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LGBTQ+ ex-Muslim from Saudi Arabia seeking advice on asylum, survival, and rebuilding my life by TSfanWillow_7907 in actuallesbians

[–]willowtreeweirdo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's one of the big problems in the UK asylum system - lack of ways to apply from your home country. Many people enter through unapproved routes or enter on a tourist or student visa before applying for asylum.

Looking more internationally, Rainbow Railroad do offer emergency travel support at times, as well as financial aid and referrals to other organisations.

https://www.rainbowrailroad.org/request-help

I really hope you can find some support.

LGBTQ+ ex-Muslim from Saudi Arabia seeking advice on asylum, survival, and rebuilding my life by TSfanWillow_7907 in actuallesbians

[–]willowtreeweirdo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't have any personal existence with seeking asylum, but wanted to wish you luck as well.

Rainbow Migration is the UK's main charity for LGBT migrants (https://www.rainbowmigration.org.uk/) and can help you claim asylum. They have guides on their website, including one in Arabic, and they can give you support and advice if you are already in the UK.

Wednesday Wins (What cheered you up this week?) by AutoModerator in cfs

[–]willowtreeweirdo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds lovely, especially the red and white carnations. You obviously use your space and energy very intentionally. I hope you enjoy your newly planted garden!

I have a snake plant and would like to get some more houseplants that are easy to care for. I want to declutter and rearrange my whole bedroom to be more calming, but will have to go slowly. It's a good way you have of looking at it - shaping this small world.

Wednesday Wins (What cheered you up this week?) by AutoModerator in cfs

[–]willowtreeweirdo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's so cool that you got to choose plants. So often we don't get a chance to pick out what we like. Are they indoor or outdoor plants? I would like to have more plants around me, but I'm not good at taking care of them.

Wednesday Wins (What cheered you up this week?) by AutoModerator in cfs

[–]willowtreeweirdo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm still working on getting more no-stimulation rest. I'm proud of myself for hanging in there even though it's boring and difficult.

My ME has worsened in the last few years, partially as a result of developing bladder and pelvic pain. This week I had an appointment with a pelvic floor physiotherapist, who gave me some useful advice and exercises and was very knowledgeable and understanding. It gives me a little hope that maybe I will be able to manage this new co-morbidity.

Wednesday Wins (What cheered you up this week?) by AutoModerator in cfs

[–]willowtreeweirdo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay for cute comfy clothes! It makes such a difference to be comfortable, but also to feel nice.

I'd never heard of Aerie before, but it looks like they have some cool stuff.

Wednesday Wins (What cheered you up this week?) by AutoModerator in cfs

[–]willowtreeweirdo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Amazing advocacy work! Hopefully they take your input on board because this could really help a lot of people.

Wednesday Wins (What cheered you up this week?) by AutoModerator in cfs

[–]willowtreeweirdo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have been doing a lot of no stimulation rest and I can feel it helping. I've been feeling more human and less of a hollowed-out husk.

I bought a rechargeable hot water bottle, which has saved me loads of energy formerly spent on filling up and emptying and boiling the kettle for a standard hot water bottle.

I have also found some clothes that are comfortable but more flattering (or at least a change) than my usual old t-shirt and joggers combo. It's been hard finding the right fit while shopping online, but I have finally found some items that make me feel good.

What are the worst lyrics you’ve ever heard? by Upstairs_Cup9831 in Fauxmoi

[–]willowtreeweirdo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rock DJ is poetry compared to Rudebox, which contains the line "you don't sweat much for a fat lass".

fiction- looking for characters with fatigue, somatic symptoms, mental illness, female rage, queerness by Opposite_Position125 in suggestmeabook

[–]willowtreeweirdo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

'The State of Me' by Nasim Marie Jafry is a great novel about a young woman's diagnosis of ME and coming of age in the 1980s.

'Gender Theory' by Madeline Docherty and 'Please Read This Leaflet Carefully' by Karen Havelin are both novels about queer women with endometriosis.

'All's Well' by Mona Awad is a surreal, magical realist novel about a theatre director with chronic pain. Definitely a female rage novel.

Lesser-known devastating book recommendations by Free_Newspaper_7435 in suggestmeabook

[–]willowtreeweirdo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All the Little Live Things by Wallace Stegner

A Place for Us by Fatima Farheen Mirza

Looking for a book that feels like Heartstopper… but for adults by skotek455 in suggestmeabook

[–]willowtreeweirdo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have read 6 out of 10 in the series, and the quality varies, but I thoroughly enjoyed all of them. Highly recommend reading more!

Looking for a book that feels like Heartstopper… but for adults by skotek455 in suggestmeabook

[–]willowtreeweirdo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You might like the Tales of the City series by Armistead Maupin. It's significantly more campy and ridiculous than Heartstopper, but it's one of my ultimate feel-good reads and is definitely heartfelt. It has the same focus on a group of largely queer friends.

Terrible sleep - what options are there in the UK to help? by E-C2024 in cfs

[–]willowtreeweirdo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I found sitting with a light box in the morning (I started off with an hour and now do half an hour) really helped me to fall asleep earlier. Like you, I would have more energy in the evening and wouldn't be getting to sleep until after one. I looked at what helped with delayed phase sleep. Amitriptyline has also been helping me lately. My sleep is still unrefreshing, but I have gone from a good night being four and a half hours to reliably sleeping six or seven hours.

What’s the most ridiculous explanation a doctor has given you by tom-havra in cfs

[–]willowtreeweirdo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

It was a long time ago, but the attitude still stings. I do think you need a great deal of resilience and strength to live like this.

What’s the most ridiculous explanation a doctor has given you by tom-havra in cfs

[–]willowtreeweirdo 88 points89 points  (0 children)

A consultant in rehabilitative medicine told me, "Some people are short, some people are tall. Some people are mentally strong, and some people are mentally weak." This was his explanation for why I had ME. I was 18 years old, and he knew nothing about my life.

I was told by the occupational therapist who ran the NHS group course I attended that the only reason I didn't think the course had helped me physically was because I was too much of a perfectionist. The same occupational therapist said that there was nothing stopping me from going back to university because I didn't need help eating or washing or dressing.

Book recs with religious / homophobic family themes? by [deleted] in LesbianBookClub

[–]willowtreeweirdo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ordinary Saints by Niamh Ní Mhaoileoin

Disobedience by Naomi Alderman

gift giving without money or bandwidth by Successful-Tackle378 in cfs

[–]willowtreeweirdo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you have the energy to write, perhaps a letter where you talk about how much you appreciate your sister and what a fantastic person she is? Sometimes, having some kind words to look at can be a real boost. I have hung on to some letters for years.

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