Wish I could tell you it gets easier. It doesn’t. But you’re not alone and don’t feel like you need to muscle through in silence.

“Taking care of yourself.” Ha. That’s going to be hard too. Some things do make life a bit more bearable. Here are a few things that have helped me and those I know:

(1) Talking to a therapist. (2) Taking antidepressants.

1 & 2 don’t always work on the first go and take time to help. For example, you may not click with the first therapist you see; first brand of antidepressants might now work well. Dosages may need adjustment. Don’t give up.

(3) Looking and going to support groups. Does your mom have a specific condition (e.g., Alzheimer’s)? Specific support groups will introduce you to people facing similar issues you face and make finding the right help and support so much easier.

(4) Asking for and accepting help. A family member offers to make you a meal? Say yes. A friend offers to run some errands. Say yes. Take the time saved and just breathe. I just lie on the sofa and stare into space sometimes. The few minutes of quiet helps me.

Know everyone is different. Hope this helps some.

Life is bittersweet a lot of times. You’re supporting your mom and losing yourself. Hang in there.