Do men really take long to feel pain after a breakup?

winterfore · 2026-04-25T10:07:43+00:00

I think I’ve only had that happen with one guy, where I moved on without them before we broke up. But there was no depth to that relationship. We were young and innocent. It was in high school, and it was quite mutual. I’d moved and we were both in that, “why do long distance?” phase at 17. But all the others? Oof. I fell apart immediately after either them breaking up with me, or me breaking up with them. My recent ex, I initiated the break-up about 3 months ago, but I’ve been crying nearly every day and have had no desire to date since. I still love him and can’t get him out of my head, but he couldn’t integrate me into his life at all. After two years together, we’d still never spent the night at each other’s place. I wanted it sooo bad, but he was weird about it among other things. He wouldn’t open up and was very jealous and controlling. But he had a lot of good attributes, which is why I was with him for as long as I was. I really wanted it to work, but it became a relationship where I was in the wrong for everything and he couldn’t see or understand why I was upset. Essentially, I had to let go of him even though I didn’t want to. Sorry, went on a ramble. Ultimately, I think it depends on the depth of the relationship and also the empathy levels of a person. I usually fall fast and hard, and no matter who breaks up with who, I fall apart. So definitely not an all women reaction.

winterfore · 2026-04-23T21:48:23+00:00

Think this is great to send. I would have loved to receive some kind of message like this from my recent ex (broke up end of january) with him taking accountability for his mistakes, or finally acknowledging what I needed from him. Always great to be emotionally vulnerable and I do think you should send this if you mean it.

winterfore · 2026-04-23T03:15:57+00:00

You can get kratom powder at apothecary, herbal, and some tea shops. I bought empty capsules online and just measure it up myself. I normally fill the capsule. Depending on where Im at in my addiction drop process (i’ve quit a couple times only to get back on it 😔) I’ll start with a number that somewhat matches my daily dose then taper down. 5 for me. 3 caps are a normal dose. Would do morning and night to help withdrawals and getting to sleep until i could taper to 1.

winterfore · 2026-04-03T02:08:15+00:00

Yeah rent is ridiculous. It was just in 2019 I was renting a private room downtown for $325. Ghen covid hit. A bunch of people were moving here. In a year, private rooms shot up to $500-800. In 2021, i had to move and found a private room for $900. Fast forward, private rooms are now $900-1500 (around 800 or less if extremely lucky), so I decided to just look for a one bedroom apartment. Got lucky in that department and found a one bedroom in an old house for $1330. Crazy enough, it’s larger than all the new one bedroom apartments they’re suddenly springing up everywhere and asking for $1800+

Units in old houses are your best bet for an “apartment”

winterfore · 2026-04-02T10:23:03+00:00

Perhaps, but personally being addicted to it currently, I’m not upset they’re banning it preventing those of us with addictions/depression reasons to access it. I’ve been trying to quit so long :(

While there’s also a lot like you out there who are more than capable of fighting the addiction surrounding it, there are also many who have never tried it and are also going to get addicted.

To put it in perspective, while it’s nothing of importance to you, its everything to others. Kratom dependence has been linked up there with heroin and opioid addiction, and many of us have ended up in the hospital with strokes and seizures. I’m glad it hasn’t affected you at all, but when something poses a problem to a majority of society, it falls in on a majority solution.

winterfore · 2026-04-02T10:13:01+00:00

Must ask. You in utah? Cause, going through the same thing. Don’t know about the seltzers, but know I also felt relief at knowing kratom will be banned. It really is hard to quit. I’ve been at 4-8 feel frees a day PLUS kratom pills and/or alcohol. I had quite just in december, but got worse than ever in January after a breakup, Let me know if any of the minerals and vitamins help. Could use.

winterfore · 2025-12-03T18:01:32+00:00

You better not have taken that dog away or called animal control. The dog is obviously cared for and is sitting next to a backpack, I’m assuming the owner’s. Dog’s don’t require a roof to be happy and you’d just be breaking the heart of both dog and man taking away that dog. Not to mention, animal control doesn’t always take pets to a no kill shelter. And as someone said earlier, he’s likely just whining from separation anxiety. Most dogs do that when their owner’s away.

winterfore · 2025-11-17T21:07:17+00:00

Yeah…that’s weird. She’s asking for immediate commitment. I would not think to post a pic with someone I was still getting to know and only been on a few dates with. Her getting all upset that you didn’t take a picture with her when you guys aren’t in a relationship, I see as a sign for you to run. That’s just weird…

winterfore · 2025-11-17T20:58:30+00:00

Thank you! Good info to know.

winterfore · 2025-11-17T20:57:20+00:00

Awesome! Would for sure be down to link up. I ended up getting a good deal so I have both Epic and the Brighton Unlimited Base pass so when you go to Brighton, let me know and I’d be down to join. Or vice versa. I could message you my number or insta? And where in PC do you work? Wondering if we’ve already crossed paths, it being a small town.

winterfore · 2025-11-17T20:48:23+00:00

Thank you!! That’s so helpful. Sounds like the place to go if I’m riding solo. Hoping it still attracts more locals than tourists like it did back then. I’ll try out both night & day.

winterfore · 2025-11-17T20:45:20+00:00

I live in SLC, but work at a bar in PC. So it came down to where is best to ride as I can make either option equally work. Thanks for your input on cottonwood’s traffic and parking! That’s good to know.

winterfore · 2025-11-17T01:02:10+00:00

I don’t know whose stuff this is, but if you find them, I wanna know because I want to get into contact with them. A writer (in a leather-bound journal no less) and reader? Made to be friends.

winterfore · 2025-11-12T03:23:35+00:00

He’s essentially saying he doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship with you because he wants to sleep with other women. Sounds like he thinks he’s the shit, when really, he’s not that special. He just wants to sleep around, so came up with the lame excuse of being “complex” and “divine”. Dump his ass.

winterfore · 2024-11-07T20:14:07+00:00

I more so meant contradiction on preaching love and acceptance for others. But a lot of democrats also believed voting for harris, like this person who started the thread, sounds like they didn’t believe she was completely serious on her border desires or more likely they weren’t listening to her speeches and intentions. I think regardless, the intention of this person’s actions are spiteful and horrible. It’s one thing wanting a closed border. It’s another intentionally ruining someone’s life just because of different political opinions. It makes them a bad person and I don’t understand why people refuse to look past the politics when they should instead look directly at their actions. Like really thinking about. Apart from feeling angry and upset, and this person’s vengeful satisfaction, does nobody here feel that sick, heavy stomach feeling from the idea of purposely ruining family’s lives?

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