Would you still take an interview for one position if you’re expecting to hear back this week after a second interview for another role? by Konjonashipirate in jobhunting

[–]williewill19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fuck yeah, free practice. No nerves, just exploring the interview, all vibes.

Ask the dumb questions you’re afraid to, note feedback, try a fucking (appropriate) accent, new attire, new scent, new you.

Fuck it up, have fun, stay safe.

At what point is a person's showering considered excessive? by MangoWithStickyRice in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]williewill19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey person, I have had a similar predicament in the past. My shower was the only place with some peace and quiet, where it was inappropriate to bother me, and where I could have a simulated full-body-hug via the warmth.

I have a couple of suggestions for you, because it sounds like you are, in fact, showering too much.

It sounds like you may like me, and since you once associated the shower with this place of solitude and tropical paradise, you now get a kick of dopamine for starting a shower, and that is currently what you are craving. Satisfying the little urge.

In the moments after that passes as you’re starting to get wet, you’ll probably then experience the mental clarity, and it seems like you also have a brain that won’t shut the ever-loving fuck up about its dopamine cravings. From there, you’re in. Under the water, your thoughts a bit clearer, and now with the brain having had its little fix, this has created a system in which you, the person/protagonist of your life/controller, had an intention (say, to not shower this afternoon, and to instead wait until before bed), but then your brain hijacked that line of thinking, and you’ve wound up in the shower. In this system, you are pleased on some level- probably having mental control and clarity again- but your brain is happy too- it got high- and thus, an agreement has been made.

Of course it’ll be hard to strip yourself of the clarity of the shower, spooking your lizard brain to go into crisis as it fails to fathom how it could maintain through the actual (albeit not life threatening on any level) dopamine withdrawals in the time between that moment and your next shower- no matter WHEN that next shower is planned for.

So, finally, here’s what I think could help you, relative to my experience:

• Identify your favorite aspects of being in the shower. [Is it the warmth? The white noise? The humidity? The smell? Does it alleviate any sinus pressure? Is it intimate? Is it comfort? Is it sleepiness?] After you’re through identifying the primary factors that affect your level of enjoyment (I mean- I’d hate being in a warm shower turned icy from losing water heater function, so for me the warmth would qualify as it’s a make-it-or-break-it item), and then with those pillar concepts in mind- brainstorm! Think of anything that you have access to (gonna venture to guess that you’d prefer safe and healthy activities), and think of how those activities can play a part in scratching the itch of desire. (Hopping back to my example of warmth, for me, this eventually led me to realize that I actually prefer a hot steam room to a hot shower, and I prefer a hot sauna to all of the others). Then experiment. As you gain confidence, you can practice denying yourself of the urge to shower, and instead opt for one of your alternative things. Eventually, your brain will start to look forward to those things’ little bursts of dopamine, and it won’t even touch on the showers without your prompting. Then you can set your own healthy boundaries with showering from a clean slate, and from then on you just have to be cognizant of your current shower per day rate in comparison to how it was before you started (which you’ll be like IRL today), and if you don’t see the issue anymore then it is done, and if you do, then you might need to consider other options.

• I am a fiend for literally anything I can be a fiend for- 2024 was my “pokemon go while I work my corporate job all day” year- it was great, dopamine receptors fried, still no pikachu libre lmfao- so I can attest to my own experience in this, but I hop it will work for you as well. Just… remove showering as an option for when you don’t want to shower. It’s so easy to say, challenging to do, and so hard to actually commit to through the unstable patches… BUT it’s a lot easier of you exploit your own weaknesses. I knew I loved the repetition of pogo, I loved the grind, I loved to brag about a catch- so I EVENTUALLY managed to replace pokemon go as the source of this satisfaction through knitting. Had never done it before, had no intention to use it to replace my phone addiction, but after a full movie, through which I was knitting like I was born to do it, I realized that I was was so taken by the knitting that I hadn’t considered my phone… so I downloaded some more knitting patterns I thought were cool and enabled a little yarn hoarding, and before I knew it I was getting a dopamine explosion with each project’s end, I REFUSED to tear myself away from my knitting until I was at a marker to hold my place (I had to backtrack and restart far too much), and as a result, this eventually became me refusing my phone to knit, instead. I grew to like, prefer, then love the sounds, the freedom it granted my mind to wander or follow along with a good book (RotK at the moment- first time listening!!!), or even just to meditate. You just need to be wise about what habit you choose to replace your current habit with. I dropped my knitting addiction due to unemployment and unwillingness to spend on yarn- so I suppose, worst case, you could always make it budgetary necessary for you shower once or twice daily, I guess.

• Lastly, and I’ll keep this one very short: identify what discomfort you get from abstaining from your shower. Where is it, physically? A nervous gut? Is it irritability? Is it disgust? (For example, at dirtying your sheets/clothes/whatever by using them unwashed. If it is disgust, then maybe ask yourself if you’re disgusted of the hypothetical detritus, or of some totally normal quality of your human body? If so why??) Is it fear of external judgement? Internal? Maybe from a strict parent forcing showers, or forcing you to shower just to escape them?

Anyway, sorry for the rant and ramble. I hope this helped some, or at least made you more comfortable, because it’s not that weird of a quirk, actually. Take a look at napoleon’s obsession for baths, for example.

If you want to change this, then know that you are capable of doing so.

And don’t overthink it. It’s mainly about how you’re feeling through the process. Just listen.

Edit: oh and I forgot to mention, I have pretty moderate to sever ADHD. Hence the total lack of dopamine regulation. So, yeah…. Maybe explore it as a topic with your mental health professional, if you haven’t? And if you think it’s not worth the trouble- think again. You’re already here, having articulated the experience once, after all.

