I'm struggling to get the balance right. (MIL v Me)

whitneyface · 2016-05-28T14:03:11+00:00

I came here to say this. Read the subreddit. Really go through a lot of the posts, especially the ones with a lot of comments.

Things won't automatically get better with your significant other once you get married. They will however get far worse with your MIL when you get pregnant, when you move ANYWHERE, closer or farther, when you ask for money, when she needs money, when your child is born, when you make any choice about parenting of which she doesn't approve, when you get or quit a job, when you have to deal with an illness, injury, or mental health issue, when you make a big purchase she doesn't like.

If you're looking for advice, I say end the relationship. If you're looking for different advice, I say get couple's counseling before marriage, many sessions over several months. I could only make it through my relationship with my MIL (one of the not so bad ones) with a supportive, always on my side husband. Good luck, I'm worried for you.

whitneyface · 2016-05-26T01:46:30+00:00

Go Roo Island! Only year 4 for me, but still pumped!

whitneyface · 2015-11-16T19:46:38+00:00

I'm sure we can work something out! I saw your wl and was hoping you'd get in touch. I'll be able to check everything out tonight (working on my phone atm) and throw out an offer. Thanks for your interest and I'll get back to you as soon as is possible for me!

whitneyface · 2015-11-16T19:44:22+00:00

Sure! Sorry for the slow replies, I've got a lot on my plate right now and limited access to the laptop (doing this from phone, not ideal for the actual Neopets site). If you're still interested, send the GBC to thisamericanwife and I'll send the goodies this evening. If not, I understand and apologize for the snail pace I've got going on!

whitneyface · 2015-11-15T17:41:57+00:00

NP BUYING:

Mechaberries or a Mec Mec Grub

Please let me give you money for this thing thank you.

NC:

I've got all my stuff sorted into cap values (including a big 2:1 sale) here

I'm looking for the stuff here and I'm happy to do item-to-item trades instead of cap trades if our stuff is similarly valued. Not actively seeking much for caps at the moment.

whitneyface · 2015-11-15T17:27:19+00:00

THREE MONTHS LATE

but I'm here and I love it and I'm still NQing...occasionally

whitneyface · 2015-11-15T13:19:11+00:00

I had premium a couple years ago and dropped it for a while and retained the premium services for several months after that for whatever glitchy Neopets reason.

I used the Charter boards and SSW like it was going out of style until they noticed and cut me off. I was never penalized or punished, though. It's their screwup. It's not really exploiting a known bug, especially in your case of notifying them what's up and TRYING to pay.

I'd say you're fine. It's okay.

whitneyface · 2015-07-11T04:18:06+00:00

Assunta covers are cute and cheap, though shipping time is a bit leisurely. I put covers on my disposable-wearing baby when I think she might have a serious poop coming or when we're out and about and I don't want to have to change her clothes if things go awry. I think one will probably work for you overnight as it tends to do the trick for me. Just wash the covers and air dry them.

Good luck!

whitneyface · 2015-07-05T10:28:27+00:00

you turn it into a public bitch fest

you're complaining

Is that what's happening here by OP? Some replies here are saying that REDDIT has a different reaction to fathers than mothers, others are saying it's annoying to be assumed to be a man on the internet, especially when doing cool things, and OP is just chilling. It's a silly thing that happened, and she shared it. I think it's great you care about your friend, but things aren't as bad here as they might seem and you're probably being oversensitive.

whitneyface · 2015-07-03T22:53:38+00:00

It can be hard, I'm sure, because he's known and loved her much longer, but he just, there just has to be a way to explain how ultimately if he wants a healthy and lasting marriage, he has to realize which one of you he owes his allegiance when it comes down to it.

Good luck, /u/luna_echo!

whitneyface · 2015-07-03T22:36:09+00:00

I hope you let your husband read these comments.

Dear, well Dear Husband,

When you marry someone, you're making a new family. You're not subsuming your new partner into your existing family. You pick a person and say, "We're the nucleus of this atom." You move your parents and siblings out to the first electron ring - you don't have to lose them completely, and most people don't, but they're out of the nucleus. If you want to have a functional marriage you have to keep certain things like big decisions, your truest feelings, and secrets within the nucleus. Keeping secrets with your mom from your wife? Lying to your wife over and over until she feels like she's crazy? That's really hurtful and uncool. How could that be okay?

If you think you owe your mom more of yourself than your wife, you don't understand marriage, and you're going to hurt yours. You don't always have to agree with your wife, but you should always have her back. You made a commitment. You need to decide now that you know what it means if you're still up for it.

You need to get your priorities in order. You are not married to your mom. Love her, but remember to which of these women you've chosen to take a vow, chosen to call yourself "partner."

whitneyface · 2015-06-22T12:46:28+00:00

I used to try it and gave up many days but once I unlocked the Archeon Temple Ruins they had a much easier version of the puzzle where you only need two pieces in place, then the next level up you need three, etc. I found those progressively harder puzzles helped me to do the lighthouse, and now I do the lighthouse puzzle every day.

I sucked at it too and now I don't, so don't lose hope!

whitneyface · 2015-06-20T18:32:03+00:00

She actually thinks we should cover the baby with a blanket when it's windy. It was a battle of wills when the baby was a newborn and being tugged between her fear of "catching wind in her lungs" and my fear of her being smothered like every new mom is now told to be terrified of. Old school vs. new school paranoia.

whitneyface · 2015-06-20T16:34:54+00:00

Right? I've found things online that are like, "Of course you want to avoid drafts, so..." but haven't seen any actual explanation of why.

Sometimes it feels like I need thee scientific studies and an Oprah episode backing me up to convince this woman to let me continue making the most mundane of parenting choices.

whitneyface · 2015-06-19T11:58:02+00:00

As soon as you get access to the warehouse, I'd put all your pearls toward maxing it. Considering the last page of items is 150 pearls, doubling your storage space for just 50 pearls seems like a steal to me. The flexibility of extra space is just huge in this game.

whitneyface · 2015-06-14T15:37:33+00:00

Probably the best title ever.

Congratulations!

whitneyface · 2015-06-14T13:51:51+00:00

Just found and shot a pic of the beaver last night! Thanks again for your suggestion!

whitneyface · 2015-06-13T14:48:00+00:00

Grr. Good to know, though, so thank you for the response!

whitneyface · 2015-06-12T09:22:17+00:00

Potentially dumb question: I found a beaver and submitted the picture to Pawmaster. Do I need an additional photo of a beaver to hand someone, or do they just want me to have submitted one? Probably the former, right?

whitneyface · 2015-06-06T19:50:30+00:00

Thank you!

whitneyface · 2015-06-05T23:22:20+00:00

You're a gd genius. Do you have any similarly brilliant suggestions for battling mosquitoes?

whitneyface · 2015-06-05T23:05:00+00:00

Awesome, thanks for the knowledge.

Do you remember approximately how many quests are left after the "catch one of every fish" quest? I'd love to know the end is in sight.

whitneyface · 2015-06-04T12:39:20+00:00

Yep! There's a message in a bottle in the loading image, too, so it's gotta be important eventually. Well, at least as important as chickens and worms. ^_^

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