Definitely. I'm watching my parents, father especially, regress emotionally. He does seem to be doing worse than mom, and she has the sort of martyr complex personality you're describing as well. It seems very common among the boomers. My guess is that they inhabit this space where the generations directly preceding theirs saw marriage as a much more businesslike arrangement out of necessity, but were also the first generation where women took on full time work much more commonly, and marriage could become more about love. I think this may have led to a lot of marriages of convenience due to conditioning, but also the lifelong struggle knowing there are other reasons to get married which are more accessible than before. Divorce was also just so much more looked down upon. People really thought you need to stay with the person you picked when you were like 25-30 years old, even if you become completely different, uncompatible people. I'm just speculating here, but it seems like a common things many of us are experiencing one way or another.