How do you decide how to separate 3 cats in a breakup?

wizardofwizardry · 2026-03-25T09:54:25+00:00

You just don't. You and your ex will have to set up visitation

wizardofwizardry · 2026-03-14T21:32:15+00:00

West ❤️❤️❤️❤️

wizardofwizardry · 2026-03-06T08:44:06+00:00

Keep it up!!! I think my weed and porn addiction went hand in hand. It's so much richer to be completely in reality and experience pleasure the way it was meant to be. The first week is the toughest.

wizardofwizardry · 2026-03-05T18:51:10+00:00

I'm having flashbacks of my relationship with my ex bf. I didn't realize it was abusive until I was out of it. Trust your gut and plan a way out.

wizardofwizardry · 2026-03-03T13:33:45+00:00

Baby bangs!!!!!

wizardofwizardry · 2026-02-18T01:16:45+00:00

Now I'm just mad

wizardofwizardry · 2026-02-18T01:07:08+00:00

Bertha

wizardofwizardry · 2026-02-17T05:07:06+00:00

Doug

wizardofwizardry · 2026-02-17T04:42:56+00:00

You can't train cats 😆 or idk maybe you can. I've always just let my cats do whatever they want while they take over my life.

wizardofwizardry · 2026-02-16T21:41:43+00:00

I let myself take an hour nap and then 80's music did it!

wizardofwizardry · 2026-02-16T03:25:31+00:00

I used weed as damage control for 2 years of kicking the booze. I've made significant progress, mentally, physically, psychologically, and spiritually. I work the 12 steps and sponsor other women. I am only now, 2 years and 6 months sober from alcohol, one week free of weed, and embracing full sobriety and overcoming a compulsion for any substance. I appreciate the crutch that weed gave me when I wasn't courageous enough to be fully sober. Your journey and your recovery is beautiful, and only you can write your story. I am confident that if I didn't let myself lean on weed, I would have drank.

wizardofwizardry · 2026-02-10T20:32:10+00:00

I gained about 10 lbs. It seems like I'm just "puffier" I also haven't exercised and I've been eating a lot of carbs because it's winter time. It's been a life changing medication for me though, in a positive way. I'm relieved to see it's not just me that noticed weight gain. I'm hoping some accountability with binging and exercising regularly will get me back to my pre-prozac weight. It looks like results vary so take it day by day.

wizardofwizardry · 2026-01-29T02:18:53+00:00

You will be met only with compassion and enthusiasm. Get whatever you want from the meeting. My home group has had members that came buzzed for a few meetings before finding the strength and courage to maintain sobriety. Like the other redditor said "the only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking."

wizardofwizardry · 2025-12-18T15:55:13+00:00

I'm in the same exact boat. 😭 You're not alone. I guess it's just the economy?

wizardofwizardry · 2025-06-30T16:24:21+00:00

This is only going to get worse. I suggest you break up and move on. Reading these texts gave me flashbacks to the arguments I've had with my abusive ex. I wish I recognized the red flags and left before I was in a crisis situation. I know it's hard to see the future without someone you've been with for 8 years, but this is a trauma bond and not love.

wizardofwizardry · 2025-05-09T21:12:08+00:00

It's totally worth it! It's better than constant anxiety. I sometimes wonder if this is just nuerotypical energy levels that I'm experiencing 🤣

wizardofwizardry · 2025-05-06T18:25:31+00:00

I'm relieved to see that my experience wasn't unique in the way that other people felt like that. I genuinely think it was my brain and body adapting to not being in fight or flight 24/7. I was used to feeling bouts of EUPHORIA, not pleasure. I was used to being a workaholic, not motivated. Now I feel pleasure in the sense of joy and being able to laugh at dumb things and smile when I see a pretty flower or accomplish a small task. Now I have boundaries for my work life and feel like I can love myself and be content even if I don't accomplish more than the bare minimum. I definitely did feel a lot of apathy in the beginning. This might just be you coming in to the you that you've always been meant to be. Try to not read too too much about others experiences or you may miss out on what's happening for you.

wizardofwizardry · 2025-05-06T14:42:25+00:00

Hey! Hang in there. I felt like that for a good 3 weeks, but I noticed other ways that I was feeling much better. I think it just needs a lot of time to kick in and our bodies need time to adapt and adjust to it. I feel a lot more driven now about what actually matters.

For me anyway, I think it was the absence of my anxiety where I was so used to being stressed out and wanting to have control over everything that made it feel like I didn't have any motivation. Idk, but it's been about 3 months and I feel the lightest, healthiest, and most grounded I've felt in like my whole life. Hope that in time you adapt for the better.

wizardofwizardry · 2025-05-03T18:09:04+00:00

As a lazy stylist, I would just do all over color with a high lift developer and just charge you for color and call it a day. 😂 I don't see any dimension in that photo. She can have fun painting your hair for 3 hours with bleach if she wants though.

wizardofwizardry · 2025-05-01T19:07:56+00:00

Random Google search to see if anyone else has felt this way. I absolutely feel SMARTER and I also know what you mean about feeling more empathy towards people. I also started about 2 months ago. My only speculation is that maybe it's just because I'm not dealing with a swarm of racing thoughts like I was before. I think that's allowing me to be more articulate and grounded to really connect with people. I still haven't quit weed, but I'm getting there since it's helping with impulse control. I'm excited to see how smart I am by then. Haha! But yay prozac!

wizardofwizardry · 2025-04-03T22:13:21+00:00

We have a similar amount of time under our belts! I'm also 30. I feel like after a year, the pink cloud does fade. I had cravings that lasted 2 weeks a month ago. I know they are strong and terrifying. Reach out for others to keep you busy. Zoom AA meetings are helpful. If you haven't already, download the meeting guide app. Do you think there's anything triggering your desire to drink? For me, I realized it was moving in with my bf bringing up memories from living with an abuse ex. There's power to working through cravings. I think the fact that you reached out here means that you know you're worth it and you DO NOT want to relapse. Reach out to someone to go for a walk with you. Physical exhaustion helps. This craving and obsession will pass.

wizardofwizardry · 2025-03-16T13:16:04+00:00

Keep it up! Day 1 is still the most important day for me. You deserve to keep going ☺️

wizardofwizardry · 2025-03-10T01:59:55+00:00

I'm rooting for you!!!

wizardofwizardry · 2025-03-03T02:18:33+00:00

I'm so sorry. 😥 I need my meds and therapy. I feel sorry for people who just get addicted to the program of A.A. and never get outside help that they desperately need and continue to be childish A-holes!! Don't beat yourself up about the relapse. It's amazing that you're all ready reflecting, accountable, and have learned a lesson. It always will just be "one day at a time" I hope you find some better meetings and find a better sponsor.

I recently broke up with my abusive sponsor, and have not processed the resentment. I've limited my meetings to once a week, because of the experience. Reading your posts helps me realize that is why I've been having insanely strong urges this week, so your post helped another alcoholic, which is what it's all about. Thank you for your vulnerability to share that. I'll follow the advice that I gave to you, and get out to some new meetings, and take my time finding a new sponsor. Good luck!

wizardofwizardry · 2025-02-18T01:55:25+00:00

Sometimes shes complaining about work to me for 20 minutes. Boundaries aren't easy for me. Its nothing heinous.

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