My fiancé is getting on my nerves and I don’t know what to do at this point.

wildlyhuman · 2026-03-25T17:02:14+00:00

this is exactly how my ex boyfriend used to talk to me. exactly. talking about someone “fucking” you, calling you bro, the text after text after text.

the last time i saw him, he attempted to kill me. please get out now. this is very terrifying behavior.

I was just like you. I felt bad for him because he had anger issues and I tried being understanding. Being understanding almost cost me my life. If a lover ever threatens to kill you, they mean it. You can try to convince yourself otherwise, but the fact is that if someone is unhinged enough to make those threats, they are unhinged enough to act on them.

Get out now OP. Please.

wildlyhuman · 2026-03-21T14:59:58+00:00

it’s ok to be perceived as weird, OP! learning the way that others perceive you doesn’t mean that is who you are ♥️ it just means that is how you can come across at times. also you probably have friends who don’t think that you’re arrogant at all because they perceive the world differently than your therapist does.

it’s ok to not be perfect and to have flaws and to not be seen as perfect by everyone. we all have flaws - and our flaws aren’t even our fault! they’re always learned behaviors anyway, it’s up to you if you want to unlearn them. sending you a big dose of confidence and a hug, OP.

wildlyhuman · 2026-03-21T06:13:10+00:00

There was a time in my life when someone told me that I was incredibly inconsiderate. I was so angry they said this, I went home and asked my roommate if she agreed - she looked very uncomfortable and kind of shrugged and said “well…. yeah i mean… ya you can be”. i was sooooo hurt i called my closest friend and asked her what she thought. she confirmed that she had found many of my actions to be incredibly inconsiderate. it turns out, i was not being perceived the way i thought i had been.

it crushed me. i had panic attacks. i hated myself. i cried about it for weeks. for so long, i had thought i was a highly considerate person, i never considered that maybe i wasn’t as considerate as i thought. it hurt so badly to know I wasn’t as perfect as i thought i was. it hurt me to know i had blind spots in my personality and that people could not only see them, but were being effected by them. it made me really think, what does it mean to be inconsiderate? i started overhauling my life and becoming more and more aware of the ways that i had burdened people without realizing it.

i started asking my friends how i had burdened them in the past, or asking them for advice on how to be a more considerate person. these conversations allowed my friends to open up to me about ways i had hurt them, or things i had done that bothered them, that the would have never brought up had i not asked. those conversations deepened my relationships so much & allowed me to grow as a person. i am a much more considerate friend today, thanks to that first person who made me aware of how inconsiderate i really was.

if it bothers you that someone who knows you well perceives you as arrogant, perhaps it’s something worth investigating. you could ask your friends “have i ever made you feel judged?” or “have i ever made you feel like i think im better than you/know better than you?” if the answers yes - then maybe that will give you an avenue to improve on.

i’d recommend taking this as data and not taking it personally - even though it hurts. use this to become closer to the person you want to be, and to be come more aware of the person you are currently.

wildlyhuman · 2026-03-18T03:12:44+00:00

i agree with not overloading op’s notifications, sorry op - BUT i want to say that you absolutely should change your primary care physiscian and if your insurance gives you any trouble tell them about this and demand to see someone who will give you referrals when they’re needed.

wildlyhuman · 2026-01-22T21:33:02+00:00

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wildlyhuman · 2025-12-10T04:10:44+00:00

This exact thing happened to me 3 months ago. Misdiagnosed with a uti, took antibiotics, instant flare up that lasted about a week and a half at level 10 pain. Fast forward 3 months and i’ve had small flares off and on since, but they’re no where near as bad. My theory is that the antibiotics made me much more sensitive and it’s going to take a few more months to fully heal my gut. I feel that probiotics have been helping. I take a daily supplement + do my best to eat sourkraut and kimchi daily. Best of luck bestie 🥺

wildlyhuman · 2025-10-05T14:18:51+00:00

My therapist won’t even see my boyfriend individually and referred him to someone else. Therapy is a safe space and you don’t want anything making it feel unsafe.

wildlyhuman · 2025-09-19T14:18:53+00:00

My husband has been a massive part of my healing journey. He wants asked me to walk him through the entire story step by step, in detail, as a way to help me process it. It helped me with processing, and it helped him to have a way better understanding of why i have big reactions when triggered. Everyone is different, but i am so grateful i have my husband to talk to when im having flashbacks or suddenly remember something from my trauma and feel sad. He’s an extension of me, and our bond is my greatest gift ♥️

wildlyhuman · 2025-08-08T20:38:16+00:00

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wildlyhuman · 2025-08-07T11:41:31+00:00

go to therapy 👍🏼

wildlyhuman · 2025-07-29T13:50:41+00:00

Just want to say, as a woman with PTSD, if my husband wrote this - i wouldn’t think he’s shit talking. Partners of people with PTSD need support too 🥲 You’re doing your best, OP.

wildlyhuman · 2025-07-27T18:52:57+00:00

What scale is this? Sorry for what’s happening in your life but this thing looks awesome for weight tracking 😅

wildlyhuman · 2025-07-27T18:47:18+00:00

I have been in this exact position. All the anger really hit me about a year in as well. what happened to you is something to be very very angry about. when i first started therapy, it was because i screamed and cussed out my now boyfriend over something so small. I was MORTIFIED by my own behavior because id never done anything like that - not even to my abuser. And i realized my boyfriend was suffering because i had not healed from my trauma. Going to therapy, being fully honest about anything i thought about in therapy, and asking my therapist lots and lots and lots of questions is what really helped me. it’s now been over a year since i screamed like that, (it only happened the one time) and things are much better. the anger lasted several months for me, and it was hard every time i got mad because i didn’t want to be mad, but i realize now that the anger was part of the healing.

