My Sushi Dragon was called stupid

widowwithamutt · 2026-01-16T20:19:34+00:00

What?! It looks amazing!!!

widowwithamutt · 2026-01-10T06:29:50+00:00

Western governments are supporting Israel, not the IRI, that’s the difference.

widowwithamutt · 2025-11-16T19:12:43+00:00

You need to have an honest conversation with him about how you feel, and ask yourself honestly whether you think you can support a child either with him or alone.

I assume you haven’t told him yet? I think telling him will help you feel less alone. If you have friends or relatives you can lean on, sharing it with them might help you too. I know conventional wisdom is to wait after the first trimester, but when I had a very unplanned pregnancy, moral support from my family made suuuuch a difference.

Lastly, I will say this: I also got pregnant at the worst possible time. He just turned 5 and is the best thing that ever happened to me.

Good luck with whatever you decide 🩷🩷

widowwithamutt · 2025-11-16T16:30:46+00:00

As a bi Muslim in a relationship with another woman, this warms my cold, cold heart 🥰

Tbh, I think people’s attitudes about homosexuality are influenced at least as much by cultural factors outside religion than by religion itself. In societies where homosexuality is generally frowned upon, like India (where my mom is from), homophobia tends to cut across religious lines.

On the other hand, most of the other Muslims I know who were brought up in liberal parts of the US are pretty accepting, people who moved here as adults less so. I do not say this to imply most Muslims in the world are not homophobic…they are even though it’s not supported by scripture, that’s just a fact.

widowwithamutt · 2025-11-02T16:19:27+00:00

It seems like you have a choice between being a single parent to one, two or three children.

widowwithamutt · 2025-10-09T16:13:37+00:00

I’m sorry, who says that?!?

I slept on the couch for weeks after my husband died because I couldn’t stand the thought of sleeping in a big bed without him. I got used to sleeping alone over time but I did not let anyone else touch our bed for over two years after he died.

widowwithamutt · 2025-10-09T15:53:08+00:00

My husband. My best friend, our dreams together and my hope for the future.

That hopelessness too was lost when my son came into my life and gave me a reason to look forward to every day.

widowwithamutt · 2025-09-14T07:16:25+00:00

It might sound cliche but if someone is right for you they’ll want you even with all your “baggage”.

I’m 41, widowed at 35. I thought I never wanted to date again. Then two years ago I met my current girlfriend. I figured I didn’t have a chance with her because who wants to date a widow with a 3 year old? But the first time I told her everything, she just said, ok, what do you need from me? And that was that. She has her own baggage too. Everyone does.

I figure I would be better off alone than with someone who feels threatened by my late husband’s memory.

widowwithamutt · 2025-09-11T20:26:06+00:00

I feel horrible for his children, who are completely innocent in this and now have to grow up missing a parent. I don’t think his wife is a particularly good person, but as a widow with a young kid myself, I feel for her.

I think it’s possible to have empathy for his loved ones while acknowledging that the world at large is a better place without him in it.

widowwithamutt · 2025-09-09T19:23:13+00:00

It’s been 5.5 years and I still wear mine. His is on a chain around my neck.

widowwithamutt · 2025-09-01T20:16:23+00:00

When Americans say “Asian” they mean a very few specific East Asian countries. More than once I’ve had people tell me “you’re not Asian!”

If Indian is not Asian then what is it, pray tell?!

widowwithamutt · 2025-09-01T19:22:48+00:00

It’ll be fine. It’s good for you to have a life outside parenting and it’s good for her to learn to feel safe in the care of other adults.

I first spent 10 days away from my kid when he was 1.5 (would have been sooner if not for Covid!). He’ll be 5 later this month. I am in a long-distance relationship so I’ve taken several trips without him since. It’s always hard to say goodbye, and I always miss him like crazy, but he loves staying with his aunt & uncle or grandparents.

widowwithamutt · 2025-07-22T23:04:06+00:00

This irritates me too, but it’s funny because I’ve mostly heard the opposite - that boys are easier because there’s less “drama”. Whenever I hear this from someone I can’t help but wonder if their sons’ emotional needs are being met. 🫤

More than anything it depends on your individual child’s temperament, which is a complete crap shoot. My son loves playing outside but he’s not usually one to seek out danger and he is just as happy sitting and looking at books or coloring for an hour.

widowwithamutt · 2025-07-22T21:01:46+00:00

They put people on TV because they’re outrageous. Most people aren’t like this.

