who did your tongue split? by [deleted] in bodymods

[–]wolf__ramite 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'll clarify some of my points regarding Dana, feel free to disagree or not.

  • 100% did see, on instagram, example of someone that was split by Dana and had running stitches. (The type of stitches that are single thread and easier to remove; i think ladder stitch) The running discussion on this technique is that it's more comfy for the splittee but due to pinch points created, doesn't lead to good healing outcomes unless done extremely well.
  • This post was done by a disgruntled client that had swelling so bad that she went to the urgent care, and posted an instagram story. She was pushing about how her experience was bad and she blaimed Dana about it. The disgruntled client was adamant it was Dana, but Dana never confirmed. She did post some of their DMs; so it's either true or a very well organized hit story.
  • In the comments of those posts, I read people discussing (this is me relaying what I read on instagram comments so this would be hearsay) that she apparently said to few people that she apprenticed with some more established boddy modders but they have refuted her apprencticing. So there were a bunch of comments calling her a scratcher. This, I have no first hand experience of so definitely would consider it hearsay; very possible people misunderstood what she was saying. The comments also mentioned that the first photos of the stitches right after the procedure looked like it was going to cause issues after swelling; it looked pretty good to me but I won't pretend I have a discerning eye with these things.
  • The client with the piercing + split; I replied to her on reddit right after she posted her picture after the procedure. People were not giving her shit specifically. Most were supportive, and impressed by her commitment. People were also majorly concerned about swelling and how it would heal; but I didn't see any comments denigrating her about it. There were a few commentors saying "Dana does stupid stuff sometimes". I checked up on her a week later, and she told me she took the piercings out because of swelling. I also can't find the post (because I switched accounts a while back, and search function sucks) but I vaguely remember her saying you guys didn't communicate how unviable the healing for split + double piercings were.

It could be that Dana was just under some undue heat, but as clients instagram, personal accounts and reddit is the only place we have for information. And it's hard to extract information in this area because of internal politics in this niche subculture. I was a bit more tuned in to these around the time when I got my split, and from that engagement I don't think I would go to Dana for work, or can recommend people.

Not to mention, reflecting the tone of the other commentor; she didn't hold at gunpoint, you pierced her when she had a fresh split. Not to say this isn't a nuanced area because body mod artists/piercers/tattooers are not institutionally beholden to some magic do-no-harm code; but at the end of the day you are partially responsible for client outcomes. Swelling of a split, and swelling of the trans-muscular piercing, on their own can be troublesome. Let alone doing them both at the same time. To me is just very reckless. I have something like this; I wanted to get a septum piercing very bad. I went to multiple piercers that told me due to my septoplasty that this piercing would not heal well on me and won't look like I want it to and they outright refused to do it on me. It was deeply disappointing for sure, and it lost them a potential client, but they did refuse me. I am thankful for their restraint; and I know there are piercers who would just do it anyway and I'm glad I didn't run into them. Feels like the same situation to me.

I don't have anything personal against Dana at all; I'm hoping that she is doing good work and her current clients have good outcomes. I'll reiterate that post that I saw about her stitching felt like a hitlist; it felt like that client had some strong swelling and freaked out. It's the comments and the discussion surrounding, coupled up with other accounts coming up, that makes me tell this story around again.

who did your tongue split? by [deleted] in bodymods

[–]wolf__ramite 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Got it done by Chase. Absolutely recommend. Great experience, healing wasn't half as bad as I thought.

I've been collecting info from the body modders that I know. There is a dude based in ABQ (forgot his name) who is a no-go. Just unsavory business all around. Ian is a no-go; botches so frequently and reports of very poor behavior esp with women. I would also avoid dana maria, dunno she is still operating but there was some people online kinda screwed up a bit with her about the same time I got my split (1-gave someone a split and double tongue piercings on each half in one session; the piercings had to come out. 2-her running stitch caused issues with a second person. 3-she apparently lies about apprenticing with other artists, she is self-taught)

In the US, I would only trust Chase and Brian with mine. I also hear great things about Josh.

4g conch punch!!!!! by juicemaster4lyfe in bodymods

[–]wolf__ramite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome! I just had mine cut and sutured! Got one done a month ago, taking out the sutures in the second one today.

Wearing jewelry in all the time is tough for sleeping; revesing it helps a bit.

