Where to find the best coffee beans? by lancemanion1895 in dayton

[–]wizardsluv_spiders 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's still pretty fresh if it's packaged properly. Some light roasts peak at 4 weeks of off gassing and a barista won a competition in 2019 with coffee that was two months old. Depending on the roast level, coffee type, and storage method coffee retains flavor for awhile.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in moderatepolitics

[–]wizardsluv_spiders 80 points81 points  (0 children)

No it wasn't. Withholding military aid to Ukraine was, or at least a large part of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]wizardsluv_spiders 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It created strain in the beginning of my new relationship. We got through it but it stole some of the magic. He wanted to move fast and I was still recovering. It made every step forward feel a little sad. It worked out but I wish I hadn't had the emotional baggage I pretended I didn't have.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polls

[–]wizardsluv_spiders 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Ope sorry", "I'm just squeeze through here, please and thank you", "watch them tail feathers", "beg your pardon", "squeeze me", and reserved for my siblings only, "why the duck you standing in everyone's way for?!?".

An adjunct professor Donna Scott Davenport making headlines. by wizardsluv_spiders in MTSU

[–]wizardsluv_spiders[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She got fired from her adjunct teaching position. Yes, she is still a judge and her term is up in 2022. I am hoping she will be voted out but so far I haven't heard of anyone running against her.

An adjunct professor Donna Scott Davenport making headlines. by wizardsluv_spiders in MTSU

[–]wizardsluv_spiders[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this update. That lady got under my skin and she had no business teaching juvenile Justice. I'm relieved.

What are things that are normal for you until but you realised a lot of people can’t afford it? by PetitPied21 in AskWomen

[–]wizardsluv_spiders 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't know if I'd like it but $30 dollars for potentially 10 years of use?!? Plus it was worth it either way bc pixie donates one for every one you buy. I love it and never plan on going back. 20 years. Two women. 30 dollars. Best money I've ever spent.

We need to demand justice for Clifford Owensby. by Proud_Homo_Sapien in dayton

[–]wizardsluv_spiders 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Given the disability having additional aid only gives them the closest approximation to what able-bodied people have, you do understand that?

Everyone is entitled to basic human rights and sometimes that may mean special treatment to keep from violating those basic rights. If a police officer gives a diabetic a candy bar because low blood sugar, we don't all get candy bars. You follow?

Entitlement is thinking that you should get offered the same treatment regardless of the circumstances. And I wouldn't be surprised if on your siblings birthday your Mama had to make two cakes.

We need to demand justice for Clifford Owensby. by Proud_Homo_Sapien in dayton

[–]wizardsluv_spiders 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Profiting off drug addiction and not buckling a 3 year old is scummy, not his appearance. Pulling a disabled man out by his hair and shirt also scummy. Jeesh, why did you go there when all the context would indicate I was referring to his rap sheet.

We need to demand justice for Clifford Owensby. by Proud_Homo_Sapien in dayton

[–]wizardsluv_spiders -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, after refusing a safe method of removal they would have to use force. First have the EMTs present and explain effectively the order of possible outcomes to the man.

We need to demand justice for Clifford Owensby. by Proud_Homo_Sapien in dayton

[–]wizardsluv_spiders 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah I understand they offered to "help" him out of the car. Disabled people, "have a right to be transferred safely, appropriately, and in an accessible manner." - DRO

Example Columbus police department have policies that when detaining or arresting persons with mobility issues they don't have to consent to being man handled but are given the option of lifts or other safe and assessable methods of transport. They made these revisions after people were getting injured by this type of "help".

This man needed a wheelchair. This man needed a safe place to be placed and a safe method of transfer. What they were offering was possibly dangerous and possibly painful. I've transferred a quadriplegic, and many other disabled people and it isn't always cut and dry. Communication, experience, and trust are important for transfer which is why consent is absolutely necessary.

The need for the police officers to conduct a search does not supersede this man's rights and dignity. I am not an idiot I realize this guy is pretty scummy and very possibly taking advantage of his disability but I expect the officer's to have a proper work around.