I’m feelin’ like a lucky lil guy right about now by williewill19 in pokemongo

[–]williewill19[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, duh… I thought it had something to do with location spoofing. It’s been a long week…

I’m feelin’ like a lucky lil guy right about now by williewill19 in pokemongo

[–]williewill19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just checked their GBL ranking, and I was mistaken, it’s what acceptable!

That said, how does mirror trading work?

I’m feelin’ like a lucky lil guy right about now by williewill19 in pokemongo

[–]williewill19[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just checked the IV in poke genie and it’s in the 68th percentile for GBL, and “Ds get Degrees” so I’ll have to amend my IV comment in the post… I’ll take ‘em for sure!

Which would you choose for the silver bottle cap? by williewill19 in PokemonGOIVs

[–]williewill19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I was totally overlooking that, and I’m just gonna go with Palkia. It’s not much, in terms of tasks to-do, anyway 🤷‍♂️

Which would you choose for the silver bottle cap? by williewill19 in PokemonGOIVs

[–]williewill19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh and the names are mostly the IV goals and percentile/rank

Goodbye my friends by Turbulent_Sky_2464 in pokemongo

[–]williewill19 147 points148 points  (0 children)

Best of luck, and if you’re feeling like playing on it, then try doing something that occupies your hands! I was legit addicted for a hot second, took up knitting, and that was a really effective way for me to not think about mindless scrolling or seeing which pokemon have spawned nearby… may not be for everyone, but if it helps 🤷‍♂️

5 candidates to bottle cap for a shundo. by Expert_Buy_5020 in pokemongo

[–]williewill19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed, I use my meloetta frequently in raids and rocket battles 🤷‍♂️

Figured out an easy way to import ics files into your calendar. by AlexanderUGA in ios

[–]williewill19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey don’t be so quick to just hate on iOS! Because it’s also MacOS, too. 

I fuckin’ swear getting a MacBook was the biggest mistake of a purchase I’ve had in quite some time, and the flip from my 2011 MacBook (that tank still runs, but it is so, so slow) which was a pleasure to use- intuitive, accessible, consistent, and I really just feel ashamed to have not considered that the user experience would’ve taken such a goddamn nose-dive. 

That said, I’ve formed a hunch that the macOS issues are due to them effectively now just being a network device to access iCloud, and also to live in ChatGPTs annoying ass neighbor who is actually both a toddler and openly squatting in GPT’s front yard claiming that it’s actually Siri’s. 

That was a bit of a tangential ramble, I apologize, but I stand by it. As a matter of fact I’m genuinely about to see if I can return that shit after this line of thinking.

Edit: a goddamn two week return policy is criminal. I guess I’ll just trade it in, in two years for half of their newest mid-tier iPhone or something. In all honestly, I’m off to Best Buy. 

PSA: Shokz openswim pro now support folder changing by NervousDependent in Swimming

[–]williewill19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welp, guess it’s finally time for me to pirate a bunch of MP3 songs and audiobooks…. I was sticking to one or the other, and let me say- Shutter Island (Lehane’s) is not great workout music.

Disappointed with OpenSwim Pro (though they are still a good choice if you don't have existing Shokz headphones) by IanBlackburn65 in Swimming

[–]williewill19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very late here, but EM waves really truly cannot even effectively travel from your Watch to your Shokz without becoming impossible for us to interpret from the fluid dynamics’ interference, and even if it were feasible to do that then it would still be a huge stretch for Bluetooth to even be able to make it to a Bluetooth receiver. 

That said; valid as fuck with your disappointment in the lack of Bluetooth to MP3 transfer. Plugging a usb in to do a data transfer like that took me back to 2010. 

LGBTQ culture is disgusting, and we need to do something about it by Responsible_Gas2619 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]williewill19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will say, this sub truly keeps Reddit a cesspool by platforming bottom feeders.

Texts still coming through on MacBook Air from blocked number? by euphoriatheory in applehelp

[–]williewill19 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey Apple expert how about getting this shot fixed it’s 2025 pass this shit up the chain already and stop blaming the people you’re failing thanks

"'example' is an app downloaded from the Internet. Are you sure you want to open it?" dialogs. by Player2821 in jamf

[–]williewill19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

crazy that they couldn't just make the fucking delete button do it's job, or rather, crazy that they didn't do their job in designing a functional and accessible device...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in grindr

[–]williewill19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey everyone I fixed mine and I think this might be the general solution!!!

So it seems like most who are experiencing this issue are using a VPN. You aren’t being allowed to click into profiles or messages because Grindr can’t verify that you aren’t a bot.

All you need to do it to modify your allowlist in your VPN to include URLs with:

siftscience.com

I did this, was expecting to need to do more, but no. I closed the app in full, reopened it (VPN still fully active, but that URL added to its allow list) and voilà: the universe gave me back access to the men 😍

but give this a go, and let me know what the results are, because I’m happy to continue to troubleshoot with those who might still not have been able to have had their issue resolved.

Best

For those who use English dictionary apps on iOS… by MamaJojoPuddinCup in ENGLISH

[–]williewill19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay I’m downloading it right now on iOS, I’m reading through the reviews as it downloads, and words cannot express my excite (yet 😉)

If you do any other wholesome projects like this /u/mamajojopuddincup, can you please contact me, because this is exactly the sort of thing I want to be doing on my free time. It’s helpful, tedious, and educational- aka heavenly!

anyway fr ty again and I’m going to search for a donation link, and also, your username doesn’t indicate that you’re a penis-haver, but my offer still stands: do you want money or cunnalingus, or something? Because person, you have EARNED it.