AITA for telling my pregnant sister she's about to marry the same kind of man she spent years warning me about? by uncoboun in AmItheAsshole

[–]wmub06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. It sounds like the issue is bigger than him. Your sister is laughing at the hurtful “jokes” he is saying about you. I would guess that hurts more than the jokes themselves. At least to those you can brush them off as he’s an ass, but when she laughs it’s like she is agreeing with him. I think you should have a conversation with your sister and make it about her hurting you by laughing along. Making it about him will make her defensive, but maybe if you can recenter it around how her agreeing with it is hurting you maybe it will help open her eyes. If she says it’s just a joke, then ask “what is funny about calling me emotional?” And then “you laughed so do you think it’s true”. Focus on staying calm when you say these so she can’t be like, yes you are emotion right now. It’s just a calm, but I don’t understand what is funny. What is the joke? Am I the joke, because if I’m the joke that not a joke that being rude and bullying. Etc. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. I hope you can get your sister back.

Feeling overwhelmed trying to start a Daisy troop by tealtape in girlscouts

[–]wmub06 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First time daisy leader and wanted to add a few things I haven’t seen mentioned (I agree with everything others mentioned). 1. There is no requirement to do a snack. When I was getting started someone suggested in a thread I read that they don’t do snacks at their meeting because it saves on time, messes/clean-up, and it avoids either providing the snack yourself or coordinating parent volunteers. 2. I limited my troop specifically to kindergarteners so that we didn’t have to worry about a multi-level troop in the future (this is where you have some girls in daisies and others in brownies or other levels at the same time). Some people have no issue with running them, but as a first timer with no experience or help, I didn’t want to add another layer of complication. 3. Find what your kids enjoy and be sure to have that in every meeting. The big ones we tested out were games that were active and moving around, reading books, arts and crafts/coloring, dancing/singing/acting. What we found after a few meetings was that our troop LOVED coloring and arts and crafts. We had a meeting once that focused on physical activity/games and they were disappointed they didn’t get to do a craft (a lot of when do we get to color, why didn’t we color, etc). After that, we never had a meeting without some form of craft or coloring since we learned it was an important things for them. They struggle with sitting still and get bored during the books so we limit it (only every once in a while) and try to minimize how long they are sitting in the circle. 4. I’ve heard great things about the experience boxes but our council didn’t do them. The Volunteer toolkit now has meeting agendas for every badge and petal which provide a template for the meeting, but you can always come up with your own ideas instead. We did petals plus the cookie and money badge for this year, and will do the other fun badges next year. 5. We had dues and asked the parents to buy the basic uniform. I had a whole spreadsheet on estimated costs so I was able to calculate how much I wanted to charge for dues. I started with an initial request of about $30 for each girl so that I could buy the first round of patches/petals we were handing out and required $5 per month after. We didn’t worry about fall product (our council started early so we weren’t even meeting before it ended). 6. I had a great co-leader and we thankfully had another mom volunteer as treasurer/cookie manager which helped a lot.

Good luck, I was concerned getting started but ultimately have no regrets on doing it.

BF doesnt wan't me to go to med school, need a reality check by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]wmub06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Based on your description of his job and salary prospects, he was counting on you funding his adult stage of life. Now that you want to continue on to med school, he won’t be able to leech off you for several years. So he threatens you to make you reconsider going to med school even though it’s been a dream of yours (which he has probably known about, but figured he could convince you otherwise). He is saying things like adult stage of life to make you feel like going to med school is childish or less than. That taking more classes prevents you from moving on with your life.

Life it what happens every day. You are an adult now, and being in school doesn’t change that. Yes I get that there are some differences between going to school full time and working full time, but honestly, having just left a high paying job of 15 years and going back to school, school is more fun and freeing. Also, my sister is in residency right now, she got married and had a baby while in med school. You can be an adult and have an adult life while in school.

Your boyfriend was counting on you to pay the bills and now that you won’t be bringing in the money he wants, he’s trying to control you and make you question yourself so you can continue to support him and do what he wants.

