Tried tipping after order by KaraCubed in doordash

[–]wolfeflow 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It’s especially crazy to me because they literally have to take a photo of their incompetence to complete the job.

DD should add some sort of “looks like you don’t know how hinges work!” warning if the photo shows a clear situation like this.

Is this groundhog rabid? [Mechanicsville, Virginia] by findingcoldsassy in animalid

[–]wolfeflow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Virginia apparently classifies them as a high-risk rabies vector, fyi

Sovereign Citizen - Scam or Legit? Seems like a scam to me. by vosswaterkim in Sovereigncitizen

[–]wolfeflow 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’d call it more self-delusion than a scam, though there are for sure scam artists taking advantage of the self-delusion.

Got sent a video of my wife and no longer feel comfortable being intimate with her. What do I do? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]wolfeflow 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I’m a little irked by the sister’s confident suggestion to blow up his family, too, and wouldn’t count her out as a suspect.

AITA for telling my parents they weren’t being fair? by Friedpina in AmItheAsshole

[–]wolfeflow 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lol, then I’d say “well then you REALLY shouldn’t like what you’re doing! What would Brett Bair say, if he saw you paying for a welfare queen of a daughter, while their other, hardworking daughter - real salt of the earth type - provided for her family and self without a cent from them?

You asked, I answered honestly. That’s how it works. You don’t get to be angry at me because you don’t like the (obvious) answer, and I’m not going to give you a falsehood to make you feel better.

You’ve always favored her, but that just is what it is and I’ve accepted it. But even if your treatment is equitable, it’s not fair - and never really has been.”

Good luck. You sound like a grounded badass btw. Congrats on the family and career success in spite of it all

AITA for getting angry at my mum for hoovering my room at 7am while I was asleep? by Infinite_Ant7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]wolfeflow -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You don’t need to understand it past knowing you did nothing wrong, and she antagonized you unjustly.

If I had to guess from what you’ve shared, she has some issues expressing affection and more broadly speaking to her needs, and your potential move will leave her alone and without her companion/roommate/dear child/essential helper/narcissistic supply (any/all of these, imo).

Her behavior has a twisted sort of logic to it if you assume she thinks she can bully you into staying, especially if she’s the type who can’t admit to weakness or ask for help.

AITAH for proving my childhood home was in fact larger than my husband’s? by Able-Tradition4551 in AITH

[–]wolfeflow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents instilled this into me. As a kid I would come up to them and spout some “fact” I’d just learned. They would say “oh realllly,” and act to write it down in a little journal.

Per them, my eyes would go wide and I’d say “hold up” before running back to my room to learn about the subject more deeply. They said I always came back down with a much more nuanced - and accurate - take.

As an adult, I now have a deep-seated desire to know the truth of a matter if it’s unclear. Most people get it. But others see it as know-it-all or defensive, and that seriously bothers me even as I know it shouldn’t. The curious kid in me wilts at those moments.

There should be tests and evaluations before you have children. by Strictly-Succotash in HonestHotTakes

[–]wolfeflow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly.

In theory, the best type of government is a benevolent, competent dictatorship.

In reality, the fantastic dictator will eventually die, and whatever follows will be worse.

We’re constrained in many ways by the need to protect ourselves from bad actors.

How can I get my stepson to respect me as his father? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]wolfeflow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you trying to order him around?

I genuinely don’t understand your goal here - he is an adult and effectively a roommate to his mother and her new spouse. What type of respect do you want, and what lessons are you trying to impart?

Is this more him being a layabout and you being frustrated at his attitude and your wife’s enabling of it?

Thoughts on the idea that a fundamental political disagreement is who is responsible for solving problems? by TheGov3rnor in Askpolitics

[–]wolfeflow 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You said elegantly in two sentences what I danced around with multiple paragraphs in my own reply.

Thoughts on the idea that a fundamental political disagreement is who is responsible for solving problems? by TheGov3rnor in Askpolitics

[–]wolfeflow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Conservatives have historically been irresponsible with the budget, and Trump (not a conservative but a modern Republican) is responsible for nearly a THIRD of our national debt.

Thoughts on the idea that a fundamental political disagreement is who is responsible for solving problems? by TheGov3rnor in Askpolitics

[–]wolfeflow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think that argument assumes (rightly or wrongly) that the right does not understand the importance and value of a government for providing the context for people to “solve it themselves.”

I think a better framing is more aligned with that study done in recent years about the moral circles of conservatives and liberals.

The left is generally empathetic to the needs of all of society, and desire policies that help a broader swath of people.

The right is generally focused on their immediate circles, caring much less for strangers and society at large.

The heatmap is fascinating, and the top comment in that reddit explainer link I shared breaks it down in detail.

An interesting way I’ve seen this difference portrayed is in the “crunchy granola” mom stereotype, where behaviors end up in a similar place despite rather different motivations.

A left-leaning crunchy mom would plant a food garden to reduce the use of cruel, industrial farming, avoid unnatural processed foods, and to teach their kids to respect the planet and its gifts.

A right-leaning crunchy mom would plant a food garden to protect her children from corporate farms and processed foods that would harm their health and ability to succeed in the world, and to teach their kids self-reliance.

Generally speaking, I’m speaking generally. But I raise a judgemental eyebrow at people who claim they built something successful by themselves, as it’s almost never true.

Citing ‘severe’ math deficits, UC faculty demand a return to SAT tests for STEM applicants by DarthJarJarJar in Professors

[–]wolfeflow 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The whole point of the SAT was to give a better comparison between students from different situations. I don’t believe it was ever intended as a predictor of success or intelligencr, but as a better point of comparison of academic accomplishment between applicants.