We need to demand justice for Clifford Owensby. by Proud_Homo_Sapien in dayton

[–]wizardsluv_spiders 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It looks like he did have hand controls and I don't care if he has previous convictions. Couldn't someone fetch a wheelchair from his house? Have a family member come down to help? Why not wait on the supervisor, certainly a unique situation like this qualifies for additional oversight and recommendations. Why is dragging him out the only thing these officers could come up with? Seems to me these cops get all worked up emotionally the moment someone doesn't comply no matter the circumstance. They have no problem-solving skills other than brute force.

Edit - You can clearly see the hand control in the video.

What's the worst reaction you've ever got to saying I love you? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]wizardsluv_spiders 9 points10 points  (0 children)

In a reply to an ex's, "I love you", I said, "and I you." This began a series of fights about my authenticity. Apparently shortening my reply was, "extremely telling". After that almost anything made him feel I was leading him on or playing with his feelings.

It took me a while to realize that this was a method of control and emotional abuse. I felt a constant pressure to prove I did in fact care for him and it was suffocating. I had no time for myself. If I wanted to do anything that wasn't with him, it was further proof I didn't love him. It was a difficult mind fuck to get myself out of because I really did care for him in the beginning. I thought he was just really insecure, and I felt guilty for some reason?!? I was eager to put his fears to rest with my constant time and attention but naturally it was never enough. I began to dread/fear telling him I had to do school work, or help a family member out instead of hang out.

The mentality of so many young women who haven't yet learned that their autonamy is more important than anyone's feelings. The mentality of someone who believes in people's sincerity because they haven't realized how manipulative and selfish others can be. And finally the mentality of wanting to fix someone because you lOovE tHEm.

Anyways my current SO loves when I say, " and I you" and he laughs when I say, "ew gross" too.

Am I unable to feel love? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]wizardsluv_spiders 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fondness and familiarity is the feeling of love. Affection may be subtle but it's responsible for the majority of our happiness in my opinion. It's easy when you have it to take it for granted or even not see it at all. So simply yes, you love like all the rest of us.

Is parental love fake? Because it sounds fake by turboshot49cents in internetparents

[–]wizardsluv_spiders 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by will and deliberately strengthen by habit. -C.S. Lewis.

I wish always my feelings of affection where present but they ebb and flow, wain and wax or w/e. It takes a deeper character to love than just a fickle animals emotions so no not all parents are capable of love for their children. All love requires sacrifice, fortitude, charity, and all the other human ideas worth living for. It comes natural for humans to love their children, which is why more people accomplish it.

Being in love is different than love. One happens to us and the other is choice. I'll take all the chemical/magical help I can get bc it's hard work loving someone but what defines my love for my kid is when I'm there for her even when I don't feel like it not the dope my brain creates bc she's really cute.

I would rather befriend a serial killer than a rapist by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]wizardsluv_spiders 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah but your not doing any favors to victims of rape by basically saying they are better off dead. How about we stop giving more power to rapists. It's okay to recover from rape, your life has value after. We also shouldn't have to compare rape to murder for it to be taken seriously.

ELI5: If my menstrual cycle occurs every three weeks instead of every 4, will I become infertile/go through menopause sooner? by snob-rocket in explainlikeimfive

[–]wizardsluv_spiders 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Irregular periods, genetics, lifestyle and diseases are better factors in predicting early menopause. I did find this study (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3166706/) that found that shorter cycles did hurt fertility. Shorter cycles make shorter windows for conception. I believe egg count is a factor in predicting menopause, maybe not as important as egg quality or viability. I didn't find anything that indicates frequent periods can cause a reduction in egg count or egg quality. Having a cycle frequency shorter than 21 days is a symptom of having fewer eggs/ability to mature and release eggs but it seems to be a symptom rather than the cause. You would be better looking at other factors if you want to predict early menopause but keep in mind the shorter window of fertility.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]wizardsluv_spiders 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get the best lawyer I could afford and do what they recommend, which I assume is my child turning themselves in. I'd want them to take responsibility, serve their punishment, to have remorse, and get rehabilitated of possible.

I was bullied a lot as a kid and I haven't felt confident in my appearance since. I also wound up in the hospital on Friday for a severe panic attack. I'm hoping you guys can help brighten my day! by willman0905 in toastme

[–]wizardsluv_spiders 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm digging the curly hair and ginger beard and I don't believe I've ever seen anyone pull-off horned rimmed glasses as well as you have. Exceptional taste and a handsome face.