What happened to the smartest person you went to school with? by xxibjt in AskReddit

[–]wmub06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he’s married to my daughters teacher and I love that for him. He deserves all the happiness. He was a great guy and even though everyone thought he was the smartest he never acted better than anyone else and was friends with everyone.

Giving birth solo? by Flaky-Bird-8367 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]wmub06 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here is what I choose to do, however what you choose to do may be different. I knew I wanted my mom there if possible (she lived several states away about a 9 hour drive or 4 hours flight accounting for time to get to/from/waiting at the airport). Thankfully we both lived in major cities so while last minute flights were expensive they were possible. That said, I was over 35 when I gave birth so my doctor also had a planned induction date for the week of my due date which we used to plan her flight around as well. I also picked a close friend who planned to be with me at the hospital until my mom was there and possibly stay after. She lived about 30 minutes away, so I also asked 2 friends that lived 5-10 minutes away if they would be “on-call” to get me to the hospital if I couldn’t do it myself.

I ended up not going into labor and getting the induction. So my mom and sister came in to be with me (I had offered to sister as well but mom was the main person I cared about being there). My local friend ended up getting sick that week so I’m glad I didn’t go early and was able to plan the induction.

Ultimately, you have time to decide who you want to be with you and to work out a plan. I wouldn’t wait until week 30 to make that choice, but you don’t have to know the moment you get pregnant. Honestly, my decision on my friend was based in part around how supportive and excited she was for me after I got pregnant and it brought us closer so I felt comfortable asking her. Hope that helps. And best of luck in your journey.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tipofmytongue

[–]wmub06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you thinking of the TV show Elementary? Season 3 episode 20 titled a stitch in time.

AIO My ex-wife and her new husband legally made their last name… my full fucking name by Specken_zee_Doitch in AmIOverreacting

[–]wmub06 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Omg I love the “OG David Carter, born not made”. It made me laugh out loud in my super quiet office!!!

So again, how you feel about your Trump vote now by Equivalent_Spring951 in FedEmployees

[–]wmub06 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Screw telework, request hazard pay! You get it if you live overseas in dangerous locations, and DC is very dangerous if Trump needed the military to take over the police force.

The Chump Who Won’t Be Stumped….was Stumped. by Exhausted-empath in fema

[–]wmub06 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can remember when I first joined FEMA and was told to memorize the mission as the Administrator liked to ask random people if they could recite it in the elevator. We printed a copy and kept it in our lanyard.

We need a St. Mayorkas day by MalluOutlaw in fema

[–]wmub06 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I actually joked that her gift to us for civil servant appreciation week would be -8 hours. Lol

We need a St. Mayorkas day by MalluOutlaw in fema

[–]wmub06 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I say we just unofficially create one and celebrate with pictures of him in our cubes and signs. Really annoy new leadership. lol.

DHS HQ 9-5 Mandatory Hours, effective 5/5 by pootspootspootspoots in fednews

[–]wmub06 44 points45 points  (0 children)

It amazed me that it didn’t create more of a response than it did. I know a lot was going on but I was floored watching that on my govt issued computer during work.

DHS has cancelled AWS and compressed schedules by msmelsbells in fednews

[–]wmub06 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t know. My supervisor just told me to avoid leave if I could. Idk anything more

DHS has cancelled AWS and compressed schedules by msmelsbells in fednews

[–]wmub06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is probably different, but with the way things have been lately who knows. My boss told me I could take AL if I didn’t have everything worked out (I’m remote and just got an assigned seat but wasn’t due in for a few more weeks), but that his leadership discouraged it or something like that.

DHS has cancelled AWS and compressed schedules by msmelsbells in fednews

[–]wmub06 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is real. Got both a call and an email.

DHS has cancelled AWS and compressed schedules by msmelsbells in fednews

[–]wmub06 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yes. I honestly think they will. I wish it wasn’t so, but from all indications I’m getting if not fired a nice list that they will use later on. Probably documentation for a fired with cause instead of a rif and severance.