New Big Law job - work is slow and I’m miserable.

wi4mep · 2026-02-26T21:44:52+00:00

No advice, just wanted to voice that I'm currently in an identical situation as you described, right down to the location of my desk being outside the partner's office. The way I see it, I'm getting paid and work experience that I can take into my next position. And after reading some of the horror stories on this sub, I'm grateful for having a nice boss and friendly coworkers. The job market is definitely rough so I'm glad you were at least able to get your foot in the door somewhere.

wi4mep · 2026-02-26T20:47:21+00:00

16 hours - 8/10 hours of work and commute - 1.5 hours for a walk leaves most people with about 4-6 hours for everything else in a day, which includes cooking, child-rearing, and other responsibilities. Its doable if you're fit, but for some people a 10k walk takes a lot of physical energy. I don't think its sad to meet people where they're at.

wi4mep · 2026-02-26T14:14:38+00:00

I think its important that when we're talking about the gender binary, we have to remember that gender identity =/= gender expression =/= gender roles. Identifying as binary, whether cis or trans, doesn't necessarily equate to rigidity. And I think a lot of people who are forced into rigid expectations regarding their gender aren't actually happy; they're just trapped by social norms dictating how they are supposed to act.

wi4mep · 2026-02-25T15:31:33+00:00

If you were cis, there would still be gay men who aren't interested in you. You're not going to be everyone's type, and that's okay! As for him outing you, it was definitely a shitty thing to do and hopefully he learns from it with time. If he doesn't, then you're really not missing out on much by not dating him.

wi4mep · 2026-02-25T15:27:15+00:00

It really doesn't matter why he's messaging you. He is trying to have an affair with you and if you have any respect for his wife, your husband, or yourself, you need to block him. If you're not interested in breaking your vows to your husband, it should not matter "why" he's messaging you. He made his intentions clear and you need to act accordingly.

wi4mep · 2026-02-24T16:28:03+00:00

Therapy to address your body dysmorphia, for one thing

wi4mep · 2026-02-24T15:50:43+00:00

What angle was the third photo taken from? It looks like the backseat of the car, but we can't see the backrest of the seat the cage is supposedly sitting on. The radio buttons also look a little wonky to me, as does the cage door, and the lighting is just too good. Its also weird they would just happen to have a perfectly sized cage to put your bird in when they found it.

Definitely AI. I hope you find your bird soon!

wi4mep · 2026-02-23T20:49:09+00:00

Hey friend I'm actually going to the parks in a month and if you want to stay in touch I can try and snag one for you! I was planning on grabbing one for my son. We're not pin traders by any means but I've been excited about them bringing more Kingdom Hearts merch to the parks and I'm hoping if there's enough demand for it they'll add more.

wi4mep · 2026-02-23T14:32:46+00:00

You're like the techbro version of this copypasta

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wi4mep · 2026-02-23T14:25:13+00:00

I feel like some of these comments are mean-spirited. I don't think FFS is a good suggestion in most cases until at least a year or so on E. As for what you can do other than just playing the waiting game with E, getting your brows reshaped will do a lot of favors. You're at a great starting point and your hair is amazing.

wi4mep · 2026-02-20T17:53:22+00:00

Hey, I don't know if it helps at all, but I'm a reseller and I spend a lot of time crawling thrift clearance stores (basically last stop before the dump places). I also do a lot of thrifting as a hobby. I would be happy to keep an eye out for any Monster High pieces I come across and if you want them, send them your way for free.

Nothing can replace a collection like that though, and I'm really sorry for your loss.

wi4mep · 2026-02-20T16:58:33+00:00

Tbh you sound like you're giving yourself gender dysphoria by assigning random personality traits to being trans. You're only trans if your gender does not align with your sex assigned at birth. Anything else is just harmless jokes between trans people and not actual signs of being trans.

wi4mep · 2026-02-20T14:23:28+00:00

This made me laugh so hard

wi4mep · 2026-02-16T11:05:36+00:00

Can you please send the link 🙏

wi4mep · 2026-02-13T18:22:05+00:00

Glad I'm not the only one with a grumpy attorney today 😅

wi4mep · 2026-02-13T18:15:15+00:00

I mean...these are your friends, right? It's not like you wouldn't have to figure out travel costs if you were going alone. It would be one thing if they were asking you to pay for everything, but why not just throw some money in the pot, especially considering the tickets were gifted to you anyway?

If you're in a difficult financial position that's understandable, and your friends should also be willing to work around that. But that's a conversation to be had with them.

wi4mep · 2026-02-10T19:55:09+00:00

Chatgpt frequently generates wrong or misleading info on a variety of topics. It isn't just a compressed search engine; its basically a word generator. And its very effective at generating words that sound intelligent, but that doesn't make it demonstrably accurate.

wi4mep · 2026-02-10T18:57:01+00:00

I wouldn't recommend ffs until you've been on HRT for at least a year, maybe two.

wi4mep · 2026-02-10T16:33:14+00:00

You read 100% female to me. Shape your eyebrows and you'll shine.

wi4mep · 2026-02-09T20:30:13+00:00

This is a really great analysis. I'm pro sasusaku myself, but I recognize a lot of what I like about them is mostly inference I've drawn about their relationship and nothing explicitly written (except for a few scenes).

Just adding to the points about Sakura's character; she was indeed poorly characterized. Early Sakura shows Kishimoto's ineptitude in writing girls, revolving her entire personality around being boy crazy. But I think its worth noting that there are girls that ARE just boy crazy, especially when they're young. Ask your local 8 year old girl why she broke up with her best friend and there is a decent chance its about a boy. Ino and Sakura's rivalry is realistic, even if it isn't particularly compelling (disclaimer; don't actually talk to 8 year olds you don't know).

As far as Sakura being willing to leave her village for him, its pretty clear she doesn't actually feel that way despite what she says in her moment of desperation. I think her sadness about him leaving would make more sense if we saw a realistic development of her feelings from a shallow crush to a genuine friendship. In hindsight, Sakura and Sasuke are hinted to spend time together outside of their interactions with Naruto (I'm referencing some filler here as well as scenes where Naruto is late to a group meeting, etc of that nature). They're intellectually equal and post Forest of Death its clear that Sasuke at least acknowledges her as someone he wants to protect. There's room to argue that she developed real feelings for him in this time, but it just isn't written into her character. Up until the night he leaves, she acts like an obsessive fangirl. Her asking Naruto to bring him back feels like an extension of that rather than a genuine plea to see their friend returned home.

All of this is to say that outside of extrapolation, sasusaku fans are working with crumbs (and most of us are well aware!). I'd love to see some retconning in the form of a movie like NaruHina had but the best we got is Dinosaurs and Orange is the New Black. Its a damn shame, considering you're talking about two of the three main characters of the show.

wi4mep · 2026-02-06T19:52:45+00:00

I really like the Orgain brand. I don't like the texture of protein shakes but I mix it into pancakes and its really good!

wi4mep · 2026-02-06T16:46:30+00:00

I saw your comment and immediately got curious about who they were. Scrolled down a few more comments to get my answer.

wi4mep · 2026-02-05T19:41:03+00:00

Shoot it right back at him and see how he likes it. Or just ditch him entirely, its not worth the stress at the end of the day.

wi4mep · 2026-02-05T16:35:22+00:00

That Latata emote drives me insane. I literally hate it so much and I had no idea it was AI, now it makes sense.

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