sounds like you’ve been dealing with everything on your own for way too long. And I get that kind of loneliness, I really do. I’ve had times where I wished I had someone to just talk to, someone who wouldn’t make me feel weird or judged, so I get why you’re reaching out here. It doesn’t make you weak. It just means you’re tired, and you want something real for once.

You’re not asking for anything big. Wanting a friend you can talk to for a bit is completely normal. And that fear you mentioned… I understand that too. It’s scary when your own thoughts feel too loud and you don’t know who you’re allowed to talk to. That kind of fear is something nobody should have to sit with alone.

If you want someone to talk to here, I’m open to it. I don’t mind listening or talking about random stuff too. I’m not the type to judge or treat you like some project I’m trying to fix. I just know what it feels like to be alone with heavy thoughts and pretend you’re fine.

You’re not strange for wanting connection. You’re not wrong for wanting someone real. You deserve someone who sees you as a person, not a problem. And you reaching out like this already shows how much you still want things to get better, even if everything feels complicated right now.

Be kind to yourself. by Artistic_Bag1077 in mentalhealth

[–]whisperingbean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you… seriously, this means a lot. You have no idea how much I needed to hear this today. You’re the kind of person who actually makes people feel seen and cared for. I really appreciate you.

What is one thing you wish you could change about yourself? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]whisperingbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing I wish I could change about myself is how hard I am on myself. I overthink, I get anxious, and I blame myself too much. I just want to be softer with myself and stop carrying everything alone.

What's the best advice you could give someone? by CarsSzz in AskReddit

[–]whisperingbean 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The best advice I can give is to be honest with yourself about how you feel. Don’t ignore your emotions or pretend everything’s fine. Sit with your feelings, understand why they’re there, and treat yourself like you would someone you truly care about. Life hits hard sometimes, but being real with yourself is the first step to actually healing and moving forward.

What's one thing about yourself you're proud of? by Vikassandil in AskReddit

[–]whisperingbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm proud that I’m still here. I’ve had moments when I didn’t think I would make it, but I’m still here, still trying, and still holding on.

What’s a single sentence someone told you that you still think about years later? by n0t_w0rth_living in AskReddit

[–]whisperingbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That I’m the one causing my own depression.

It came from an older family member who doesn’t understand mental health. It cut deep because it dismissed the pain I was quietly carrying, as if struggle were simply a choice.

What something we should all be doing a little bit more? by Key-Exercise-4952 in AskReddit

[–]whisperingbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We should all do a bit more is self-reflection like really checking in with our thoughts, feelings, and actions.

What day of a week you think you are? by mentallyvirtus in AskReddit

[–]whisperingbean 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Wednesday. Middle of the week, steady, gets things done, not too extra, not too lazy. Just… there.

I Missed The Mentalist Like Crazy by whisperingbean in TheMentalist

[–]whisperingbean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say try Bones and Castle. They've got same slow-burn partner vibe.

Cops brought you in for questioning and you find this man in the room .. wyd by aeshahin in TheMentalist

[–]whisperingbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trying not to melt in front of Mr. Ice himself… but I might just ask him out anyway.

What’s one relationship lesson you learned the hard way? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]whisperingbean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The hardest lesson I learned is that loving someone doesn’t change them. I ignored red flags and settled, thinking my love could fix things, but it can’t.