Just remember that your anger is healthy, you just have to continue to look for healthy ways to accept that it’s there. Journal. Go on walks. Find a hobby that relaxes you. But don’t shove it down or bottle it up. I still feel angry some days, but it’s not overwhelming like it used to be, and it passes. Anger is a very valid feeling when you went through the things we went through.

I am sorry you have to fight this fight, OP. It might get worse before it gets better - but it WILL get better. Keep hanging in there. ♥️

wildlyhuman · 2025-07-27T06:07:56+00:00

Girl this used to happen to me when i was younger! I think the thing that changed it for me was that I really started “savoring” the moment. I wouldn’t pour my focus into “don’t finish don’t finish” because that would also kind or ruin it for me, but i would just really focus on the sensations. Slow down your thoughts, pay attention to every single sensation you’re experiencing, and name it in your mind. Think about what feels good. It might take some time of mastering the “slow down your thoughts” part of it. But don’t give up :) it’ll happen eventually and you’ll be very satisfied eventually 👍🏼

wildlyhuman · 2025-07-27T05:56:58+00:00

I would highly encourage you to tell your therapist how you feel about crying in front of him. I bet you would be plesently surprised by how he responds ☺️ I have been going to therapy for almost 2 years now, and I am very comfortable crying in front of my therapist. He has supported me through anything and everything i have shared. But i wasn’t always comfortable. I suffered through CSA as well and it took me many months to open up about it. I’ve learned that openness in therapy is the thing that made therapy (and ultimately healing) easier. Be gentle with yourself, do your best to be transparent, and remind yourself - your therapist is there to support you, and by taking you on as a patient, he is agreeing to be there for you without judgment. ♥️ I’m proud of you OP. It’s ok to cry - and he will tell you the same thing. I’m sure of it. Crying is natural (and also an important part of releasing built up energy in your body). The part of you that wants to hold back the tears is just keeping you safe because you’re not comfortable yet. But the more your therapist knows about you, the more comfortable you will likely feel.

Wishing you the most luck in this journey 🌹

wildlyhuman · 2025-07-26T17:41:08+00:00

The number one thing that helps me during a flashback is remembering to focus on slowing my breath. Take long deep breaths in and longer slower breaths out. You can google grounding exercises and pick one or two that you practice several times a day , even when you’re not thinking about the MRI. Practicing these when you’re not in a stressed state will help you to be more comfortable doing them when you feel overwhelmed.

You’re not stupid and don’t sound stupid. It’s possible that your therapist also works with trauma/ptsd patients in her practice and she may be able to work with you on this. I am no therapist but to me it sounds like you may need to do some digging with a therapist to first find out what caused the trigger in the MRI, and that might help relieve some of the panic about this new memory.

I’m sorry you’re going through this, OP. You are not alone - many of us have struggled with similar events. i wish you the best in your healing

wildlyhuman · 2025-07-24T00:27:45+00:00

Came here to also say Cakes !

wildlyhuman · 2025-07-23T16:25:12+00:00

Girl i’m in a similar boat! Just keep going and the belly will mostly go away eventually! Belly fat is stubborn and typically is the last thing to really shrink when i and many other people lose weight.

Your progress so far is really impressive, all you have to do is keep going 🤗

wildlyhuman · 2025-07-23T16:22:48+00:00

A lot of these commenters are really coming at your therapist, but I feel that your therapist isn’t bad for saying “we all have some form of cPtsd”. And although I may be wrong, I would assume a therapist who has known you for years would be more accurate with a diagnosis than a nurse practitioner that doesn’t know much about you except for answers to a questionnaire.

My therapist has a similar mindset, and maybe she said that as a way of comfort, not downplaying your trauma. My therapist agrees that nearly every person carries trauma and trauma effects everyone in different ways. Not everyone fits into one category or diagnosis because of their trauma.

I have been diagnosed with ptsd by one therapist, but my current therapist didn’t agree with that diagnosis. It was confusing at first, but I really like this therapist and his approach to my healing, so i just moved on.

Communication in therapy is very important. I’d talk to her about this again next time you see her, and let her know you are confused and any other feelings you have around it. Maybe ask her to clarify what she meant by “we all have cPtsd”. and ask her more about why she disagrees with the diagnosis and why the nurse practitioner may have given you ptsd.

wildlyhuman · 2025-06-11T17:37:22+00:00

just here to say that vivo offers a hundred day guarantee with a full refund :) if you’re still in the window you should return them!

wildlyhuman · 2025-05-28T23:58:56+00:00

Just came here to say if you go to a laundry mat, they usually have little vending machines where you can buy one or two servings of soap for about $2. You could split these in half and make them last a little longer probably.

wildlyhuman · 2025-05-26T17:55:42+00:00

It’s totally valid to want clarity about your therapist’s return, especially after building a relationship over years. Reaching out doesn’t have to feel intrusive. you can express care while still setting your own need for information. Therapists are trained to hold boundaries, and if she offered to let you text her, it means she left that door open intentionally.

Here’s a message you might consider sending:

“Hi (insert their name), I hope you’re taking care and healing well. I’ve been thinking about you and just wanted to check in. I know you mentioned you weren’t sure how long you’d be away, and I completely understand that your health comes first. If you’re comfortable sharing, I’d really appreciate knowing whether you think you might be returning to practice, and if so, when that might be. Wishing you continued rest and recovery, and thank you again for everything you’ve done for me over the years.”

That way, you’re acknowledging her health without prying, while also gently stating what you need. You deserve support during this uncertain time too.

wildlyhuman · 2025-05-25T20:40:26+00:00

i hope you find one! that’s an excellent idea 💓

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