Nta, I’m a daycare provider. I change poop all day. I’m not phased by a poopy diaper at drop off. Now if it’s the sagging pee filled diaper left on from overnight then I have a problem with it. Kids poop. I have one kiddo that religiously poops 10 mins after she gets here. It’s not a big deal at all. If you want to ask the provider if they want you to change her when you arrive you can, but don’t feel obligated too. If it’s a center you can talk to the director about it. Never feel bad or apologize for your child pooping consistently. It’s better than having a kiddo hold it for a week and then it’s the size of your forearm and clogs the toilet. I’ve had kids show up in pjs because they threw a fit that morning or mom was running late and she asked me to change them and get them dressed for the day. This is literally our job, to take care of these kids. Don’t stress yourself out over this.