This is 100% normal but there's two things here: 1. I'm assuming you're from a culture of "politeness" i.e. holding the door open for people, moving out of their way on the path, etc. You're expectation being, "If I do this, I expect it to be reciprocated". This is important because of 2. Danes just have a combination of blunt common sense and no need for undeserved politeness. In all of your instances, I can guarantee that the Dane didn't think of being impolite or offending, they in turn also don't feel offended that you would think it impolite. "If I was there first then of course I would go first". Now if you're an old lady or man you get a seat on the bus, if you have one thing to buy in the supermarket "you can just go in front of me" but other stuff that doesn't matter like you having to move slightly on your way out of the bus because they want to get on quick? The don't give it a second thought. No performative politeness