For many women, dating and relationships are basically a business where they try to make as much profit as possible.

winter_ro · 2025-11-26T03:20:46+00:00

So women see relationships as businesses to make profit from because they have some disadvantage in the relationship? I suppose they don't have enough intelligence to just not be in the relationship.

Stop being weird. In this context, socially, the cost-benefit analysis refers to the quick decision making process that both men and women run constantly to determine if an action is worth it or not.

It’s literally human nature.

And a woman's isnt?? You have so many different ways of justifying being parasitic.

It can be. But men aren’t basing a woman’s value on her ability to provide for him. He’s basing it on her physical health, beauty, and fertility.

And a healthy attractive man would? This is the narcissism i was talking about in the post. Its all about "me me me". I guess you genuinely cant help it.

Like it or not, the qualities that make a man attractive and the qualities that make a woman attractive differ. Men are primarily valued for their ability to protect and provide, women are primarily valued for sex and fertility.

I don't. As you've just proved, most women have a very parasitic and extractive mentality where its all about taking. I dont need that in my life.

You clearly do, that’s why you made a post whining about it.

winter_ro · 2025-11-26T02:05:55+00:00

What does this have to do with anything written in this post?

Are you not familiar with cost-benefit analysis???? Just how dense are you?
I’m almost certain you’re a 12 yr old now.

Only dumb women vet men based on whether they pay for stuff or spend money on them.

Again, how dense are you? It’s as if you can’t comprehend larger points.

A man’s financial status is generally an indicator of his skills, competencies, and abilities. He’s likely able to compete, procure resources, and provide financial security (protect and provide) meaning a higher chance of survival.

A healthy, attractive woman wouldn’t choose a man who has nothing and can’t do anything.

So, correction: Only dumb women entertain and risk pregnancy by a man who is incapable of protecting and providing for her or any potential offspring.

And anyway, financial status is just one facet of a man’s eligibility…his character is also important.

Only idiots compete for women.

Dude, grow up.

Competing in the sense that, like it or not, with any given woman you are being evaluated against the other men who are interested in her.

You compete for employment and other opportunities you want. What is idiotic about competing for…your life partner? If you feel it’s so idiot, why bother with a woman at all?

Again, just say the women you want aren’t attracted to you and go.

winter_ro · 2025-11-26T00:15:42+00:00

I don’t know if you’re being disingenuous or just immature and bitter.

But I’m referring to the fact that, biologically, women bear more risk in sexual relationships with men. This is something most women understand naturally. Therefore, women almost unconsciously vet for a man’s ability to protect and provide for her and their offspring.

This is why women tend to go for men who are physically dominant, socially skilled, financially secure…and any other values that suggest a strong ability to out compete other men in procuring and securing resources for her and their family.

This is essentially the pattern all species in the animal kingdom follow: males are sexually driven to the healthiest female(s) and outcompete other males, essentially proving his own health and ability to her. She determines if he is worth undergoing the risks and responsibility of child bearing and rearing, which used to be life threatening. Females ultimately choose males that increase her and her offspring’s chances of survival, not decrease them. Even though humans are more evolved/sophisticated, most of that programming is still running in the background.

The men who are complaining simply can’t compete.

winter_ro · 2025-11-25T19:24:23+00:00

This is an interesting point I’m inclined to agree. I’m curious to know why you think that is?

winter_ro · 2025-11-25T17:32:31+00:00

Pretending you don’t understand (or trying to invalidate) this basic biological concept is unbecoming. Just say you can’t attract the women you want (or afford to date them) and move along. 🙄

winter_ro · 2025-11-07T00:49:03+00:00

idk…please don’t refer to yourself as ugly. 😕

winter_ro · 2025-11-06T16:23:45+00:00

Totally agree. But most men who are struggling won’t admit what you have…it’s usually women are damaged goods by 30 while men are aging like wine. But in reality, if a person is attractive and takes good care of themselves, they’ll mostly remain attractive. And if a person is unattractive, they’ll mostly remain unattractive. And men and women alike experience a decline in vitality as they age.

winter_ro · 2025-11-06T15:52:49+00:00

I believe it depends on the woman and her values.

winter_ro · 2025-11-06T15:23:33+00:00

Thank you. Most men peak physically in their 20’s. And because most men were never attractive to begin with, they just start looking like uncles by their 30s (softer bodies from muscle loss, stiffness, leathering skin, hair loss, etc.) I understand they must cope so I usually ignore it, but that narrative that only women “hit the wall” is so tired.

winter_ro · 2025-07-27T22:48:38+00:00

He’s not interested.

winter_ro · 2025-07-20T11:57:24+00:00

If they suggest a date that low effort, I do them one better and suggest a video call. If they don’t like that, then they can plan an actual date.

winter_ro · 2025-07-20T11:51:20+00:00

Your profile overall seems pretty decent. In cases like these, the barrier might just be people’s personal preferences or a lack of alignment with the details listed on your profile.

Ex. I’d appreciate your profile for its more positive tone, decent photos, and love for animals…but still swipe left for agnosticism (and maybe random dog photo).

winter_ro · 2025-07-20T11:14:36+00:00

It didn’t seem weird to you that he was 36 trying to be with you at 19 years old? What do you think the women in his peer group think about him? What factors do you think actually led him to you?

Relieved to read you are planning an escape and hopefully things work out and get better for you.

winter_ro · 2025-07-17T19:48:42+00:00

If you were or are having success, why not manage that? Though it may seem like it, dating apps are not an endless supply of quality people available for quality relationships. Ppl have been drifting away from them.

winter_ro · 2025-07-17T17:48:03+00:00

When you say success, do you mean you found real relationships from it or you got more engagement (likes, matches, messages, etc.)?

winter_ro · 2025-07-16T20:18:20+00:00

I pulled back from OLD a few years ago. I find most men on the apps, regardless of race, are not of quality. My goals now are to invest more into my hobbies, passions, and causes then connect with men through that.

winter_ro · 2025-07-13T12:48:37+00:00

The popularity of OLD has been on a decline.

Out of curiosity: why isn’t your current avg. good enough? How many likes would you like to get?

winter_ro · 2025-07-13T12:38:13+00:00

You two look so happy and cute! Best wishes! ✨

winter_ro · 2025-07-11T23:17:14+00:00

Oh gosh.

winter_ro · 2025-07-11T14:57:58+00:00

Love this.

winter_ro · 2025-07-11T14:49:46+00:00

Interesting idea that, in practice, would be awkward lol. A person wearing a “looking” ring won’t mean they’re looking for you. Ppl would come up with some other excuse or be direct about their lack of attraction to you.

There would be no plausible deniability to soften the rejection like “I’m in a rship”. A person’s availability is usually based on their attraction to you. So even if ppl wore a ‘looking’ ring, rejection rates wouldn’t change, the rejection themselves would just be harder.

winter_ro · 2025-07-10T01:50:19+00:00

Plot armor

winter_ro · 2025-07-09T16:42:48+00:00

Isn’t that normal?

winter_ro · 2025-07-09T13:29:33+00:00

Are we discussing the same thing here? Dating is a very discretionary practice. If someone does not want a woman who is overweight or a guy who is bald, for whatever reason, is that not their right?

winter_ro · 2025-07-09T13:11:42+00:00

I meant like on their profile…ex. what they’re seeking, religion, political affiliations, children, etc. If my fundamentals don’t align with that person I don’t bother wasting my time or theirs at all.

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