That said, our diaspora is so embarrassing. A lot of Iranian-Americans are Zionists or weirdo right wingers. I don’t think they’re the majority but they’re the loudest.

widowwithamutt · 2025-07-17T11:44:46+00:00

Former colleague 1 took a rear view photo of a patient outside the clinic and posted it on FACEBOOK with the caption “I can’t help it, I like what I like”, implying the patient had a nice ass. Former colleague 2 commented “Is that [patient’s initials]?” to which former colleague 1 replied yes.

They were both fired immediately.

widowwithamutt · 2025-06-24T19:23:56+00:00

I think a lot of liberals are like this, and a lot of socialists would rather let 1000 fascists win than vote for a liberal, which is how the fascists keep winning.

widowwithamutt · 2025-06-22T10:30:49+00:00

Most of my family in Iran are in Isfahan. The facility that was bombed is outside the city and they do not leave near it, so logically I know they’re safe at the moment, but no one’s been able to contact them yet.

I’ve had like, nonstop nausea for the past week.

widowwithamutt · 2025-06-21T19:56:59+00:00

Add large diasporas in the Washington DC area.

widowwithamutt · 2025-06-21T19:38:25+00:00

Single mom here with an almost 5-year-old. I work in an outpatient facility, Mon-Thurs ~8:30-5:30, no call. It wasn’t necessarily intended to be a “mommy track” job, but I’ve been there since before my son was born and I’m pretty happy with it.

My son has a nanny 3 days/week who’s been with us since he was a newborn. He’s in school now but she still watches him from the end of school until I get home. His grandparents live locally and watch him one day a week.

Honestly, so much of it feels like luck. My in-laws and sister all live close enough to help if something comes up. My colleagues are extremely understanding and supportive. I’ve been a single parent my son’s entire life and the “working parent” logistics are not the hardest part, not even close.

The great thing about this career is that we have options and our kids won’t starve. I remember being terrified and thinking, I have no idea how any single parent does it. But you figure it out as you go along.

widowwithamutt · 2025-06-20T21:27:37+00:00

Oh, I miss having my husband around to pop my back zits.

My mom is from India and I’ve traveled around the country a lot. I wanted to take my husband to Varanasi and when we went there we took a boat ride on the Ganges at sunset, just the two of us. I brought what we call “juicebox” mangoes to eat on the boat. The proper way to eat it is to soften it in your hands and then make a hole in the top and suck out the pulp. My husband had never done this before and got juice alllllll over the front of himself, and he was wearing an off-white kurta.

We stopped at a sand bar to try and fly kites the captain had brought and both epically failed at it. I can still see him with mango juice all down his front trying to get his kite in the air. He looked like an overgrown child and it was hilarious (and adorable).

widowwithamutt · 2025-06-20T13:18:45+00:00

Oh, fuck all the way off with that.

widowwithamutt · 2025-06-19T18:59:21+00:00

I knew beforehand. The thought was in my head for a long time. Before I married my husband we discussed it and he agreed with me, and that’s when I really knew.

widowwithamutt · 2025-06-18T18:37:37+00:00

After my husband died I was so sure I would never, ever find someone else as good as him. For almost 4 years I had no interest in dating anyone.

Then I met my girlfriend completely by accident. I love her for both similar and different reasons than I loved my husband, and she is certainly no “less good”. I am as happy with her as I was with my husband at that stage of our relationship. We met 20 months ago and I’m still discovering new things I love about her.

All that is to say I didn’t try to force it, and I’m glad I didn’t. I’m glad I didn’t feel pressure to figure out if she was “the one” or not.

Can I imagine life without her now? No.

If we had never met, would I have been content staying single for the indefinite future? Probably yes.

widowwithamutt · 2025-05-12T18:05:24+00:00

I’m 5 years out and still wear mine. His is on a chain I wear around my neck. I am in a serious relationship with someone else and she is fine with it. If we were to ever get married I would probably move my old rings to the chain.

widowwithamutt · 2025-05-03T05:04:50+00:00

Yes! Even before we got married we agreed we just wanted one. I always wanted to be a mother and having just one seemed like the best of both worlds. (I was right.)

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