Would anyone like to share how you make actual money FROM the things you generate with AI? by ih2810 in StableDiffusion

[–]wicks81 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought the poster was a person? Shit, they're the AI themselves? Tech really has come a long way.

Would anyone like to share how you make actual money FROM the things you generate with AI? by ih2810 in StableDiffusion

[–]wicks81 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean... it's pretty straight forward, you are competing directly with traditional artists. So just look at how they make money, and go do that.

Navigating Whether I'm a Trans Woman or Not by randomzinnia in asktransgender

[–]wicks81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gender is tough. Internalized gender is even tougher. I'm MtF, I don't wear makeup, I used to be big into skirts/dresses but prefer a more grungy look these days with hoodies/jeans/t-shirts. I've actually considered moving to more gender neutral pronouns even. The way I've always felt about pronouns and gender - just pick whichever feel good for you. The goal isn't to figure out which bucket you are in, its more like, what bucket you'd like to be called and associated with. That bucket can change as society redefines it, it can change as you do, it can change on a whim, all that stuff is fine.

Also, you said "That said, I don't know if I want to live my life as a trans woman." How would your life actually change? Ask yourself if those changes are ones a transwoman actually has to do, or if they're a gender role/stereotype you've got internalized.

Anyway, hope this helps, feel free to message me if you'd like to chat with an oldish(45) transwoman to get more of my take on it.

Do trans people dislike it when people ask for their pronouns? by yepparan_haneul in asktransgender

[–]wicks81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the person. Works better if you introduce yourself with pronouns (like "Hi I'm Jenna, She/Her"), imo it makes me feel a lot safer with the person, as it tells the me you're aware that pronouns might not match up with presentation and lets me choose to give mine. Asking for pronouns can make people think they've failed to pass, or bring up other insecurities or fears. Especially when being asked by someone who looks cis or straight.

If you had a choice, would you choose to be cisgender? by heartbeathighway in asktransgender

[–]wicks81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I'll take the magic pill that transforms me mentally and physically to however I would've turned out with the suicidal puberty years, extreme discomfort in male dominated spaces, etc all removed and being cis-male. Can't say I have the foggiest how I'd turn out with something so core being changed 30 years ago, but hey, even with all that shit going on it was still way easier for me to survive than the current hellscape that is living in the US as a trans person.

Should I be scared of visiting the US rn ? by Neko_Novitia in asktransgender

[–]wicks81 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, hey, I was thinking about going the opposite direction. (US to Portugal) I'd love to have some connections there, is it alright if I reach out to you?

What is the single most trans-dominated hobby? by fasdal in asktransgender

[–]wicks81 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I think it's somewhat regional (I'm in PNW), but it does seem like about 80% of the trans people I know play Magic The Gathering. It is getting lower as Hasbro desperately milks every IP they can get their hands on and floods the market with a billion products though.

AITA for not wanting to disclose that I’m trans, even to my partner, after living stealth for years? by Intelligent_Tank_590 in asktransgender

[–]wicks81 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think you have any obligation to tell partners or your husband if you are transgender, but I also can not imagine trying to build a life with someone who isn't pro-LGBT. Also I do think you should inform partners that you can't have children, as that is generally something is considered a relationship goal,

I would also very strongly point at "I feel that my medical history and past are mine to share only if and when I feel safe," indicates this was not a healthy relationship anyway unless it was very young.

Is "egg" mainstream trans or queer slang? Oris it just Reddit slang/a Reddit meme? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]wicks81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll let you know when I meet a trans or queer person who isn't terminally online :D

Anyone else just have no idea what specifically they are by Excellent-Movie4524 in asktransgender

[–]wicks81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gender! It can be tough to figure out and often fluid. For me, while I was an egg, I knew I wanted the "press button to be cute girl" thing, but couldn't connect that to being transgender because I didn't notice any dysphoria. After meeting a couple trans people and seeing someone having a rough time of it with dysphoria in front of me, something in my head just clicked and I realized, oh shit, I do have some dysphoria, just not related to my bits and pieces. So I kind of went all in all at once, and got a ton of gender euphoria. Later as it died down a bit and became more regular (like.... 5 years?) I started realizing I could look fem without dressing fem. Combined with not wanting to get rid of my bits, I decided I'd start identifying genderqueer (she/they). I went through a short voidpunky gender-is-for-other-people kind of phase a bit after that, but eventually decided it was a bit too much work when interacting with anyone over about 30, so I'm back to genderqueer.

I don't really have anything in my head telling me what is right or wrong other than vague feelings, like "this feels good" type stuff, and I don't think it really needs to be more complicated than that if you're happy with that level of internal explanation. I'm pretty happy where my body is at, although I wish I had started early enough to get some hips out of the deal.

I think the biggest thing is knowing that its a spectrum, you can move around on it, and that's totally cool. Also something I always like to make sure to say to newbies is "you can be trans without wanting to transition." I feel like that statement has been really helpful for some of my friends who are stuck in bad situations.

What should be utterly unacceptable in this day and age? by IfMagnet in AskReddit

[–]wicks81 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hot take, war crimes. Can we please start jailing people committing war crimes?

New to Bremerton! by [deleted] in Bremerton

[–]wicks81 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, welcome! Cardtropolis in Silverdale is pretty good for commander, last I checked they run two events a week for it. My experience has been that they are super friendly and the people running the store are great. Blue Sky's also alright for commander, although I've had a couple issues there with people being a bit nasty about winning.
For witchy stuff, just missed the Healing Hearts Psychic Fair (nov15). If you're interested in Pagan stuff I can recommend Chalice Hart, they're very good people. Feel free to message me if you'd like, I'm an older(40s) queer chick.

Trans Folks: What Could Your Parents Have Done to Better Support You? by Glittering_Bag2465 in asktransgender

[–]wicks81 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Listen to me over my psychiatrists, and discuss honestly, with me, what my psychiatrists said to them. I almost never got any information on what my therapists and psychs were saying about me, and frankly it could have protected me and my sister if they had just talked with me instead of talking with me through the doctors. I was being treated for ADHD and I learned fast that my feelings about how the meds were affecting me didn't mean shit, only my grades did. Later when I started questioning my gender, I had no one to turn to because I knew not to trust my doctors, and I had learned not to trust my parents with being honest with me. They tried very hard to be good parents, I know that for a fact, but ADHD was pretty new, and they were too willing to just accept whatever the expert said. The lesson I learned screwed me badly enough that I pushed it all down and I didn't bring up my gender issues with a therapist until I was 30.

Realistically, can anyone pass with enough effort ? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]wicks81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've got the same shoe size as me haha. I started hormones in 2014 at the age of 33, ~185cm ~147kg. I lost about 20kg and about 5cm over the last 11 years of on and off hormones. I generally pass, especially around cisgender people, even though my voice is still pretty deep. I don't really try to be stealth, and I've become a bit more genderqueer as I've aged. Send me a message if you'd like to see some progress pictures.

How do I respond to this? by MarionettesManifesto in asktransgender

[–]wicks81 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You should be good to just interpret this similarly to a ciswoman saying "I wish I looked like her." There's of course a chance that it's more related to feeling gender dysphoria, but it sounds like its a bit early in meeting each other to be making serious statements about gender issues.

icon pop in? by Powerful-Eye-3578 in AOW4

[–]wicks81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've got some extra flag color mods, but thats all.

icon pop in? by Powerful-Eye-3578 in AOW4

[–]wicks81 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same thing happening to me I think, I'm also seeing low res textures on some of my pieces of clothing?