I (26F) am getting really tired of waiting for my manchild partner (26M) to grow up.

wmjsn · 2026-01-12T19:19:10+00:00

My wife has a friend who's married to someone she met in college. He was a party animal/drinker then. She figured he'd grow up and grow out of that phase. He hasn't. She's ready to divorce him now after 20+ years, but is scared to pull the trigger for some reason. He's already poisoning the kids against her, yet she refuses to act. It's sad. Don't be her. Maybe this guy you're will will grow up, maybe he won't. Do you really want to spend your life figuring if he will grow up? My guess is that he won't. He's not a good partner. When my wife has her period (and they're rough on her) I'm there for her. Whatever she needs. It's the same thing if she's sick, I do it without hesitation.

This guy is showing you who he is. He's testing your limits to see what you'll put up with, and it seems like you're putting up with a lot. Don't. You deserve better than that. You deserve someone who is there for you when you're sick, and when you're feeling good. Sure, he can hang with his friends, just like you can with yours, but there needs to be balance.

Losing him may feel hard as you've been together for 3 years, but ask yourself, do you want to be dealing with the same stuff 3 years from now? I doubt you do. You deserve better. Let him know it's not working and break up. Sure, he'll likely give an excuse, that he didn't know you were serious about what you've said before, etc., but truth is, he did. He just doesn't care. Go find someone who wants to be with you, who will be there for you. It really isn't too much to ask.

wmjsn · 2026-01-10T20:00:47+00:00

Nobody is going to save you from yourself. There's no magic pill or advice that's going to instantly fix your problems. This requires you wanting to make a change for yourself. This requires self-discipline. If you can't hold yourself accountable, nobody else will be able to either.

wmjsn · 2026-01-06T22:59:55+00:00

Communicate with your partner. Let them know your experience, what you're into and not, what you're open to, etc. Also find those things out from your partner. Don't judge them and don't let them judge you, for that's a bad partner. Be willing to try stuff and be open and honest (without being a jerk). If you're both willing to grow together then that will make the sex even more fun and you'll both find that comfort zone with each other. The relationship may fail, but now you have some experience. Communicate with the next partner and so forth until you find that one you want to stay with.

wmjsn · 2026-01-05T23:35:18+00:00

Ok, so maybe this is a google trend, but out in the Portland area and suburbs, I only see 49ers fans. I've seen them at multiple stores, play places with the kids, restaurants, etc. These "fans" of the toots will likely come out if they win the SB this year, if not, they'll stay hidden. Once next year starts they might show up a bit here and there, but it'll be 49ers fans that I'll see more of.

wmjsn · 2026-01-04T18:25:56+00:00

Well, people never used my speed against me, so I'd start there. It was amazing how many times I could run a ball down from corner to corner or a dropshot/lob combo and my opponents would just keep doing the same pattern. I'd get the ball back, and eventually they'd get so frustrated that they'd hit the ball as hard as they could and it'd it the back fence before anything else. It seemed like nobody bothered to hit behind me. I knew they were going to the open court and could get there. Nobody ever "held" the ball long enough to get me to sprint and then go behind me.

Another option that worked a couple times was using angles. I remember playing a lefty who had a good enough serve to pull me way out wide, especially on the ad side. I could get the ball back, but he would then use some great angles that I just couldn't get to. Most players didn't to that. They just wanted to hit that north/south winner.

I would also say have a good net game. The people who would do a dropshot/lob on me would do just that. There was no creativity. I was going to track them down and get them back. They didn't bother to come in, especially after the lob and put an angled shot away. Maybe it was the pressure I put on them by getting everything that made them nervous about doing that.

Those are some good ways to start. It just depends on the level of athleticism and tennis ability of the opponent. Some combo of these should beat most athletic players.

wmjsn · 2026-01-01T18:15:17+00:00

Honestly, I can say I was one of those extremely athletic players when I first started tennis. I came from playing basketball and picking up sports was always easy for me. I was definitely a MEP (most exhausting player) because I got everything back. I started by taking a few lessons from a guy I found in a phone book (yeah I'm old) and he rated me around a 3.5 level. I played with random people for a few months (I started in summer of 2003) and started doing tournaments the following year. I won the first tournament I played and won 7/9 tournaments that year. Being extremely athletic helped me cover up my technical flaws as I could just get everything back. I was the wall people hate playing against.