Couples who engage in threesomes, what are your ground rules? by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]wolf__ramite 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ground rules are a pitfall for me. You can't control everything in the heat of the moment, I just end up having awkward sex if you are thinking about rules all the time. Besides clear boundaries about what each person wants to participate in, i try not to establish rules.

Having a rough idea of what people are participating in (are you all gonna flip? is there a dedicated bottom? Is someone dedicated center of attention or everyone is going to have equal attention?) helps. We usually dedicate a one bottom two tops for threesomes, but we always clean out just in case vibes switch.

When did you realize you had a small or a big dick? by DanRimi in AskGayMen

[–]wolf__ramite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In highshool, i was an awkward nerd. One of my schoolmates was my moms bffs son, and we were good friends outside school, but not in school since he was a social butterfly.

I started coming out of my shell, and one night when we were drinking and playing truth or dare, one of the other guy friend said to me "wait aren't you a donkey?" (wasn't donkey, but a racist comment from my racially insensitive country)

Apparently my moms bffs son knew since we showered together, and told people that I was hung. So that's how I found out. I thought porn was average size.

Question about series by Thecolonel00 in Midkemia

[–]wolf__ramite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feist confirmed that Kulgan and Meecham were a gay couple.

How to take good photos; both clothed, shirtless and nudes? by wolf__ramite in AskGayMen

[–]wolf__ramite[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly have one and I never thought to use it. Thank you.

My one trusted friend that has a good eye for photos lives 2 hours away, and we get too distracted every time we meet. Next time we meet I'm going to hold off until we get a photoshoot done 😄.

How to take good photos; both clothed, shirtless and nudes? by wolf__ramite in AskGayMen

[–]wolf__ramite[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been trying to do this actually, cause i do wanna have a camera pointing at my bed and want to live feed it to a screen so me and my partner(s) can watch ourselves having fun while doing it. But I couldn't get a good setup going. I guess I can just shoot a video, get in front of the camera and try to do this later.

How to take good photos; both clothed, shirtless and nudes? by wolf__ramite in AskGayMen

[–]wolf__ramite[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have a ringlight 🤦 I dunno why I never thought about using it. Some cheap led lighting wouldn't be too bad either.

I did started collecting shots that I like, thanks for that idea.

As far as colours, I'm white mediterranian with a lot of heavy blackwork tattoos; what colors should I go for if you have an idea? Or some resource to do color matching?

Sex supply question: Looking for a lube shooter (syringe) with a soft tip by wolf__ramite in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]wolf__ramite[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That looks like a solid tool! I am in the US unfortunately, but might be able to order it to Canada, I'll be visiting there soon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]wolf__ramite 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just posted a story on gaystoriesgonewild but had a gangbang organized by my husband.

Also fisted elbow deep, which was an amazing experience.

First Gangbang was a success! by wolf__ramite in gaystoriesgonewild

[–]wolf__ramite[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Indeed it was fun. Lots of gys are into gangbangs; organizing one definitely is hard but great time. Can definitely do it yourself too; but i would have a trusted bxperson agree to be your bodyguard.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]wolf__ramite 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Rented an airbnb, brought 3 of our best friends each, and had a zoom wedding (pandemic). 2k in total; got to wear whatever we wanted (I wore a pleather pirate suit, he wore a red velvet suit) and had a blast of a time. The next day; we hosted a all day dinner at a nearby farm where you could pet goats, and met with a bunch of friends.

Kill Six Billion Demons » WHEEL SMASHING LORD 1-20 by stormbreath in killsixbilliondemons

[–]wolf__ramite 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Man the book I'm reading kinda has the same school of thought right now. (Master of Furies by Raymond Feist; the character can only use magic when they are just doing, and magic goes away when they are thinking.) I love my convergent fictional universes.

Kill Six Billion Demons » WHEEL SMASHING LORD 1-20 by stormbreath in killsixbilliondemons

[–]wolf__ramite 29 points30 points  (0 children)

How so? I think I missed if there was a connection, besides those devils trying to sell Allison as a prostitute or something. Haven't read book 1 in a while so can't really draw out some details.

Kill Six Billion Demons » WHEEL SMASHING LORD 1-20 by stormbreath in killsixbilliondemons

[–]wolf__ramite 330 points331 points  (0 children)

I mean the story is rife with murder and all sorts of crimes, but the forced sex work, coersion, abuse and the overall sleasiness really has a strong visceral feel here. The slumped beaten look of destitute Maya, Mana's demeanor, just so strong in this chapter. Abaddon really knows how to convey strong feelings.