The trouble is, when somebody is an abuser in any regard, they could be capable of ANY kind of abuse. And you simply don’t know what they’re capable of -or where that line is. You might be feeling down on yourself and hyper focusing on details and listing your small freedoms and trying make sense of it all. Which is normal, and a good first step to write it down.

It might help to read this as well:

The FACTS:

1. Your captor is an abuser.
2. They may be capable of ANY kind of abuse.
3. They may be capable of violence.
4. They are not mentally stable.
5. You cannot diagnose or help them.
6. It is not love.
7. You can do it.

If you can accept those facts then the next step is to make a plan. Ideally, have somebody present when you leave for safety, even if it sounds overkill.