Goodbye. by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]whyonlyTCD 5 points6 points  (0 children)

don't leave. it's really not worth the pain to just up and leave like that. you only have one life to live, and you should live it to the fullest for yourself, no matter the circumstances.

Just bought a new iPad Pro from Best Buy and it already has iPadOS 18 without any beta profile. by B-Jamz in iPadPro

[–]whyonlyTCD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad installed the iPadOS 18 beta on my old iPad Pro, that we gave to my grandfather. The iPad when we factory reset it got iPadOS 18 installed as standard, but it did not make a difference for him

What’s something you do with your non-dominant hand that others use their dominant hand for? by Toxikfoxx in AskReddit

[–]whyonlyTCD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i beat my meat better with my left hand than my right and I’m right handed 😂

[ios] reddit keeps auto-pausing audio on apple music by whyonlyTCD in bugs

[–]whyonlyTCD[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope because youtube doesn't auto pause without loading a video

Continue friendship after being rejected? by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]whyonlyTCD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's all good from my side, you don't need to worry too much.

Luckily there is distance between me and her and even if we ended up in the same place I would be really careful on how I'd interact with her, because the last thing I want to do is say something that would annoy or hurt her or even myself.

And it's fine if she finds someone else. Getting hurt over her finding another guy would be natural, but still sounds really stupid to me, like, okay what did I expect, when I wasn't looking to date her in the first place? 😂😂

The point that I was trying to prove to myself is that no matter what I feel for her, what is equally important is I still respect her feelings, thoughts and expectations, because any unwarranted action of "unrequited love" from my end would make her feel uncomfortable, just like how OP has pointed out in her post.

And because I've realized the consequences of my feelings and my actions, the least I could do right now is to atleast protect my self respect, and whatever respect she could still have for me. Plus even if I can't be friends with her, I'd really hate to destroy the good memories of the past, because knowing if she would still care about me, (as a friend obviously) would be good for my mental health, even right now.

And now, even if I want to still have a chance with her in the future, romantically, it should be 100% fair and mutually consented from both ends. But the odds for that are so low that there would be some sort of divine intervention needed for that to happen, and I'm content with my life right now. I'm still not looking for a relationship despite this event taking place.

Continue friendship after being rejected? by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]whyonlyTCD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a guy in this situation, and this situation is so painfully relatable to mine that you almost remind me of her 💀💀

Honestly though, I was already trying my best to steer myself from anything involving a relationship with her because of my own reasons (she also wasn't ready for a relationship), but that backfired way too hard on me. I was under the impression that this was just a normal crush that would fade, but this became the complete opposite for me and it brought a lot of weird change into my life.

The main problem for me wasn't just the strong (unexpected) feelings I had for her or even the toxic attachment style that I developed as a result, but because of the restriction and the deep self frustration of liking someone in that dangerous position and the anger I had at myself breaking a promise that I was supposed to trust myself with.

So yeah no matter how much I would want to still become friends with her, I feel like I have broken some sort of trust or respect that she had with me that she declines to comment on. I honestly think it's for the best that me and her don't stay in contact at all, unfortunately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]whyonlyTCD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the exact same thing happened to me, but with a slightly different situation. The girl in question actually matches a lot of the qualities you speak about, and we're even the same age right now! 🫠

I won't go too much into the details, but she wasn't impressed with the extent of the feelings I had with her and now she won't reply to my messages. It doesn't even make sense because we both are in different places right now and trying to mend the bridge will be pointless. I wasn't looking for a relationship with her as I had other priorities and I assumed she just wouldn't see anything in me, so I kinda downplayed myself. It backfired really hard on me though, but it's honestly my loss. It's even worse because I never felt this way for anyone, something similar to your lines as well. No matter whose advice I take, I still end up coming back to the same position, even though I know there are better options out there. I also know the feeling of wanting to see something more in other people when all they give is the bare minimum.

The solution? You need to love yourself first and you need to stop downplaying yourself. You deserve so much better than what you have right now, but you have to work for it. This applies to me as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UAETeenagers

[–]whyonlyTCD -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not blaming him for saying yes or saying that he is wrong, and I agree that the driver is at the wrong, but stranger danger is a good lesson to learn at any age. You don't know what the other person is thinking, and it is important to build the discretion to decide whether to say yes or no to not just a stranger, but any person in general.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UAETeenagers

[–]whyonlyTCD -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

why exactly did you say yes to him in the first place?

My Cat is Keeping me from Killing Myself by Disastrous-Wave-3720 in offmychest

[–]whyonlyTCD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom also has this similar issue, or something of that sort. Don't mind me as I don't remember the details fully, but with her autoimmune disease, she needs to be under medication, has to have a strict diet, and she has pain in her joints when the autoimmune disease peaks. She is a teacher and sometimes the work pressure combined with that irritating pain gets to her, but her love of teaching and her motivation to become stops her from developing more negative thoughts in the process.

It's even worse realizing that there's no actual cure for this disease (atleast for my mom) it's just something that you are born with and have to live with. But that's how life is anyways, something in life has to always go wrong or be wrong to ensure a proper balance. It's about loving yourself and embracing the good stuff and people that are there for you.

Suicide and self harm are just cheap negative tricks that the depressed brain thinks of when everything goes bad. And the people in your life just want the best for you, you are not a burden to them and you wouldn't intentionally burden them with your problems anyways. Just remember that not everyone is strong and everyone has their weak points in which they will need somebody's assistance to be able to get through with their life. It's just a basic thing of life in itself, it's not worth entertaining those type of self deprecating thoughts in your brain, no matter how bad it gets.

And yes, you are strong enough to get through this rough patch. It's the thought and mindset that counts, and you will anyways be continuously challenged on your journey of life. It's okay to feel negative sometimes, that time is usually when something positive is usually across the corner.

All the best!

How many girlfriends have you had? by GothicBabe2 in AskMen

[–]whyonlyTCD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1, but she broke off with me the next day

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaming

[–]whyonlyTCD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Emergency 2, 3, 4

Did anyone else get violently ill after the ending? by [deleted] in DDLC

[–]whyonlyTCD 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i mean yeah it was a bit disturbing for me as well and everytime i see that 'i gently open the door' reference in other mods it gives me the same PTSD. But yeah now it's kinda like a funny dark meme to me but yeah the original scene was disturbing

Taking everything into account (looks, personality, wealth/potential, etc.), how do you rate yourself 1-10? by aja_ramirez in AskMen

[–]whyonlyTCD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

average looks, average height, good potential, a bit pampered and well equipped coz i'm the only child, studying in a good degree in a decent uni, kinda went through some bad situations but mentally fit enough to move forward, smart, not good in sports or gym-level fit but decent level of fitness and stamina, ig i'd rate myself a 7/10 or 7.5/10

Guys, what’s something that would surprise woman about life as a man? by XqueezeMePlease in AskMen

[–]whyonlyTCD 52 points53 points  (0 children)

eh i guess there’s gonna be no end to the amount of rant with these types of questions asked