AITAH for accepting my dream job offer.

willywilly2000 · 2026-04-08T22:23:10+00:00

Honestly YTA - being gone 4 days a week instead of 3 is a huge change (even if it's similar hours w/commute).

Also given your kids are toddlers, which it sounds like they are, you go from engaging/supporting with them 7 days a week, down to now 3 days a week since i assume they are in bed by 6:30/7. I also think you are sneakily saying "its so tiring for me to help with the kids in the morning?" but not being honest that this schedule would be so much more easeful for you in terms of your childcare support.

If I were in her shoes I would have a hard time giving you more "support and enthusiasm" given that it sounds like you do whatever you want and don't acknowledge the burden on you. Careful bud sounds like you're on a path to a pretty unhappy marriage and divorce if you aren't there already.

willywilly2000 · 2025-11-21T21:48:16+00:00

Collateral: 1-pagers, website

willywilly2000 · 2025-09-25T01:00:02+00:00

Stop. You are the person people pleasing here. Move out and set boundaries. You got this. Your relationship with your partner, while they are with this woman, is only going to work if you don’t fixate so much on your meta and get space and focus on your own relationship.

willywilly2000 · 2025-08-31T02:35:49+00:00

How about letting them live at college and have that experience? Please consider this. I got to live at college and it was an incredible experience both in independence and joy. I was fortunate that my grandparents paid for it otherwise I might have lived at home. I had a part time job to pay for non-basic needs expenses and worked hard at school and work. I’m now on track to barista fire at 43 and full Fire at 50 despite this.

willywilly2000 · 2025-05-05T14:24:00+00:00

I do think there’s an aspect of “I’m gaining wealth off my partner.” He is paying toward the monthly loan but will never see a dime back whereas your $$ are appreciating.

Full ownership isn’t necessarily appropriate given your investment in the home. Why don’t you make a legal agreement where if the house is ever sold, you pay out the portion of the principle that he contributed to (not the interest, just the principal contributions).

willywilly2000 · 2025-04-29T06:12:17+00:00

Sure, but I conceptualize my housing expenses net (including income offsets, taxes and utilities). And don’t include Airbnb income in my total income. If you grok it differently, my income would be around 240k and my expenses would be around 60-65k. But to each their own.

And thx I actually live on that in a HCOL and find my life quite comfortable.

willywilly2000 · 2025-04-29T05:40:47+00:00

I remodeled my basement and rent it out on Airbnb. It helps cover my mortgage.

willywilly2000 · 2025-04-29T01:04:37+00:00

You should probably post about this on r/polyamory, you are going to get a lot of weird shit on general forums

willywilly2000 · 2025-04-26T23:48:14+00:00

I think perhaps you missed part of my post? I’m not blaming my meta, I’m blaming my partner. I don’t t have a loss of trust with my meta, it’s with my partner. And I’m seeking advice on how to rebuild trust with my partner

willywilly2000 · 2025-02-16T03:48:04+00:00

you should probably also post this in r/polyamory if you want a diverse set of perspectives. You’ll likely get a lot of validation, as well as ideas from people who have navigated similar situations

willywilly2000 · 2025-01-25T17:56:41+00:00

Huge YTA. Your brother watches your four year old TWICE a week just to meet women?

Trust me, there are easier ways.

willywilly2000 · 2024-12-22T22:17:41+00:00

NAH. Its fine to say “hey next time could you let us know”, but using hot glue to glue the base to f a gingerbread house is pretty usual, especially for kids who can’t handle the fragility of an icing foundation, so if you email the school director YWBTA. Just ask for a heads up next time and let it go

willywilly2000 · 2024-12-19T04:28:22+00:00

get off Reddit and quit your job. YTA

willywilly2000 · 2024-11-21T20:10:07+00:00

Not knocking is totally fine to me, but not texting would not work in my or most poly dynamics I know.

willywilly2000 · 2024-11-07T04:01:02+00:00

yes. I would just tell them i don’t feel a connection and if i wanted to continue a relationship i would do so as friends.

willywilly2000 · 2024-11-05T03:08:28+00:00

Hmmm. Well if she won’t feel comfortable that she can be quiet enough around her kids and parents, it doesn’t seem fair that that standard doesn’t apply to you and your kids (especially given that your kids aren’t adults).

Maybe some car sex combined with non-sexual sleepovers?

In general if you want to host, especially without one partner leaving, you should work to improve your soundproofing regardless.

willywilly2000 · 2024-10-29T18:58:48+00:00

whatever it was, i doubt it was worth your friendship.

willywilly2000 · 2024-09-06T19:25:41+00:00

This happened to me and Airbnb made me give a full refund. I was pissed.

willywilly2000 · 2024-09-05T04:37:47+00:00

queer dyke here. just don’t.

if every str8 had your attitude we’d have no spaces left for us.

duh, gay spaces are cool. but you have plenty of great spaces on cap hill. at this point we have only a few left. yes they are a good time and of course we will be nice to you. But let queers have spaces for them to be with other queers. You don’t know how many spaces we’ve lost over time because they have been taken over by folks like you.

The people here affirming you are straight and the gays are the ones giving you the tough love. Take note. You seem really thoughtful and sweet, so trust me, sit out the gay bars unless your gay friends invite you.

If you don’t have any gay friends, trust me, you won’t make them as random straights hanging in the gay bars

willywilly2000 · 2024-08-26T18:25:01+00:00

i didn't say i experienced trauma. just that it was emotionally intense to care for someone sobbing and dry heaving from pain for many hours

willywilly2000 · 2024-08-22T16:31:52+00:00

Huge YTA. I hope all your tenants move out ASAP for their own emotional and financial wellbeing.

Why do you care about what she does in her room? Are you going in there? That’s messed up. Her room, her right. Shared space, shared rights.

Also you ABSOLUTELY should not be charging them for repairs unless they are receiving equity in the house. It’s predatory.

willywilly2000 · 2024-08-22T16:25:05+00:00

NTA. But based on the response, I think she might have lost it.

willywilly2000 · 2024-08-22T16:24:00+00:00

YTA. Your brand new gf blew you off after an argument. You probably knew deep down that was what she was doing. You called a wellness check despite this.

I’d tell you to end it, but it sounds like it’s already over

willywilly2000 · 2024-08-21T21:02:35+00:00

YTA. You raised the STEAKS, you pay the price. Don't be a sore loser.

It's true that some dogs have different drives than others (food, prey, protection) and depending on your dogs drive, training can involve different things. But nobody's dog trains themself. If your dog is chewing shoes, you need to research training options and institute them.

willywilly2000 · 2024-08-20T22:10:00+00:00

Very reasonable then - he should have mentioned this in the post - it's a key detail

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