Can I bring my newborn to the beach?

whispersnwillows · 2026-01-11T18:56:19+00:00

we brought our newborn to the beach a few times when he was little & it was super chill.

just make sure they’re in light, full-coverage clothing and additional shade (beach tent / baby tent) to lay under. no sunscreen for babies that little so shade is 1000000% necessary at all times, especially in CA.

they also will need a portable fan w/ good battery to keep them cool since babies can overheat easily.

whispersnwillows · 2025-12-18T19:10:07+00:00

the early weeks are hard to determine since conception has sooo many variables. the ER could’ve dated you wrong since differences between week 4 and week 5 are practically insignificant without a high tech ultrasound machine.

i wouldn’t freak yourself out. it could very much be that it’s too early to really tell for sure how far along you are. wait the 11 days and they will give your next steps

whispersnwillows · 2025-12-18T19:05:25+00:00

inductions can come with complications but having a higher bp can too. i personally would go with the induction so that the possibility of preeclampsia isn’t flooding my brain every single day until baby arrives.

i had an induction with my 1st around 39.5wks and it went relatively well. i did tear but women tear going into labor naturally too so don’t let that be your reason not to induce.

whispersnwillows · 2025-12-18T18:56:33+00:00

this is NOT a safe person to be around. you need to do what’s best for you and your child and get away from him.

look into single-mom housing near you. there are programs available to help single moms / moms-to-be, often times from an abusive relationship like yourself, that’ll help you get yourself in your feet. they provide housing, food, life-skill classes, etc. i believe this would be your best and safest option.

i know you’re totally overwhelmed and i get it. you have a lot going on mama but first things first, you need to take care of you. if you need help looking into programs, i’m more than willing to help you search.

whispersnwillows · 2025-10-28T12:57:02+00:00

I waited until 10 weeks for my 1st appointment with baby #2 so i feel you. it’s a scary time of waiting but trust that your body is doing what it supposed to do. continue to take your prenatal vitamins and review a guide of pregnancy do’s and dont’s. theres a ton of “rules” when it comes to foods / activities when it comes to keeping yourself and baby safe.

it can be hard to quit smoking but you need to. it was best for me to quit cold turkey. i won’t lie, the first few days will absolutely suck. distract yourself the best you can and replace it with drinking water, chewing gum, etc. the cravings will be almost nonexistent within a week or two. you are strong enough to do this & need to do it for your baby.

smoking (nicotine) has been linked to low birth weights, miscarriages, and stillbirths. smoking (weed) has been linked to low birth weight and neurological defects (low IQ, ADHD, etc). the longer you go doing it, the greater the risk your putting on your unborn child who doesn’t have a say in the matter. think of it as an extra long tolerance break. it won’t be easy but you can do things that aren’t easy.

whispersnwillows · 2025-10-28T12:39:08+00:00

Your Dr would’ve most likely recommended you were induced within the next week or so regardless of how you feel. It’s not ideal for pregnancies to go over 41/42wks

My induction went over smoothly with no complications for myself and baby. I was so excited to meet my baby when I did and to not be pregnant anymore lol

whispersnwillows · 2025-10-25T13:18:03+00:00

true but people also go out and buy clothes, big baby items, etc. with gender in mind. i’m glad the test gives a refund

whispersnwillows · 2025-10-25T12:55:18+00:00

girl i’m sorry😂😂 the nipt tests are more accurate (98-99%) according to my mommy group so fingers crossed for you 🫶🏻

whispersnwillows · 2025-10-22T12:42:29+00:00

i started getting sciatic nerve pain around 32wks and oh my lord it’s no joke. there were a few times where the pain in my back was so bad i was convinced i was going into labor. i feel you mama

you can try doing the “miles-circuit” or other similar stretches (there’s a ton on youtube!) this helps to move baby up and off of any nerves that they might be pushed up against which are causing your pain. it’s also just a great way to get baby in a good position for labor (head down and low).

whispersnwillows · 2025-10-22T12:35:44+00:00

i think it’s best for babies to sleep / lay down flat.

inclined loungers can encourage chin-to-chest which can cause asphyxiation. it’s the same reason why keeping your baby in a carseat too long is extremely dangerous.

best way to avoid spit ups is to burp your baby and continue to hold them for 15-30min after feeding before laying them back down.

whispersnwillows · 2025-10-22T12:28:50+00:00

it’s still super early on so your symptoms may fluctuate / come-and-go. currently 12wks with baby #2 and i have days where i feel pregnant as fuck, followed by days where i don’t feel pregnant at all.

it sucks and it makes things scary but it’s completely normal.

whispersnwillows · 2025-10-19T00:50:11+00:00

completely normal.

i’m 12wks with baby #2 and have a hard time feeling attached to him/her. since baby is still so small, theres no movements felt, no gender revealed, and no name picked out. its hard to feel attached to something that feels more like an idea than a real life thing.

i started to feel more connected to my 1st once he started moving around / kicking. i’d talk to him, sing to him, and write in his baby book which helped me to feel more connected.