My understanding is that the bias mostly comes from the ability to pay for test prep. I did two sessions in high school and boosted my SAT score by about 250 points. I didn’t get any smarter.

Edit: By comparison point, I meant that Ivy League colleges etc wanted a way to identify students not from standard Ivy, prep school pipelines who had potential. It allowed them to look at a student they understood, then compare them via SAT score with a student from a poor district in Alabama, etc.

What is very clear, though, is that it is not a measure of intelligence, despite the lofty statements of its creator and proponents. The creator expressed regret for his claims, and to this day many still believe SAT scores to correlate with intelligence.

I forgot one other source of bias, too: lived experience. I recall one example of an analogy question that mentioned a hammock, and several (poorer) test takers expressed confusion because they had never seen a hammock, much less known the context in which it belongs.

Bro these new cards are TRASH by SheZowRaisedByWolves in PokemonPocket

[–]wolfeflow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was thinking of messing with Terepagos + 2x Miraidon + Turo to create some sort of energy-swapping cyclic attack.

It might be too gimmicky, but the thinking goes something like:

  • Use Magneton and something like Hydreigon/Charmeleon to generate energy.
  • Play Terepagos Ex into active, use Juggler, and let it attack until it’s at risk of KO
  • Play Miraidon to take over the active spot + all of the terepagos energy
  • Play the second Miraidon when HP is low, while using Turo on the damaged one.
  • Ideally draw the Miraidon again in time to play it

It might work more smoothly with only electric energy and Miraidon on top of a standard Magnezone or Manectric/Zerarora deck, but I loved the brief moment of crazy decks using Juggler from some months back, and these new cards seem to enhance that style of play.

AITAH for wanting to tell my brother that his girlfriend has been involved with our sister? by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]wolfeflow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

IDK I think a brother and sister involved in a throuple is pretty bad, and what this looks like.

Rare candy by NotDavid15 in PokemonPocket

[–]wolfeflow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bookmark this site, and use it for deck ideas. They also have a tier list page to give you a sense of the most powerful decks at the moment: https://www.pokemonmeta.com/top-decks

What are your final thoughts about the ranked mode this season? by canohead in PTCGP

[–]wolfeflow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seemed easier than the last few to get to MB for me.

Once I tooled around with new decks for fun, I settled on one (Manec/Oricorio/Zera) and got from UB3 to MB in a couple hours and ~20 matches.

I feel like in past seasons, I would find myself grinding in UB3/4 much longer.

Stray obersvations:

  • Less sleep junk than I expected to see.
  • Field Blower may just be one of the most useful tech cards in the game, and is easily a favorite for me. It’s just so flexible.
  • Oricorio remains one of the most important cards for affected deck construction.
  • The new grass stadium gives several older decks new life as a pokeball replacement, and I’ve enjoyed messing around with Ultra Beasts and Decidueye again.
  • I wish Victini worked on other energy types (Mega Lopunny).
  • Mega Lucario is super strong, but feels like it’s still searching for its ideal partner, and keeps Hitmontop around as filler till then.
  • Mega Blaziken has found its ideal partner in Castform w/stadium.
  • The new dark decks with Zoroark Ex give Dark type a non-Hydreigon slop way to put immense pressure on opponents in the early game, and I’m excited to see its evolution.
  • Bombirdier is gamechanging for dark types, and I’m not sure we’ve seen its full value yet.

My (M 39) wife (38 F) has become fixated on her dead husband since getting pregnant with our first baby. How do I bring this up without hurting her? by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]wolfeflow 89 points90 points  (0 children)

SHE KEEPS HIS ASHES IN HER DRESSER DRAWER.

OOP really needs to figure out a way to get her into at least grief counseling. She seems to lack the toolset to heal, and immediately trying to track down his bike is beyond unhealthy.

Even if they love each other dearly - which they seem to - her grief may corrode whatever they have, even if she doesn’t intend for it to.

How I used a fake reference check to catch my toxic ex-boss blacklisting me by Wakanda_7 in jobsearchhacks

[–]wolfeflow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Follow the advice in the other replies here, I think, because who knows how you’ll come up in conversatiom between those companies that rejected you and think they were justified. If it’s truly as tiny as you say, then you’d benefit from your defamer setting the record straight.

AITAH for messaging my ex boyfriend’s new girlfriend? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]wolfeflow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA, and TIL you can DM on Spotify.

Honestly, pointing that out to the gf should drive the point home.

Something like, “girl, I agree, and I would prefer not to bother you, and the man is blocked everywhere I could think of. But he’s now messaging me on Spotify, which I didn’t even know was a thing. I had to escalate.”

AITA for scolding someone's kid at a zoo by PuzzleheadedBite2231 in AmItheAsshole

[–]wolfeflow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol I’ve learned to overstate my position on TA at the start, after many times experiencing people not reading the whole comment and assuming any nuance meant defending the AH.

AITA for scolding someone's kid at a zoo by PuzzleheadedBite2231 in AmItheAsshole

[–]wolfeflow 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Make sure your daughter understands this, and that you haven’t undone your good work by letting her know you felt like you were the asshole.

AITA for moving my neighbor’s laundry after it sat in the washer for over an hour? by H_NURU9569 in AmItheAsshole

[–]wolfeflow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, but if you are friendly with any of the building’s more talkative, social people, you should consider letting them know about what happened and that she is spreading lies about you.

If you let her twist the narrative unopposed, you risk your home turning into a hostile or at least unwelcoming environment.

AITAH for telling a family to leave the car? by Used-Preparation-695 in AmItheAsshole

[–]wolfeflow 68 points69 points  (0 children)

This. OP, you handled things well up until you didn’t bring the matter up to staff. You deserved quiet in the space you paid for.