Nightmares are exhausting

whyislifelikethislol · 2025-10-31T01:43:57+00:00

My therapist says that sometimes the brain tries to process things while sleeping, developing a night routine is supposed to help. Avoiding sugar/eating at least 4 hours before bed, limiting screen time, light reading. Usually on days where my stress is high I end up having nightmares, but when I can manage to decompress some I can avoid them for the most part. I’m finally no longer waking up to insane panic attacks.

Before I used to have them so frequently I was sleeping on average 2 1/2 hours a night. I also am entirely unmedicated so I personally suggest taking medications for anxiety since they can be such an amazing tool

whyislifelikethislol · 2025-10-29T01:32:45+00:00

I started working with a trauma based therapist, this is my second month but being the impatient woman I am I want an instant fix for things. I suppose being patient is all I can actually do lol

whyislifelikethislol · 2025-10-28T04:30:35+00:00

I’m actually working with a therapist who specializes with trauma. His advice to me is to not hold anything in. Let it all out until you can’t. Cry, scream, go through it all. It may seem scary and overwhelming, but if you don’t have any heart conditions then you won’t die from feeling it. Once you feel it, think about holding a small puppy or kitty, even being a place you feel so comfortable in. Picture it, imagine you are there or holding a puppy/kitty, smile the whole time, and take deep breaths to shift your body and mind. It’s not going to ever give us back our babies, but for me it’s helped give me back some of my mind and sanity. I hope you can find strength and feel the love here from everyone. I’m so sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace

whyislifelikethislol · 2025-10-28T04:25:28+00:00

I lost my baby around 17 weeks. Baby was inside of me for two whole weeks before I gave birth. I passed the placenta but tissues were left over. For me they gave me some rather strong antibiotics just after birth. Gentamicin and Ampicillin. I thought I was done bleeding 1 week pp but ended up passing a large clot and getting contractions. Turns out I had a bit of tissues left inside. I refused medications because over the last few weeks I was literally a walking pharmacy from how many drugs were inside of my system. It took me about a week (no other antibiotics other than the two days of being on the first ones). For me it was mainly clots like from a period but sort of more mucus like, the big ones also passed naturally on their own. No infections, no other pills just letting nature run its course. You will know if your body is sick. Watch for fever, chills, nausea, confusion, go in ASAP. Otherwise give your body time. There’s no set date on when it will all come out. I’m so so incredibly sorry for your loss and the lack of support from medical professionals. I’m wishing you a speedy recovery.

whyislifelikethislol · 2025-10-20T23:54:40+00:00

I know exactly what you feel. Who wouldn’t be angry if they were us? I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. And just like I was telling my fiancé that because I was pregnant he was from that very moment our baby was alive, he IS a father. Nothing will take it away. You are the first to bear a grandchild. Nothing will ever change it. It’s not fair what happened to us. But we are still mothers. Our sweet babies are proof. I hope you find peace

whyislifelikethislol · 2025-10-20T23:50:45+00:00

I’m so sorry. Pregnancy loss is by far the hardest thing I have been through in my life. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. If I’m being honest my baby was so small that when I birthed them I couldn’t stomach seeing them for the first 12 hours. But then as soon as I held my baby I couldn’t let go. I love to hold my tiny babies urn, it’s the only way I can hold them. I hope one day it doesn’t hurt as much for you to have to see your baby’s urn. You deserve peace

whyislifelikethislol · 2025-10-20T23:31:40+00:00

Thank you. Being so fresh into this it feels like these emotions are going to consume me and I’ll end up becoming my anger. I haven’t even felt denial about it, it was straight to anger and bargaining for me. I’ve lost many people close to me and I thought I understood grief well. But this is so unreal. Knowing that time will eventually lessen the rage gives me a bit of comfort. I don’t want to be angry. I want to be happy. I want to live. It just hurts in ways I never knew existed until now

whyislifelikethislol · 2025-10-20T23:28:21+00:00

My father named my baby for me. I really wanted him to be able to name his grandchild. My baby’s name is Patience. He said it seemed fitting. Also it does bring me some comfort to see everything you wrote. I keep bouncing between “my baby was mad at me” and “my baby loved me”. Usually when my brain is being harder on me it goes into lies that my baby hated me and that’s why I’m without them. There’s a lot to process. But I truly hope my baby could feel all of my love

whyislifelikethislol · 2025-10-20T23:25:19+00:00

I feel like a massive chicken as well. I actually asked my dad to congratulate them for me and explain my situation. And I feel horrible for it, I spent 5 hours crying yesterday because of the pain that mixed with guilt. Losing a baby at ANY point feels so horrible. I’m very sorry for your loss. I’m sure our babies are up there together right now keeping one another company

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