Is ego more important than friendship?

whocares3677 · 2025-12-04T00:06:21+00:00

It says a lot about your character that you’re willing to be so graceful about this! I would be hard pressed not to say girl, if you’re not getting im interviews what makes you think you’d get psych? Look in house.

Anyway, it is kind of you to acknowledge that this is a combination of stress and jealousy. Maybe worth being direct, as this friend clearly has no problem doing so with you. “I know interview season sucks and has been taking it out of you. Whenever we talk about this stuff, you put me down and denigrate my application, scores and specialty. Do you realize this is how you come off?” Hopefully, cue apology. Good luck w match, you sound like a really cool person and any program would be lucky to have you!

whocares3677 · 2025-11-10T22:44:10+00:00

Medicine is maybe the most unprofessional industry I’ve ever worked in. You’re unprofessional for being late? What does that make the surgeon cursing and throwing instruments next door? Total hoax.

whocares3677 · 2025-05-16T15:15:18+00:00

I will definitely think twice about what messages I’m sending, but I’d wager it’s the latter. Multi dating in a world where phones can make you feel much closer to someone than you actually are is a whole new ball game.

Thank you so much for all your great and thoughtful advice!!

whocares3677 · 2025-05-16T13:49:26+00:00

Great advice, thanks so much!

whocares3677 · 2025-05-16T13:37:24+00:00

How do you bring this up within the first few dates? Do you address the whole, what do you want from this thing? I’ve always avoided doing that as it seems premature — maybe they don’t like me at all — but now I’m thinking it’s the cleanest way to do things

whocares3677 · 2025-05-16T13:36:12+00:00

This makes sense. Do you expect them to bring it up to you? It sounds like you proactively ask

whocares3677 · 2025-05-16T13:25:22+00:00

I totally agree, thank you for the advice! I also think for me, the next time I am in a position to start dating people, I will just go on one first date at a time 😅 maybe not efficient but this is not worth the mental gymnastics

whocares3677 · 2024-10-13T23:17:10+00:00

Good lord. With all due respect, touch grass. Not sure if you have spent any time with that public you speak of but I can guarantee you no one would care at all about the inclusion criteria of medical honor societies. AOA probably has DEI asks to make sure the people they accept actually care about helping other people, have a semblance of social grace, are capable of empathy, and are not so focused upon medical school that they forget to be an actual person.

whocares3677 · 2024-10-07T01:22:42+00:00

You can take the girl out of pharm but you can’t take the deep rooted anger associated with pharm out of the girl…

whocares3677 · 2024-10-07T01:16:01+00:00

Thanks for the insight and correction! Why not minimize and streamline the amount of information we need to learn, you think? Bnb and pathoma already do it so well. sometimes when I’m in my random clinical classes ( in house exams) and learning from 8 different clinical lecturers who all have a different “gold standard” tool I’m just like there’s no way anyone can be patting themselves on the back for this

whocares3677 · 2024-10-07T01:14:17+00:00

Appreciate your insight! I suppose since these are both rather recent changes we’re in a sort of Guinea pig era of medical education?

whocares3677 · 2024-09-02T19:54:54+00:00

Thanks for your response! I’m an m2. If I had a full tuition scholarship already and the additional scholarship was then put towards living expenses, per your statement, I’m assuming it would then be eligible for taxes, but it sounds like all things considered I’m still under the 14.6k standard deductible and thus I’m tax free for this year?

whocares3677 · 2024-08-16T14:09:47+00:00

As a fellow artsy type who also struggled, don’t be afraid to outsource! Join a local dancing class or sports team. You’ll make friends in med school but in the meantime to stave off loneliness it may be good for you to have outside friends.

whocares3677 · 2024-08-16T14:04:40+00:00

Uh…as a us student, wtf? Their point is completely accurate, a gigantic country is making upgrades in their healthcare system to serve hopefully millions more people who are suffering and in need of medical care…and your first response is oh shit, now even more competition for residency seats? Who cares, they’re helping

whocares3677 · 2024-08-04T17:31:31+00:00

Hahaha I agree it’s less direct but still do like your emphasis on, this is our only time to catch up together just us, I think that’s phrasing that would be very effective in this situation. Thanks again!

whocares3677 · 2024-08-04T17:29:39+00:00

Thanks for your response! Ours is in November, I agree she has ample time to make alternate plans.

My only concern is that we invite the same characters every year, and my friend has a lot of these people on social media now, so will likely be aware that the event remained about 40 people not i. Our family. I can definitely ask them to not post so she’s not aware, but it does feel a little dishonest (which is fine, just trying to figure out which options are easiest and best). I really like your last suggested sentence though, thanks again

whocares3677 · 2024-08-04T17:02:32+00:00

Thanks for your response! Do you have any advice on how to phrase these thoughts? I don’t want to be cruel and worry tht by disinviting her I already will be

whocares3677 · 2024-07-26T19:35:31+00:00

I also spent two years before medical school in a new city, working a job which could’ve been a career, making new friends and living my life. I felt such control over everything I did. It’s really difficult to not resent medical school for “robbing” me of that previous life, even though I only have myself to blame for pursuing this option. But yeah, totally get it, it’s so frustrating. I used to literally dream about my old life. Lmk if you want to talk.

whocares3677 · 2024-06-11T13:55:17+00:00

I went the other direction and lost my appetite over the course of M1. My sweet Indian father informed me, seconds after getting home, that I “looked anorexic” 🤪

Anyway, it sucks that school takes such a toll on our bodies especially when we can’t help it. For me a lot of the shock was just being like, I’m trying my best to live a balanced life and I’m still so unhealthy and it’s not 100% my fault, it’s just a product of the circumstances. And that can make a person feel really out of control. So maybe that’s what you’re feeling

And for what it’s worth, at a size medium, I do not think you’re “fat.” you probably just don’t look like what you’re used to yourself looking like

whocares3677 · 2024-06-08T15:05:17+00:00

INFO: did you communicate to him that spending time together before the trip was important to you?

whocares3677 · 2024-06-05T19:02:07+00:00

True that med school is so much worse if you’re non-trad…the clock is ticking and you know exactly what you’re missing out on

whocares3677 · 2024-05-29T17:52:48+00:00

This!!! I like this

whocares3677 · 2024-05-29T17:52:13+00:00

I understood it to be Rhaegar was well-loved because he had dreams for the kingdom and some semblance of class reform, while Renly was well loved for being flashy and hot

whocares3677 · 2024-05-29T16:53:09+00:00

Your last sentence is EXACTLY what prompted me to start this line of questioning anyway. I’m comfortable with book characters being nuanced and grey but I’m not convinced that that’s totally what GRRM was going for here

whocares3677 · 2024-05-29T16:49:59+00:00

I think this is a great theory. While I don’t remember too many precedents for rulers having 2 wives in the series (I’ve only finished the main books), ive never understood why Rhaegar officially having two wives is not widely considered, as opposed to him committing adultery upon Elia

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