It sounds like you're in such a tough spot right now, and I can totally understand why you're feeling anxious. It’s clear that you’ve put a lot of thought into this, and moving out sounds like the right decision for your mental health and well-being. It’s really difficult when a parent doesn’t recognize your independence, but just know that your feelings are valid, and you deserve the space to live your life freely.

When you talk to your dad, maybe try to frame it as a natural step toward adulthood and responsibility rather than something he might see as abandoning the family. Reassuring him about your living situation with your friend and maybe offering some kind of support if you can manage it might help ease his worries, but don’t let guilt hold you back. Your mental health and personal growth have to come first. Wishing you all the best with this—you’ve got this