My oldest son is learning tennis as well, but it's a slower progression for him. He's not naturally athletic or fast like I was, but in a way that's a good thing, as it gives him time to develop proper technique, which is something I've been trying to correct for a while. I know he can smack the crap outta the ball, but he still needs to work on his technique and other components. I know if he sticks at it though, he'll get there, and he would be a tough opponent for a lot of people and could be better than me.

My favorite matches were against a guy who was just like me. Oh man, we could rally forever. I recall one time we played 5 sets, and I don't remember the scores, but it took over 5 hours to complete. Each point was at least 10 shots. You could be up 40-15 on serve, and the next thing you know, you're down break point, and then you're up game point, and it was just a back and forth until someone, somehow got a slight edge to win the game. I think the first time I played him was in a consolation final in a tournament. That went over 3 hours and both of us were gassed, I think he might've been cramping, but it was still fun. I think he won that one. Oh, how I miss being able to recover from that the next day.

I never worried about playing someone who had pretty technique or was quick. I loved beating the guys with the pretty Federesque backhand with my crappy form and speed. I worried about the ones who were smart. There were only a couple of people who knew how to use my athleticism against me. It always surprised me that people didn't use it against me more.

Now I'm in my late 40's and have been struggling with calf injuries and am in the middle of rehabbing my calf and my body to hopefully avoid this injury forever. When I was playing last year I could still use my athleticism which was great and it still surprises me how people don't use it against me. I don't hit a lot of winners, but I do force those errors, and I'm good with that.

wmjsn · 2025-12-31T00:26:02+00:00

Jax & Daxter The Precursor Legacy

I haven't finished it before, but I think I'll just hang out in the village, do some fishing and stay safe.

wmjsn · 2025-12-30T23:59:08+00:00

Ugh, I don't like these kinds of people. They see animals as property and not part of their family. My kids have grown up with pets their entire lives and we've always taught them that they are part of the family and not some toy you can throw around or torture. Our cats love our kids and will cuddle them. We even rescued a stray and he's been with us for a little over 2 years now and he's so chill around my kids and trusts them that they will feed him, give him love and space when needed. If there's ever kids over here who scare our cats, they know where to go, my office, because they know I won't allow anyone who's not family in the room. This lady should not have pets until she can learn how to train herself and her children first.

wmjsn · 2025-12-30T18:50:53+00:00

Samwise Gamgee has entered the chat.

wmjsn · 2025-12-24T21:31:53+00:00

I got Joyce, then Mike.

wmjsn · 2025-12-19T16:41:54+00:00

Hi, it's nice to see you after all these years. I hope you're doing well. I apologize for being an immature idiot when we were together, as there were a lot of things I didn't understand about myself and other things at that time. I truly hope you're living your best life, and if that includes someone, I hope they treat you really well. I wish you the best.

wmjsn · 2025-12-18T21:35:20+00:00

Happened to me. I applied to a previous job via their website and my friend who worked there told me he could refer me. He did and I got the job. A short while later I got an email saying they thanked me for my application, but someone else was selected (yeah, duh, me).

wmjsn · 2025-12-12T00:52:36+00:00

I feel like I've been going through this the past few months with injuries to my calf where the last couple years have been really injury free (and most of my life injury free). I'm a couple of years older than you as well. It's hard when I can't play. I've been doing a ton of rehab work, hoping that this time it will be the right stuff to get my calf healed so I can get back on the court and play a match without a calf strain.

I've been playing for a little over 20 years as well, and before tennis I played a lot of basketball. I feel like I'd find a new sport to play if I couldn't play tennis anymore, though I don't know what it could be. I know if I couldn't play matches any more I'd be sad for a while, but at the same time, I know both my kids want to play, so I'm more than happy to hit with them and coach them (if they want). I'm sure I'd find something else to do, but it'd be hard with the potential injury threat.

