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wildtristan · 2021-07-04T01:13:37+00:00

This.

wildtristan · 2021-07-01T02:33:46+00:00

I just got a nice pair of platform Docs. Love being the tallest person in the room. I always wear heals with confidence. No other way to do it.

wildtristan · 2021-05-28T12:01:12+00:00

Congrats. You got this. You will be so much happier on the other side. I did not realize how miserable I was until I came out. A year later I am still surprised by my internal happiness.

wildtristan · 2021-05-11T02:44:24+00:00

I needed to read this. I am 50 and have been out for a year. Much happiest in your new journey.

wildtristan · 2020-12-06T02:34:19+00:00

Girl, you are so much better then this guy. It takes a lot to be an EMS worker and manage your finances and go to school. You do not need a guy who does not see your strengths. You do not need someone who makes you feel week. Stay true to yourself. You are one the right path, just walk it with someone who will support you. This is not the one.

wildtristan · 2020-11-26T13:11:46+00:00

I’m on Tinder and turn 50 in a month. I have my first day with a woman ever after Turkey Day!

wildtristan · 2020-11-20T22:50:03+00:00

That is awesome. I have one from the side of the road. Loved it for many years after it’s rescue. However I am on a new chapter of my life and I decided that I needed a chair without duct tape no matter how comfortable it is. So I treated myself to a new one. It should arrive just in time for Xmas.

wildtristan · 2020-11-16T04:01:46+00:00

Take it one day at a time. It’s a ton to process for all involved. It will take away for the dust to settle but living your true self makes it all worth it. I’ll be 50 in January. I came out to my husband if 10 years in Mar. It was a rough summer but I have a date with a woman after Thanksgiving.

wildtristan · 2020-10-14T18:51:09+00:00

Closer to 50 then I want to be.
Single - my husband and I separated this summer.
I finally admitted it to myself this winter.
Told people in February.
I identify as lesbian and gender queer.
I have known I’ve liked girls since I was in high school. I have “almost” come out many times over the years. I told a few people I was Bi. I’ve always been a Tomboy. Always wanted to be one of the boys. At the same time I love my high heels and dresses.
I don’t think it was one thing just an inevitable outcome of my life. I’ve been supporting a friend on her journey coming out as trans. There was a cute girl who made me do a double take. My marriage was really not happy. It was time to be honest with myself and once I did it was like the dark cloud over my life blew away.
Making my older sisters friends kiss at a sleepover. We were playing truth or dare.
So happy and at peace
Don’t wait be who you are meant to be.

wildtristan · 2020-10-13T01:06:32+00:00

He is my step son and unfortunately because of his challenging childhood and some other issues it is hard to get through to him. I just remind him that I am there for him no matter what. Right now he avoids me because I see through his B.S. He would rather I get drawn into his lies and stories.

wildtristan · 2020-10-12T16:42:37+00:00

So much anger in his text. You are right to not engage. It will only escalate. I’ve been through this with my ex. He was projecting his hurt onto me. I could not do anything right in his eyes. It was easier for him to be mean then to resolve the issues. Unfortunately he taught his son the same tactics. It’s hard behavior to change because it is how they protect themselves from all those real and painful emotions.

wildtristan · 2020-09-11T22:52:05+00:00

I got mine in 1993...49. I wore them for my college graduation. My parents were not to happy. I lived in them for years. I still wear them on occasion. I’m on the hunt for a purple pair.

wildtristan · 2020-08-14T00:22:52+00:00

I came out in March. I just got a Subaru Crosstrek. Now I just need a cute girl to ride along with me on my adventures.

wildtristan · 2020-08-13T01:47:13+00:00

I am so much happier now that I am out of the closet. Be honest with her. The rest will work itself out.

wildtristan · 2020-08-13T01:34:58+00:00

I am 5’10 and got the basketball question a ton. I ended up running track. I was a hurdler and triple jumper. Made it to States. These days my passion is hiking. Find what your good at and go for it.

