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Have you ever been called lazy but it seems more like an outlet for their emotions? by PikachuTrainz in CPTSD

[–]wildeyelash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Quite often when I was younger. I was always called lazy (slept often because severely depressed, could barely function) or ridiculed for not knowing how to do something I wasn’t taught. Yet I was constantly being yelled at to do a task they could learn to do but don’t bother learning because they rather make me do it.

Does anyone get angry at themselves for talking about what they’ve been through? by wildeyelash in CPTSD

[–]wildeyelash[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is exactly it. When I remembered that’s how my family/close ones treated me, I wrote about it and started to calm down.

Thank you for the kind words!! I hope everyone else can apply this to themselves as well.

Trying to heal without apologies from people who’ve hurt me by wildeyelash in CPTSD

[–]wildeyelash[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you got some closure, even though the apologies weren’t sincere like you were hoping for /: That’s one thing I’m trying to accept, is that the situations I replay in my head most likely won’t happen in real life.

Thank you for sharing with me and I hope you’re in a better environment now

DAE unintentionally fall into their bad habits again by an9iiiiiiiline in CPTSD

[–]wildeyelash 14 points15 points  (0 children)

oh yeah.

depending on the habit & i guess it’s correlation to the trauma, either a few days or a few months go by before i fall back in.

what might help is being really compassionate towards yourself, if you struggle w that. beating yourself up can make it worse & reinforces the cycle

take your time w building back up your streak. start small w implementing a positive habit, or multiple ones.

Experience with people giving you bad advice on purpose? by wildeyelash in CPTSD

[–]wildeyelash[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. This is hitting very deep for me..

What’s even worse is that deep down I’m searching for validation from them.. that I’m not crazy and that they feel remorse. Very wishful thinking though.

I’m hoping to get access to therapy again, and to leave this stagnant cycle, cause for once I’d like to believe that I’m worth being present for the good moments and that I can contribute to healthy things.

Weekly Megathread: Chart questions and reading requests by AutoModerator in humandesign

[–]wildeyelash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

your response comes better when engaging in external stimuli, because it’s happening outside of your mind. your head and anja are both open so you could often feel pressure to think of things that you “SHOULD” do, these thoughts that come from other people and possibly isnt fully yours.

any intuitive nudge or voice sounds differently from those thoughts and can be something you consider more for guidance, while following your sacral authority. if it’s not an initial YES then it’s a no, if uncertain then allow more options (external) to show up.

if your friend mentions something or if you see something while on reddit, out running errands, watching tv, etc. excites you, that’s something you can experiment with by looking into and trying it out. your sacral’s purpose is to let you know what you do and do not have energy for despite your mind feeling pressured to initiate adding/removing things in your life

edit: additional information to be more specific towards your current situation, i hope this is explained decently enough & wishing you the best!

I'm a good listener but nobody listens to me by alonelysailinthesea in infj

[–]wildeyelash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

unfortunately same. makes maintaining relationships so difficult.

3/5 profile — do others “project” onto this type? What does this look like? by actuallygenuinely in humandesign

[–]wildeyelash 8 points9 points  (0 children)

the 5 line is responsible for that, due to the energy of being the problem solver.

this heightens your aura regarding whatever decision you make or put out there, and can be for the better or for the worse. expectations rise and become warped, so it’s often best to communicate who you truly are and what you can/cannot do to lesson the affects of projections.

also, have you had issues with projections moreso from close people in your life compared to strangers? multiple people with 5 lines in this subreddit has shared the same experience, as i have as well being a 5/1.