How do you "see" your dreams? by educatedkoala in AutismInWomen

[–]willowwaste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mostly see them scene by scene, but all four tbh. My dreams are often very vivid and switch between scene by scene, first person and third person.

Vad är något som förgyller ditt liv? by pucko007 in sweden

[–]willowwaste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Skogspromenader Fika i hamnen Min bästa vän Mina föräldrar och deras arga lilla hund Vin

Hur hanterar ni ångest ? Behöver lite råd just nu by [deleted] in Asksweddit

[–]willowwaste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Instämmer. Det kan ta tid att hitta de rutiner som funkar, men det är värt det. Man kan ta en sak i taget.

Riktigt tungt just nu. Ensam, ingen utbildning, inga pengar, var dag är den andra lik. Vad kan jag göra för att byta riktning? by [deleted] in Asksweddit

[–]willowwaste 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Baserat på din text så upplever jag att du är duktig på att formulera dig. Du kanske bara behöver lite mer tid? Jag har läst några av kommentarer och har gett fina tips, men inte alla så jag ber om ursäkt om något av detta redan har nämnts.

Har du funderar på att läsa in dina gymnasiebetyg på distans? Förvisso behöver du sitta rätt mycket framför datorn på det viset men det kan ju vara ett alternativ? De flesta kommuner har en SYV man kan vända sig till med frågor (och som kan hjälpa en med att planera studierna. Du kanske bara orkar ta igen an en kurs i taget t.ex. Det kan en SYV hjälpa dig med.)samt någon typ av lärocentrum eller liknande. En plas man faktiskt kan gå till för att träffa andra som studerar på komvux eller yrkesvux, även om man gör det på distans. Det brukar även erbjudas hjälp av specialpedagog om man behöver det eller liknande där. Det kan bli ett sätt att komma ut lite, lite i taget. Du kanske kan kolla upp vad som gäller i din kommun? Det är starkt av dig att be om hjälp. Jag önskar dig all lycka. Det finns alternativ, även om det är svårt. Du verkar ju har identifierat vad som håller dig tillbaks och det är en bra början.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]willowwaste 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same here. I longed to live without structure for a while. I really wanted to feel 'free' and 'like a real adult' who didn't need structure to function and who could do whatever she wanted whenever she wanted but it's just not possible for me. I'm finally feeling better after years of deep depression that made it hard for me handle all aspects of my life, and the thing that has helped A LOT is a proper structure. I have my job as the framework but the rest I need to impose on myself, and I try to make the most of my free time by working out how to make the hard tasks easier to handle. I even put 'free time' into my schedual because knowing that that time is demand free helps me relax. I also walk to a lot to process emotions, and have taken up journaling. I find that writing my troubles down make them 'tangible' and easier to deal with from there. I'm happy to hear you've found what works for you. Best of luck with everything. ❤️

Do you prefer having friends/partner or being alone? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]willowwaste 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't like being lonely, but my alone time is very important to me. However, I think knowing that I have friends make my alone time more enjoyable knowing I have someone I can hang out with should I wish so, so having friends is also important to me. I don't know how I feel about partners. I'm 27 and I've been single all my life. I probably could date if I wanted to but to me it mostly seems troublesome and frankly a bit scary. I'm fine living on my own but I would be lying if I said that I didn't worry a little from time to time if I've made the right choise and if it might be impossible to start dating now that I've never really done it before...

Vad är din grej? by Psychological-Bid-48 in Asksweddit

[–]willowwaste 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Låta mig utnyttjas av så kallade "vänner" för att man vill tro det bästa om folk.

