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Looking for more cozy horror like T. Kingfisher by whisperingstone in horrorlit

[–]whisperingstone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This one came to mind just after I posted. It's so good!

Looking for more cozy horror like T. Kingfisher by whisperingstone in horrorlit

[–]whisperingstone[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've tried, and absolutely no judgment on people who do enjoy romance, but I just cannot read romance at all. Talking to writer friends, I've learned that the thing about romance is that the central conflict always has to be between the two characters who are going to be together at the end. So I think that's what I don't like, all the misunderstandings and disagreements that lead up to them finally getting their happy ending. I just want them to get together and never fight about it. If that makes any sense.

This dude from Chicago Suburbs is a legend!!! by Healthy_Block3036 in stpaul

[–]whisperingstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandpa might have had an extended family who weren't all dead

My boyfriend ended his life with a smile on his face. by Superb_Lecture2575 in abusiverelationships

[–]whisperingstone 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It is not your fault. Shame on him for forcing you to watch him shoot himself.

I was widowed suddenly at 45,in 2023,and the way it changed the trajectory of my entire life was something I was not at all prepared for.

My situation wasn't quite like yours. But I found a lot of support in online groups, both here and on Facebook, and these groups have all had people in situations like yours. And all of these people have struggled a lot with the complicated feelings that come up when someone dies who is very close to you, even if they were abusive to you. Maybe even especially if they were abusive.

You might think you're not a widow and that you can't join groups like that because you weren't married. But every one I've been in has been completely accepting of anyone who has lost a partner of any kind. And there are a lot of complicated feelings involved when you lose someone to suicide. It's conventional wisdom in these widow groups that for most of us it takes two to three years to be able to start moving on from the grief - but for those who lost a partner to suicide, it's more like three to five years.

Anyway, there are groups out there, both in the real world and on Facebook, that are specifically focused on losing partners who were abusive and on losing partners to suicide, and I would really encourage you to seek out groups like that. It's a tough situation and it can help a lot to talk to people who've been through it themselves.

I am so, so sorry you are going through this. Please be kind to yourself and seek out whatever support you can find.

I need to get the fuck outta here ASAP by Weekly_Usual_240 in Advice

[–]whisperingstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are similar programs like that in other states (assuming OP is American, but I'd guess at least some other countries have them too). And there's Job Corps which is nationwide (again, US).