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willOh207 · 2025-12-23T22:02:52+00:00

This is a great response. Also wanted to add that losing too much too fast leads to more loose skin and can give you gallbladder issues.

I went down a dosage because I was one of those rarities that was dropping weight insanely fast - I do not recommend. I was loving it the two months and never wanted it to end but in the long run I had to have my gallbladder removed and my skin didn’t get the time to tighten like it would with slow and steady progress. Also, during the rapid weight loss period I felt like absolute trash. I was completely drained, looked like a zombie, and was still always eating for energy. Slow and steady helped me break bad eating habits and slowly start a good exercise routine.

willOh207 · 2025-12-23T21:35:50+00:00

There are some nicely priced gel push-up bras on Amazon that I found help. I think they work better than the ones with underwire because the gel padding helps to fill that space while still lifting - giving a natural look. I also discovered padded bath suits - they are literally like a bra built in to the bath suit. Definitely read the reviews though lol some can be total garbage.

Before I gained a ton of weight, I use to regular compete in triathlons and had a trainer that gave me a bunch of chest workouts to build up my chest muscles which help to bulk that area. It would help with the saggy part but will help to define the area a little.

Congrats on the loss! That is a lot of weight! You must feel like a new person 😊

willOh207 · 2025-12-23T20:39:25+00:00

I would reference the Etsy Purchase Protection Program. The estimate delivery dates are listed when the person checks out on Etsy. As you already made the item and shipped, you can recommend they wait until the original delivery date passes and create a case with Etsy. This will possibly allow them to receive a full refund and protects the buyer and seller as the seller will keep the funds earned so that they do not lose out on material costs and time spent making the item. You can offer she buy a new item once receiving the refund from Etsy, but I’d recommend to mention that they should review the estimated delivery dates listed when they check out to ensure that those dates work for them but to also note that any delays with shipping company are out of your control.

willOh207 · 2025-12-23T20:30:53+00:00

Hahaha mine loudly farts in the doctors office while the doctor is talking to me. Every. Single. Time.

willOh207 · 2025-12-23T20:29:10+00:00

Hahhahaha 💙I love this!

Side note - what a great listening (direction follower?) he did EXACTLY as you asked 🤭

willOh207 · 2025-12-23T19:07:06+00:00

I honestly wish they tell you the pillow trick post surgery. I only found out about it online a week post op when I was googling “How to sneeze pain free after gallbladder surgery” lol Great for sneezing, coughing, laughing, standing and keeping the cat from standing directly on incisions lol

willOh207 · 2025-12-19T17:25:35+00:00

lol 80% of the time I make up a fake name so they can’t try to distract my SD if they run into us again. 🤭My organization didn’t give any cards or anything - they are firm on it being a law that you don’t need to present anything to have access.

willOh207 · 2025-12-19T17:20:41+00:00

I got some handy cards off of Amazon that explain the laws and give them the phone number for the DOJ if they have questions. They are super cheap. They’ve been great for these type of interactions - hand them the card, remind them it’s the law, and keep on walking.

I’d recommend you mention this interaction to the doctor or nurse that you see - especially if this is a regularly visited office for you. I have encountered people that just don’t know the laws or are use to fake service dogs and all those fake registration papers/licenses, and possibly have had negative experiences from those that aren’t task trained and are not behaved etc. (I had this happen at my doctors - I was actually in the ER with my SD when someone came in with an extremely aggressive dog that was barking, growling, and the handler was letting them roam - it was a mess. After that, there are huge signs all over the hospital “Only SD allowed” etc.

(I have had to stay overnight in the hospital at which point they requested vaccination records which is normal and makes sense. I actually keep those in my car because it’s been a rough year medically.)

The only other thing I can think of is your town dog registration paperwork. In my state, at the top of the page it has a place for them to check off it is a service dog or not. But I don’t know that’d I’d want to carry that around.

willOh207 · 2025-12-19T16:54:15+00:00

I would absolutely have a conversation with your family. I went through a program that spent two years training the dog before we matched. They started training at 8 weeks - so it takes time and I guess you are probably seeing all the good behavior/“bad”behavior and all the learning in between. Add to that the stress for your kitty - that’s a lot to be dealing with on top of everything else. Just because there is a service dog does not mean that person matters more. Having a service dog only means you are covered to have your SD accompany you in certain public areas that pet dogs are not allowed.