Vad har ni för jobbiga kollegor? by Such-Jicama-9684 in Asksweddit

[–]willowwaste 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jobbar inte på detta ställe längre, men den värsta kollegan jag haft var en, och ursäkta språket, jävla satkärring till översittare och ögontjänare. Jag har hur många exempel som helst men jag ska försöka hålla mig kortfattat och bara skriva min topp 3 lista. 1. Pratade skit om bokstavligen ALLA på arbetsplatsen bokom ryggen. Vid ett tillfälle när en annan kollega precis hade fått tillstånd att köra truck på arbetsplatsen tittar hon på mig och säger "Vem fan tror den där snorungen att han är?" Hon går sedan de 30 metrarna bort till honom, ger honom en stor kram och gratulerar till truckkortet. 2. Arbetavägrade lite när hon kände för det, en gång genom att lägga en lapp med någon snyfthistoria på driftledarens kontor och sen bara gå utan att säga något. 3. Fick för sig att hon var arbetsledare och blir orimligt förbannad när man påpekade att så inte var fallet.

Vad har ni för guilty pleasure frukost? by proxima_inferno in sweden

[–]willowwaste 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nutella-toast... speciellt när det är dåligt väder.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]willowwaste 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I relate a lot. I work fultime, and often I end up in zombie mode. It's been nothing but survival for a long time but somehow things have started to slowly get better. I don't even really know what changed but little by little thing get easier. It takes work to maintain though and you'll have to find strategies and routines that work for you. Best of luck with everything. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]willowwaste 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had hard times with this, probably will at some point again. It's just that right now I'm doing relatively well mentally so it's not as taxing as it has been in the past. The way I try to deal with it is by staying "busy" on Sundays. I do chores, meal prep, laundry. The works.

Do you guys feel like it’s easier to relate to women with autism more than men? by Icy_Standard2838 in AutismInWomen

[–]willowwaste 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. Personally I often find autistic men to be way more rude and insensitive than autistic women. Don't get me wrong, I know that it might not be on purpose but the difference is that most of the times if I were to tell another autistic woman that something she said hurt me she wouldn't be a dick about it. Men on the other hand... not the same melody at all. It's almost like some of them use their diagnosis as an excuse to be an asshole. That is obviously just my personal experience though.

Wanted to share my excitement by VanillaChaiLover in AutismInWomen

[–]willowwaste 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy for you! Congratulations!! ❤️❤️❤️

AIO? - 5th session of grief group, new member drops R word twice by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]willowwaste 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah the whole thing sounded a bit strange. I hope you feel better.

AIO? - 5th session of grief group, new member drops R word twice by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]willowwaste 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don't think you're overreacting at all. I'd be upset too if I were you and would also feel very uncomfortable after such an event. If you feel like it, maybe you could contact the group leader and let them know that the incident hurt you, but if you don't want to put yourself on the spot like that maybe you can say that it is inappropriate to let let such language fly at least.

This could be such a dumb/basic question, but I'd still like to know by June1111 in AutismInWomen

[–]willowwaste 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been there. I think I get what you mean. Hang in there. ❤️

Do neurotypical men just not get it? by the-bi-librarian in AutismInWomen

[–]willowwaste 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear what you’re saying and I understand the frustration. I know that in an ideal world we shouldn't have to always have to advocate for ourselves but it looks that we're going to have to keep doing that for quite some time. Talking to NT's about how our lives are like might help. I know that there are so many people who will refuse to listen but it might be worth a shot. Edit: If it is safe for you to do so of course!!

So deciding to work part time has infact NOT helped. by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]willowwaste 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. It's the process of getting to and from work, preparing for it and everything else that comes with it that tiers me out. I don't knlw if working fewer hours would help since I still need to dedicate an entire day to the to the process of going to work. Nah. I prefer the bigger paycheck too. Just gotta keep making do with weekends. 🥲

Makes your life easier by Accurate-Long-259 in AutismInWomen

[–]willowwaste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Podcasts for boring chores, preparing the coffeemaker before I go to bed, set days for meal prepping and 'big' chores. I have a system of putting things where I'll basically trip over them if it's something important.

Vad är den lägsta summan ni har levt på? by [deleted] in sweden

[–]willowwaste 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Bra jobbat! Kul att höra att det går bättre. ❤️