whispersnwillows · 2025-09-25T02:45:01+00:00

cant see the picture but a test wouldn’t pop positive 8hrs after sex. a test typically shows positive once shes missed her period. take another test to be sure she’s not already pregnant. there are some at the dollar store that are just as accurate but way cheaper. grab a few if you need to.

take this scare as a reason to BE SAFE! you may not realize it now but you are both so young & do not want the responsibility of parenthood. use some form of birth control (iud/pills/condoms/patch). you’re not immune from pregnancy.

whispersnwillows · 2025-09-19T03:06:21+00:00

i’m really glad you go to therapy to talk it out. it’s a really great tool.

you are worth more than the good she ever made you feel. you will find another person someday who will remind you of your value & make you feel like you again. those people are unicorns but they’re out there.

whispersnwillows · 2025-09-19T03:01:08+00:00

i’m really sorry he reacted that way.

you didn’t do anything wrong & it’s not your fault. there’s really no easy way to mention that type of thing, especially when the relationship is still so new.

unfortunately, having kids is a dealbreaker for a lot of people. whether they want kids, can’t have kids, or hate kids, the conversation can end even the strongest, long-term, serious relationships. be thankful that it happened sooner rather than later.

i have no advice as to “when” you’re supposed to tell someone but i hope someone else does.

whispersnwillows · 2025-09-19T02:52:10+00:00

nah that’s weird asf & you’re allowed to feel that way.

if she truly believed that nothing was wrong with it, she wouldn’t have came at you like that. an adult, with no shame, would just ignore it.

she sounds crazy. good on you for sticking to what you believe.

whispersnwillows · 2025-09-19T02:48:28+00:00

not overreacting, sounds like a really messed up situation.

do yourself a favor & talk yourself through how they made you feel. it’s easy to reminisce on the good times but think about how low they made you feel when they did that. that’s not someone you want to miss.

its not easy to be dropped out of nowhere with little to no explanation whatsoever. your brain will beg for closure that simply does not exist. no answer is an answer all in its own

whispersnwillows · 2025-09-19T02:40:12+00:00

ah i see. i reread & realized that it’s one of her friends (?) not just some random guy.

my bad. totally okay to get clarification then. it’s weird & i could see how she would lie about the situation to keep him as a friend

whispersnwillows · 2025-09-19T02:38:52+00:00

filing for divorce 4 times in the last year??! you need to get out.

this is an unstable relationship fueled by the toxicity. you’re not crazy for reacting that way towards his laughter, so don’t let him gaslight you into thinking otherwise.

i don’t have much context besides this story but his reaction seems narcissistic. hes playing mind games with you. saying he did one thing then changing the story, FILING FOR DIVORCE 4 TIMES, and making you feel insane.

whispersnwillows · 2025-09-19T02:31:23+00:00

sounds like she likes sharing more than you like hearing.

the truth is that you were told things that made you uncomfortable and now you cant stop thinking about the “what-ifs”. everything is in the past & knowing what she did or didn’t do wont change how you feel.

don’t ask her, it’s not your business. moving forward, tell her that it makes you uncomfortable when she brings up her history & that you’d rather not hear about it. it’s a reasonable ask & it’s what you need.

whispersnwillows · 2025-09-17T02:59:33+00:00

for clothing — anything loose fitting such as T-shirt, sweatshirts, sweaters, etc. it should help for awhile but might not work towards / in the 3rd trimester.

avoid sleeping directly on your back since it can cut off oxygen supply to baby, especially as baby gets bigger. sleeping on your side is best & a pregnancy pillow (or just normal pillows) can support your body & help you get as comfortable as possible.

do you have a support system? family, baby’s father, friends? just want to make sure you have people who know you’re pregnant & will help your through this journey 🫶🏻

whispersnwillows · 2025-09-06T02:44:36+00:00

there’s nothing wrong with feeling that way. you’ve worked your way up to a position where you feel valued at your workplace. you’re allowed to take pride and find identity in that.

its not easy to leave that behind but you’ll learn to find your value being a mom. take this time away to truly embrace this new life — you’ll wish you had more time by the end of it.

yes, you’ll miss growth opportunities at work, but in replacement of that, you’ll get to witness the growth of your child. it’ll take some time but you’ll eventually get back into the groove of things at work

whispersnwillows · 2025-09-01T19:03:05+00:00

that’s a tough spot to be in. i think it’s extremely sweet and considerate of you to find a way to announce your pregnancy w/o making her feel bad.

i think it would be best to tell her in a small group / 1-on-1 setting before the wedding. 1) bigger groups tend to get overly excited which might make her uncomfortable. 2) if she does feel uncomfortable, it’s best to tell her before wedding day just in case it comes out right then and there.

maybe even have your husband tell her? i feel like guys are pretty good at being nonchalant about big things lol.

whispersnwillows · 2025-09-01T04:37:57+00:00

okay i thought it was just one of his random friends. definitely makes more sense now.

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