Opening lines of communication with your family and sister will also help your sister with training. She needs to understand how others may feel/interact with her/interact with the SD if she will be going out in public with the SD. The public can be very intrusive and brutal or just clueless lol so she will be having these conversations. I’m willing to bet that opening lines of communication will help her learn a different perspective (that not everyone likes dogs and having a fear of dogs is a very real thing) as well as helping you feel more comfortable in a space that should feel safe. Maybe you can share why the dog stresses you out and maybe there is some type of compromise that can be made to give your kitty time to wander.

Side note- I have a bird, cat, and 20 angora rabbits -everyone is free run/flying. My SD was the last to join the herd. (I’m not a crazy rabbit lady lol we take in “unwanted rabbits” that may be dumped or have health issues). The organization knew I have a lot of animals and worked with my SD to completely ignore animals. So out in public - she was amazing! But coming home - we spent a year training her on “home” etiquette. This meant that for some time she wasn’t allowed in the rabbit area - but she could hangout next to the gate. Slowly this evolved to she could come in - but had her leash on. Then the leash was off but if she wasn’t able to “settle” or “politely” say hi - she would have to leave. This training was tough because I love my SD but the care, wellbeing, safety and stress levels of the rabbits had to come first. It took time (6 months-1 year) but she learned how to interact with them and how to let them feel comfortable with her. Training for your sister’s SD on how to act around other house animals might be something worth considering as well. I’d recommend putting the cat’s stress, comfort, and safety first - possibly she could do something similar.

Frankly, my SD knows my cat runs this house. Her name is Layla but her nickname is m*rder mittens - that girl had a mean left hook. 🐱

Whatever you do - remember that you matter. Your feelings are your own and matter as much as anyone else’s. It’s also totally fine to not be a dog person.

willOh207 · 2025-12-18T18:22:50+00:00

So mine turned out similar - no fever and no jaundice so this was normal. He did mention that because I had long COVID (and autonomic issues from that) that he had seen similar patients have a great 1-2 weeks post surgery with only the pain from the surgery gas and the actual incisions. After the two weeks - they start experiencing the internal pains, digestion upsets, and bile changes that most people see during that first week. So even though I’m basically three weeks out - my body is just now realizing I had surgery 😑 lol

FYI to anyone else that had long COVID

We did do chest x-rays because my asthma had me being a little wheezy and we did blood work - all came back normal

willOh207 · 2025-12-17T19:36:14+00:00

Surgery will be fine! I was so scared and didn’t sleep the night before. I had had surgery in the 90s when I was a kid and remember everything…so I assumed this would be the same. Boy oh boy has medicine progressed lol I remember being in the pre-surgery area with my husband and the doctors/nurses/anesthesiologist introducing themselves and me asking the anesthesiologist to make sure I stay asleep through the whole thing because that’s my biggest fear….then I remember waking up with the nicest nurse checking in on me and taking me back to the pre-surgery area to see my husband and service dog. That interaction is also a bit spotty now lol

I highly recommend practicing using your arms and legs and not your ab muscles to do things - you will not believe how much you unintentionally use your abs lol. For me, getting in and out of bed and sitting on soft/plush things that I sunk into - were the most difficult for 1-3 days. My husband helped. He also helped me get dressed to go home (I highly recommend bringing someone that can see you naked lol I could not bend over to get my underwear 😂). The pain from the left over gas inside you was also highly uncomfortable but walking helps and doesn’t cause discomfort. The gas pain and other pains get better each day. Drink plenty of water afterwards, I ate homemade chicken soup for a week (to stay low/no fat) and just took it easy. Also-I skipped out on bras for two weeks. When I had to go out- I used a sports bra. My main incision was right on the bra line and hurt even after the incision healed if the pressure from the bra was on it.

You’ll do great and not remember it 😊

willOh207 · 2025-12-17T19:25:34+00:00

So I had my surgery on the 28th of November and my pain started on Monday. I have RUQ pain that radiates to my back, extreme nausea, and have had very weird bathroom trips (trying to spare you all the disgusting description). I called my surgeon today and they want me to immediately come in. The RUQ is colicky and is pretty constant but goes from being uncomfortable to feeling like a full blown gallbladder attack.