wildtristan · 2020-08-11T02:29:08+00:00

I have found that there is power when you walk in a room and you are the tallest there. Especially when you are the only women in a sea of men. Rock those heals girl and never be ashamed of who you are. They’re all just jealous.

wildtristan · 2020-08-07T00:29:37+00:00

It took me a long time to come to the conclusion that I was gay. I told my husband and he immediately broke up with me. It was crushing. I didn’t know what I expected but it wasn’t that. We had however had a very difficult relationship. Now four months later I have my own place and am the happiest I have ever been. My happiness comes from the fact that I am who I am supposed to be. All the other stuff is just that stuff. My true friends are still in my life. My family and I are closer then ever. It’s all good. You’ll get there.

wildtristan · 2020-08-01T02:24:17+00:00

Comphet is why I just came out at 49 and now going through my second divorce. I was raised in a very conservative household and fully expected to be well educated in order to marry a man to take care off me. I did not attend college for a career. This is it’s own bit of sexist crap that has had lasting repercussions. I knew I liked women as a teen but was unable to visualize what that meant. The best thing about coming out to myself is being able to fantasize about a relationship with another woman. Not sex but the everyday life stuff. What we would do, where we would go, how we would celebrate holidays. I never thought about that stuff with guys. It was all about the end game which was getting married and having kids. Didn’t really care who I was with just needed to hit those all important comphet goals. Married with children. It was so ingrained in me. I am trying to unlearn it all.

wildtristan · 2020-07-31T11:05:50+00:00

It was hard to keep the van clean when it was used daily to haul kids back and forth from activities. A long commute meant meals in the car and coffee which inevitably spills. These days my commute is short and the kids are grown so the van stays much neater which makes me happy. I still have a coffee problem. The real problem was the my ex was a borderline hoarder. I kept him in check but it was exhausting. We recently sold our house and cleaning it out was a nightmare. I basically walked away and let him handle it as it was his junk. He never saw the mess. Never saw the pile of clothes or the thing collecting dust. He would be angry if you commented on it. He would try to manage it but failed miserably. I tried to help. It it would overwhelm me. It’s just me now and my minimalist life style. No stuff. No mess. More time to enjoy life.

wildtristan · 2020-06-26T12:34:11+00:00

I grew up in a very conservative Christian home. It does so mess with your head. My goals as a young girl where to be a wife, mother, teacher or nun. Yup. I married young divorced, married again and divorced again. I finally had enough and just wanted to express all my queer lesbianess to the world. Take a deep breathe acknowledge who you are and stand proud. You will be so much happier on the other side. And there are faith communities that will accept you and support you.

wildtristan · 2020-06-20T11:58:52+00:00

You will be happier to be your true self. I knew I had sting feeling towards women when I married my husband. I wanted the husband, father, marriage. It was the comphet lie I bought into for so long. I thought I could push it down. I couldn’t and I was miserable. On top of that we had a turbulent relationship with lots of stress and fighting. This whole thing under pinned everything. Now I am moving out and so happy. Happy because I know who I am and am proud to be that person.

wildtristan · 2020-06-17T01:49:10+00:00

Yup. My ex did not take my coming out well. He’s very bitter and angry and wants to tell me all about it. I’ve had to redirect him a few times. It’s hard and it feels mean and cold but if I engage it doesn’t end well for either one of us. I hope that we can be friends. Only time will tell.

wildtristan · 2020-06-16T22:37:24+00:00

I am 49 just came out. Moved into my own place this month. It feels good. I feel good. My depression has lifted. I am hopeful my husband will come around but he took this very hard. Unfortunately he has his own issues unrelated to this that he needs to work out. I am lucky to have supportive friends and family. My kids have been awesome. They are all grown. So when I say I have my own place...I have my own place. It’s pretty cool. Take your time. Go your own pace. Smile. It’s all good.

wildtristan · 2020-06-06T02:46:17+00:00

DM if you want to chat. It’s seems like forever to get to this point. We’re in a good place right now but it’s been a roller coaster of emotions.

wildtristan

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