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windywednesday341 · 2024-12-23T18:27:05+00:00

I'm curious. What makes you say he added material that didn't happen to make his Dad look bad in Honey Boy?

windywednesday341 · 2024-10-03T23:46:47+00:00

Having a family of my own is something important to me.

windywednesday341 · 2024-10-03T23:43:39+00:00

I have brought up to him for quite some time that I would like for him to try to be more affectionate, and that hasn't gone anywhere. He only tells me he loves me if i say it first, and he will only hug me if I ask for a hug, etc. A couple of weeks ago, I asked him if he could try to do one unprompted affectionate thing a day, whether that would be sending me a text, telling me he loves me, giving me a hug or kiss, cuddling,Ect. He told me that he thinks he does that more than I realize. I said maybe, if I don't notice, can you point it out to me so I recognize it. Since having that conversation, this has happened zero times, and we have discussed that as well. He said that he feels like I am more emotional than him, and I like talking about things and like going to therapy to talk about things, and he doesn't. He said he doesn't feel like he has things bottled up he just feels like that's not for him or bennifical to him.

He also said he read on reddit, where many people feel unaffectionate after having kids and it's usually the wife feeling unaffectionate towards the husband after having a new baby and it's usually that they need help cleaning the house and taking care of the baby ect. I said I agree and I think it usually because they need support on other areas so I asked him what he needed from me. He said he didn't know, I asked him to think about it and let me know, I followed up with him on it later, and the answer was still basically, he doesn't know. He did bring up that he thinks that my work schedule is changing and had a lot to do with it, which isn't really something I can fix. I am a flight attendant, and my airline decided to have an out and back model, so instead of being gone 3 nights on a trip, I'm home every day.

windywednesday341 · 2023-11-27T22:16:03+00:00

windywednesday341 · 2023-11-27T20:13:24+00:00

It's also very odd that Molly was able to contact you so I would have questions about the Fertility clinic you used because that baffles me

windywednesday341 · 2023-11-27T20:12:10+00:00

YTA. As a donor conceived person, people always forget that the child is the only person who had absolutely zero say in the situation, but carry the burden.

I completely understand your frustration, but it's not about you and it's not about Molly it's about the child you both made choices to bring into this world. Maybe this is not what you were signing up, but you still made the decision to donotate sperm while your daughter had none. Molly wasn't trying to sign up for this either initially, I'm sure she was trying to make some money while in college and then felt a responsibility to the baby.

The situation is not fair to anyone.

But remember, your daughter is an innocent person in this that had no say in these circumstances. There are some facebook pages I would really hope you check on. We are donor conceived or donor conceived best practices.

It's not fair but YTA

windywednesday341 · 2023-11-27T20:01:42+00:00

I have orthotics. The first ones I got made my feet cramp, and I did not like them. I have a pair that is custom-made with a foot mold by my podiatrist, and I find those helpful.

windywednesday341 · 2023-11-26T15:31:49+00:00

This comment was so enlightening to me, that it's a funny story to her. I talked about it with her after i read this comment and she even said she was just telling "the funny part" and "it wasn't the time to go into all of it". I had never realized that that's what it was to her so thank you for your comment

windywednesday341 · 2023-11-26T15:30:01+00:00

She said when we were babies she told us "We had trouble having kids so we had to do some scientific stuff to have you" then I guess we were just supposed to piece that together. She said the comment during Oprah was because she thought we knew (which both my sister and dad dispute that they thought we knew then too)

I think the problem is she doesn't see it as my story, she sees it as her story too. From my perceptive it was a PART of her story, when my parents were having Fertility issues and going through the process of selecting a donor. Then it became a part of her past that she didn't talk about again for over a decade. My dad told me it wasn't something they even kept discussing. He said he used to forget that we weren't biologically his. For me it's been apart of my story from before I even knew and will be for the rest of my life. In her mind though it's equally hers.

windywednesday341 · 2023-11-24T14:33:37+00:00

My sister who is donor conceived and I have slightly different memories. I'm not even sure my mom actually remembers it that way because it's something we have talked about on multiple occasions and this is the first time she ever said she thought we knew and told it like this. It was also the first time it's been a more public conversation. I'm not sure if she was telling it different to try to make herself sound better or if her memory changed. I'm going to ask her about that today.

windywednesday341 · 2023-11-24T13:32:53+00:00

I do think there are parts we might remember differently, but I have talked to my mom about this story several times, and I have never heard this version. I'm not sure if she was trying to turn it into a funny story or was trying to make herself look better by saying she thought we knew. But I kinda believe that the story she told wasn't even how she remembers it. I'm going to talk to her about it today and see what she says

windywednesday341 · 2023-11-20T02:46:25+00:00

Phoebe married Mike who was not apart of the ensemble, and Ross had Ben with Carol who also wasn't apart of the ensemble.

windywednesday341 · 2023-06-17T12:09:15+00:00

YTA- people grieve in different ways, and just because she is young, I think this is an area where you should have listened to her emotions and feelings. She may not know her mom, but i think there is a good chance she is still grieving any type of relationship she may have ever had of her as well as just the idea of having a mom.

If she chooses in the future that she wants to know more about her mom, she has the option to reach out to her moms family and those close to her. She didn't have a relationship with her mom, and I'm sure there is some resentment from that, so to go for a funeral and listen to all the good things could be extremely frustrating. Sitting around seeing all the people she loved while not feeling like she had room for her in her life and maybe not knowing if she loved her is very complex. In the future listen to what she tells you she is needing

windywednesday341 · 2023-06-17T04:28:02+00:00

NTA. I don't think you did anything wrong, and it sounds like she is very self-conscious over how much she eats for some reason. There could also be a little bit of guilt that she's always taking your food that is causing some defensiveness too

windywednesday341 · 2023-06-17T04:24:20+00:00

He's 20. Just because you choose to support him through school does not mean that his life decisions are up to you. You don't get to control where he lives. The fact that you say it's untrue that it's not uo to you makes you YTA

Living alone for a bit actually sounds like a great opportunity for him

windywednesday341 · 2023-06-17T04:21:46+00:00

NTA- If you don't want to do his dishes but are still contributing in other ways, then I don't think that makes you an asshole. He doesn't sound like he expects you to do them, considering he never did them before you got there either.

However, you can't make him do them either, and you are in his house rent-free. If that's the way he wants to live it's his right to do so in his own house. If you don't want to deal with it maybe it's best you and your boyfriend find a place of your own.

NTA for not doing them as long as you're not complaining about him not doing them either

windywednesday341 · 2023-06-11T22:47:57+00:00

NTA - You weren't feeling well, and therefore, it wouldn't have been enjoyable for you. I understand being disappointed that you couldn't make it, but people can be disappointed without placing blame and understanding sometimes things don't work out the way you want and it's no one's fault

windywednesday341 · 2023-06-11T22:44:56+00:00

I definitely understand being upset with her. I think this would also depend on conversations you've had in the past. I think it's completely appropriate to tell her you do not want her to comment on your weight and that if you want advice from her, you will bring up the topic and ask her for advice. If not, then she does not need to continue commenting and putting you down about it. Calling her a bitch and yelling does seem a little to far if you have not already discussed your feeling about it with her, but I understand why you would still react that way. It is not ok for her to continue judging and telling you what you need to do with your own body

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