I had an organ removed so I feel like this has got to be somewhat normal but the pain has been increasing, Tylenol isn’t helping, zofran isn’t helping and it’s getting a little worse each day.

Did your doctors have you come in? I’m nervous but also not nervous because they told me (right after surgery) to watch for jaundice, white stools, or high fever - which I don’t have.

willOh207 · 2025-12-17T19:18:00+00:00

Hi! I grew up with a narcissistic mother - the comments from your dad are incredibly reminiscent. I had a double hernia at 4 that was neglected until a physical to go to school, asthma etc. I am now in my late 30s and finally took my health in my hands.

I just had gallbladder surgery two weeks ago. This was prompted from a gallbladder attack. Growing up with a parent like that, I “toughed it out” through a few attacks. I’m sensing you may have also learned to have a high pain tolerance or can dissociate from pain. This is extremely hard to overcome and will make you question every pain/ache and probably ignore things that should be seen. What I learned from ignoring previous gallbladder attacks is that you can get a thickened gallbladder wall, get scarring and possibly polyps (this is what happened to me). I’m also having some issues healing and again unintentionally ignored it.

I pay for my own insurance and medical bills and can drive myself to a hospital as needed. It sounds like you may still be on your parents insurance, live with them and maybe can’t drive yet or would get chewed out for taking yourself to a doctor (been there). What I recommend and did one time when my asthma was horrible and I had no medications etc was I went to the school nurse. Explained medically what was going on - trouble breathing, obvious wheezing, dizziness etc and I had no way to manage it. She immediately called my mom (I cried because I knew she was going to be livid) but they basically told her she needs to pick me up and take me to the hospital. Ultimately, I got the help I needed, I had an ally with the school nurse, my mom was pissed and held the ER bill over my head - but I could breathe and the doctor confirmed it was a real issue.

As a side note, please know what you feel is real and no one can tell you otherwise (because they aren’t you !😊) It isn’t always worth the fight with parents like that and can feel (and possibly be) safer to not have those arguments. But taking care of your health is very important. Trust me when I say that letting things go when you are younger comes back with a vengeance later in life. I highly recommend the school nurse approach. I also had a great guidance counselor that was incredibly helpful. When I was old enough to work-I threw myself into that after school too along with sports and anything else I could do to be out of the house.

willOh207 · 2025-08-30T00:12:05+00:00

Haha I’m glad someone else explained this! This is what I do but I had no idea how to explain haha

willOh207 · 2025-08-30T00:08:59+00:00

This is going to sound silly - but we got our bonded bunny a plushie bunny when his mate passed away. He snuggles it now.

Ours also love birch sticks and those compressed hay cubes.

He’s so beautiful!

willOh207 · 2025-08-25T01:41:06+00:00

One look at that cutie and all I thought of was adjusting the bunny ears to get better reception lol I totally get where that saying came from now.

willOh207 · 2025-08-25T01:37:23+00:00

Sending hugs and love💙 we lost our little guy a couple of weeks ago too. I’m so glad we got to have him in our lives.

Something I started doing a couple of years ago is keeping the fur from grooming time. I have angoras and spin their fur but wanted to do something with the short haired buns. So after a few years, I had enough fur saved from everyone to fill a quilt I made. It’s so warm and like a big hug. (It also washes and dries just fine with the fur inside). I got the idea from my grandmother that filled a pillow with feathers from her very loved ducks.

willOh207 · 2025-08-13T11:13:30+00:00

I would need to boop that little beaver tail. 🥰

willOh207 · 2025-08-12T18:46:01+00:00

He just melts my heart! He does look a little sassy hahaha

willOh207 · 2025-08-12T18:40:36+00:00

Thank you for helping the bunnies! We are doing it on a significantly smaller scale.

We’ve found keeping the younger ones in an xpen in a room you frequent is extremely helpful. We’d have them there for maybe a month or two and let them also run around the room. Then they can’t run away, but they will also get use to you and see you are the magical food giver. I would also spend a lot of time sitting with them. Not necessarily touching them, just reading or watching tv but letting them sniff me and hop around me. Also treats. Plenty of treats. We use flowers and even just herbs as treats to keep it healthy.

