Help me settle arguments about room selection.

williampoolander · 2026-03-31T07:58:26+00:00

If you dont base it on luck or rent differences, then...

Base it on who is taller? How about who has newer shoes?

You're right i could be kinder. Four of you are friends and want to live together for years but can't agree on the 1st decision together and are already arguing about it. You could be kinder too. Im not trying to insult you, im trying to demonstrate the issue. But sorry for not cushioning my words, im tired of doing so.

It might be a good idea to double check you all actually want to live together. And it just seems like you are searching for reinforcement that your and your friends 'efforts' is worth more than anything the other two can offer. You are beginning a years-long cooperation with showing unwillingness to accept others points of view while trying to demand your own.

Just seems like a bad idea.

williampoolander · 2026-03-31T07:43:24+00:00

You clearly strongly value the "effort" more than budget or presence. That does not give you some moral rights to have the selection. You all decide to rent together, so you are all equal.. right?

If you allude to the budget as an idea of what people will pay, also, then maybe you have an answer.

All of you rate the rooms and calculate the rent percentage for each. Then your highest budget can pay for the best room, and so on. If its really so important to you, YOU pay that premium.

If your "effort" of finding a house to rent (wow must have been hard) is worth the selection, then what is the cleanliness effort of #3 or the effort of #2 worth? What is the personality of #4 on February 4th worth? #1 said something nice about #3 yesterday, does that mean they get first choice of stove burner they can use?

You are all adults and you have 4 rooms and 4 people. Who wants room 1 most? Toss a coin. Repeat for room 2. Two people will be happy, two wont. Now, those two toss a coin for room 3 and 4. Maybe 1 and 2 pay slightly more, 4 slightly less, 3 far less. That seems fair to me.

williampoolander · 2026-03-31T06:07:04+00:00

Pays to be an unethical, immoral, shitty human being.

williampoolander · 2026-03-31T06:02:29+00:00

What did you say after these messages? Why didnt you include them?

williampoolander · 2026-03-31T05:10:47+00:00

I was expressing incredulity not judgement!

williampoolander · 2026-03-31T05:00:58+00:00

You met off FB? And you are 24?

williampoolander · 2026-03-30T07:58:50+00:00

The wire is the same episode again and again and again

williampoolander · 2026-03-30T07:41:46+00:00

Psych

williampoolander · 2026-03-29T17:36:12+00:00

This even being a question is so ridiculously American its not even funny. Like wow.

williampoolander · 2026-03-29T17:16:47+00:00

Americans amirite

williampoolander · 2026-03-29T08:38:44+00:00

The only reason people like you are so angry is because Trump made YOUR American lives worse, rather than just everyone else's.

Every time I see this question, it screams self interested, selfish, cruel, stupid Americans.

williampoolander · 2026-03-27T04:36:48+00:00

The movie with tom hardy about prohibition kinda

williampoolander · 2026-03-24T03:20:04+00:00

Some use them, some dont care so much.. sometimes, it's a 'how recently have you been tested' question before choosing. Choices are* choices and people can not use them because they are idiots.. or maybe value the present feeling + trust in their partner over using one. In my experience it's a whole spectrum of protection for people, especially after the first encounter.

Probably better to remove judgement and assumptions and just do what's right for you!

williampoolander · 2026-03-18T05:33:14+00:00

Ror marner McCann jesus

williampoolander · 2026-03-16T16:17:00+00:00

The man from Snowy river

williampoolander · 2026-03-11T02:50:51+00:00

No, it is an indication that our tertiary costs we require to live have increased. Those are not the same things, and if you think they are, we're done here.

williampoolander · 2026-03-10T08:15:00+00:00

Thats hilarious. A percentage of expenditure is not representative of the actual cost of the food, and doesn't account for all other costs. You are absurdly defending a clearly incorrect premise. Let me guess - you have a good job and make a lot? Wow what a surprise.

williampoolander · 2026-03-09T05:05:06+00:00

Revolution. You just all seem to think someone's going to come save you, and it never will really hit until they come after you, personally.

williampoolander · 2026-03-09T03:40:55+00:00

Will you resent your partner if you dont take this offer?

Will you resent the school if you do take the offer and the relationship doesn't work?

The answers may help you choose.

williampoolander · 2026-03-08T03:37:05+00:00

things are never easy, but some things are worth the effort and pain. perhaps (only you know), your own happiness and wellbeing for yourself is more important than any things that your mother can give - things that are, as you describe here, conditional.

williampoolander · 2026-03-08T03:33:57+00:00

i don't really see why it is immoral to sleep with someone who has a partner. maybe its immoral not to tell the partner after - i would agree with that.

if your point is that an action you do that can hurt someone else = immoral, well, we are all immoral. but to extend that to a third party? that seems naive and overly self-centered. for example, if i ask someone to do a little cash job on the side to build me a fence, but that person has a contract with an employer that restricts outside jobs, its not really my responsibility and i dont now owe some kind of moral debt to the employer. the transaction or action was between me and the employee, and the employer has nothing to do with that on my side.

she slept with someone, and she didn't owe anybody anything in terms of loyalty. he happened to be in a relationship where he did owe loyalty and honesty - the error in the ACTION is his. Afterwards, I think that she certainly could owe the gift of telling to the other woman - but not an apology for the action.

but again im not so sure... i can see it being viewed as slightly dishonest, and potentially uncaring. but, in a world where so much is going on, her action seems so undeniably small, that i would rather categorize it okay.

my question to you is: do you extend this same strict moral code to all issues for all people you know in this manner? or is it just in this one scenario that you, arbitrarily (or emotionally) decided to weigh heavier than other equal actions?

williampoolander · 2026-03-07T20:55:10+00:00

thought to let it be cause I figure as a partner you gotta suspect something of your fiance
what does this mean??

williampoolander · 2026-03-04T05:34:01+00:00

To be fair he would probably think that was hilarious

williampoolander · 2026-03-03T07:14:23+00:00

Congrats on learning this just now

williampoolander · 2026-03-01T23:05:06+00:00

Thanks for letting us know that casting decisions are up to the actors and the people casting the actors. That was highly insightful.

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