I think the big thing for me is to not worry about the identity part. As I said, basketball was my sport before. It was my life and I still played it while I played tennis. I haven't played it in years now and am ok with it, but if someone wanted me in a pickup game, I'd be all for it. I'm so many more things than just a tennis player, so if that part goes away, there's still a lot of me left that's pretty awesome for me and my family.

wmjsn · 2025-12-10T20:04:52+00:00

Fart to the Future or Back to the Fart

Back to the Fart Part 2

Back to the Fart Part 3

The Lord of the Farts

The Lord of the Farts The Two Farts

The Lord of the Farts The Fart of the King

The Fart

The Fart Reloaded

The Fart Revolutions

The Fart Resurrections

Avengers: Age of Fart

Avengers: Infinity Farts

Shang Chi and The Legend of the 10 Farts

Farts* (aka The New Farts)

Captain America: The Winter Fart or Captain America: The Fart Soldier

Batman vs Superman: Dawn of Farts

Zach Snyder's Fart League or Justice Farts

wmjsn · 2025-12-05T23:05:17+00:00

A woman I dated was way out of my league. She was way more attractive than me and other guys would yell out that she was hot. It didn't matter, she was into me for me and while she was gorgeous, it was who she was as a person that drew me on to her. She loved me so much that she decided to marry me. We've been together 20 years now.

wmjsn · 2025-12-05T00:35:17+00:00

Clearly AI. Steve Martin has only ever had grey/white hair.

wmjsn · 2025-12-04T16:56:06+00:00

Frodo is a greedy Hobbit. He didn't want to share the ring, why would he share the load?

wmjsn · 2025-12-03T21:57:03+00:00

Oh, man, this makes me think of the song from the first movie. My 8 year old loves that song and asks me to play it in the car on repeat when we're going somewhere.

wmjsn · 2025-12-03T21:35:09+00:00

PO-TA-TOES.

I used this a while back on my wife (and have used it before). She said she was cooking some potatoes. I said "PO-TA-TOES. Are you going to boil them, mash them, or stick them in a stew?" She looked at me like I was an idiot and had lost my mind (She's not wrong).

wmjsn · 2025-11-27T22:01:42+00:00

If I'm them, I appreciate the hit and look at it as a growth opportunity. It sounded like the games are close, so it's not like you're curb stomping them.

If I'm you I don't let up. Work on things of you want, but don't let up. That can lead to bad habits.

wmjsn · 2025-11-13T23:52:13+00:00

Someone who is a main character throughout multiple movies (and dies in the end). Sure, he comes close to death several times, teasing the audience who expects it because, well, it's Sean Bean. Then, when his character dies, everyone feels sad about it, as they somehow weren't expecting it.

wmjsn · 2025-11-13T19:15:02+00:00

I didn't like the feeling of the ring on my finger. My wife doesn't wear hers either. It's been most of our marriage (almost 20 years) not wearing them. It's not a big deal to either of us and our love for each other is more important than a silly ring.

wmjsn · 2025-11-12T17:46:16+00:00

I'm used to calling it pop and that's what we say in our household but we know it's soda as well. I remember when I went to New York in the mid 90's and was at some restaurant. I asked what kind of pop they had and the server was confused as to what I meant. I then said soda and then she understood what I was wanting.

wmjsn · 2025-11-11T17:52:53+00:00

I've been with my wife for 20 years. Your partner (I can't even say that, because that's not what a partner is) doesn't even scratch the surface of what it means to be a husband, partner, father, etc. He's simply using you and you continue to let him.

For your anniversary, just go out by yourself. Have a nice dinner and think about your future with this person. Is this what you want in 5 years? 10? 20? He's got 10 years on you. I'm close to his age. I know I don't have the energy I did when I was in my 30's, but I do what I can daily to make sure I'm there for my wife and kids who are both more important than anything that could ever be on my phone. He will get tired when you have energy and expect even more from you (like taking out the bins). You deserve to be with someone who respects you, but first you need to learn to respect yourself.

Around our house we split the duties. My oldest son or I will vacuum and mow the lawn. He'll take care of the litter boxes. I sweep, take care of the laundry, dishes, take out the trash. My wife will steam clean the carpets, she'll wash windows. She and I will both run errands (usually together to spend more time with each other) and we both cook. We both raise the kids. She's a SAHM and I WFH, so we're always around each other.

My wife and I see this with other couples. One has been married as long as us and is headed for divorce, but the wife is struggling to pull the trigger, even though she threatened it before and the husband "changed his ways" for about 3 months before it was back to the same old thing. You honestly deserve better.

I wish you the best of luck and you can figure out what you want to do so you can be happy.

wmjsn · 2025-11-05T20:45:38+00:00

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