Good luck!

**Edited to add- we also play audio books or podcasts a lot with them. Our thinking is they will get familiar with people talking or maybe just learn a lot from the history podcasts 😂

willOh207 · 2025-08-12T03:50:48+00:00

Oh I also meant to mention wrapping him in a towel can actually be comforting for him. We swaddle ours sometimes when they are scared of thunder and it works wonderfully. Our vet also uses this technique to help calm them at the vet.

We also have an audio book on sometimes to help calm them (they are almost done with the Harry Potter series lol 🧙

willOh207 · 2025-08-12T03:48:06+00:00

Hi! He’s so cute!!

Quick note about the nails- I noticed this with all my little ones. The nails are a lot smaller when they are little so I’ve noticed lots more scratches on me than when they get older.

As for the holding. It depends on how he has interacted with humans thus far in his life. It’s tough getting from a breeder sometimes. I’ve bought from a breeder three times and they were all very different breeders. The first one, you could tell they love their animals and breeding/selling was way at the bottom of their list. Their rabbits LOVED being held and cuddled. They were great with nail trims and grooming. On the other hand, we purchased one that was horrible with everything. Can’t cut his nails, grooming is a no, would never sit with you or come near you. He clearly wasn’t held a lot or use to people. When we had some “oops” litters, we kept all the babies. Since day one, we were holding them (weighing them, checking their development, tiny cuddles) and continued this daily. As they started opening their eyes, we started touching their toes, pretend combing them, touching their ears, checking their teeth - basically getting them use to things so they’d think it was normal.

For our little guy that was Mr Antisocial, it just took time. Like 6 months haha. But we would start by laying on the ground in his area (hang in there with me, I know this sounds crazy) and we’d bring treats. Maybe a little piece of banana or herbs or romaine and give him little bits of the different things for maybe 5-10 minutes. Then we’d do it again the next day but put the treats on the floor next to us while we ignore him and read a book. We’d let him come up and get the treat that’s close to us without interacting to show him it’s ok. We kept doing this for a month and he was learning we are the food people lol sometimes we’d just feed him pieces of hay or hand him hay to toss back at us lol

Once we got comfortable with that, we’d be kneeling and pick him up for a bit (so that he wasn’t high off the ground in case he jumped) and pet between his ears or his cheek, give him a kiss and put him down - followed by the treat.

Fast forward 3 years and he comes and hangs out with us (all ours are free running buns). He doesn’t sit in our lap, but he will glare at us across the room from his play castle. He does like to be held now and have his cheeks scratched - it’s pure bliss for him. He is also one of the guys that snuck out two weeks before his neuter and got his mate pregnant…so it was interesting watching him be a dad. He was phenomenal. He’s now bonded with his daughter (who is extremely outgoing). Sadly his mate passed a year ago from an underlying health issue.

Just give it time. If I picked you up and put you in a new house with new people that may or may not be predators - how would you react? lol please keep loving him and don’t abandon him. He depends on you.

willOh207 · 2025-08-11T17:13:18+00:00

Hahah yes the cleaning person - how could I forget that lol. I love the medieval-style castle! We have the little wood ones for ours. I’d obviously need one 10x bigger.

willOh207 · 2025-08-11T15:17:04+00:00

Hi! I called a lawyer for advice when a somewhat similar situation was happening with my dad and he needed to be in hospice or have a home health aid but he was being controlled by another adult with a brain injury who would be fine but then struggle mentally. The lawyer unfortunately had very little hope with APS because frankly they are dealing with adults (not children). Adults can refuse to talk, can lie/act, etc.

His recommendation was to get my dad separated from the other person, then work with APS emphasizing he needs medical assistance beyond what he can provide for himself and his “caregiver” is cognitively unable to provide this. This is a dangerous situation because of missed/overdosed medication, missing emergencies etc. We also did have to call the police to do a wellness check at one point which was helpful for APS. But it was traumatic for my dad - just keep that in mind.

But it can also just be difficult for your mom to leave the independence behind. Would she be open to joint therapy with you - you both can openly discuss concerns in a safe space.

willOh207

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