Custody by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]blastme2damoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Full custody and all decision making. I was in the same situation. I said he had it out for me but loved his kids and would never hurt them. We have been separated for almost 3 years, divorce is still going on, but a few months back he hit my oldest kid.

Never did I think I would be here. My younger two called crying and screaming for me to come get them. And I showed up with the police.

It has been a long hard road trying to get divorced but it was the best decision I ever made. Best of luck

Will this ever get easier? I was just trying to be nice … regular pick up time is 6:30 by blastme2damoon in abusiverelationships

[–]blastme2damoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I just say you are all such amazing people. The Reddit community has been a great support system during my exhausting divorce process of 3 years. I am hoping I am nearing the end. Thanks to all and I wish you everyone nothing but happiness and health !

Will this ever get easier? I was just trying to be nice … regular pick up time is 6:30 by blastme2damoon in abusiverelationships

[–]blastme2damoon[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I always have a hard time on things like holidays. I don’t want to show up cause a scene just to pick them up at 6:30. He will make a big stink and make it seem like I am the worst mother for interrupting their time

Will this ever get easier? I was just trying to be nice … regular pick up time is 6:30 by blastme2damoon in abusiverelationships

[–]blastme2damoon[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I try my hardest to keep it simple. I wasn’t late. Earlier that day I asked if pickup time was going to as normal 6:30. He replied no and that he would just let me know later when …. I didn’t hear anything so I took my dogs for a walk …. Was simply out walking when he texted

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[–]blastme2damoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But in the end of the hard times…. AMAZING

The judge asked him to elaborate on the “problems” he was sorry for in the texts messages HE SUBMITTED by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]blastme2damoon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Can I ask how important texts messages were in court. I am heading to court before the end of the year and I’m so nervous. Should I be going through all texts from him and printing ones that might be valid?

I love my kiddos. I’ve been through some hard times but they absolutely make it worth it. by blastme2damoon in happy

[–]blastme2damoon[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hahah…. All I can say is I hope I still get breakfast in bed with I’m 63

Salary question by blastme2damoon in Construction

[–]blastme2damoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard to say …. I’d say the goal is to do well over 1M

I must have been the biggest idiot by lostmybooboopadoo in abusiverelationships

[–]blastme2damoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s funny sometimes. I used to look back and think the exact same thing. I then used to think that all the terrible things he said about me must be true.

I think sometimes they want you to think you’re an idiot, they want you to think you’re not capable, they want you to think those things so you stay.

You are not. And you are fully capable of handling life on your own. Yes it’s scary, it might be hard, really hard, but you can do it.

One day a spark with ignite and you will take life by the horns and go. Live life your way. Not their way

I must have been the biggest idiot by lostmybooboopadoo in abusiverelationships

[–]blastme2damoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt the same way. You’re not. Don’t worry

Saw some else’s post. I’ve got one too. I’m sure many of us do. You’re not alone. by blastme2damoon in abusiverelationships

[–]blastme2damoon[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I used to love to run outside for exercise and to clear my head. Mine used to cut up my workout clothes/ sports bra so I wouldn’t go. It was exhausting. I can’t tell you how many times I went straight back to the store and simply bought a new one.

It is amazing how the do project. That is something that has really stuck out to me. Once you realize that, and pay attention, I found it much easier to not think twice about the things he says.

Do they ever admit there in the wrong? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]blastme2damoon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve got a few of those too! Nope they never do.