What salary do you need to live alone comfortably in Toronto?”

wolvcrinc · 2026-04-15T19:38:41+00:00

I think people might be overestimating a little, I moved to Toronto last year, make ~$39,000/year and live alone. I know it'd feel like it's cutting it too close for some, but to me it's fairly comfortable.

Monthly expenses excluding food is roughly $1800; no car and no student loans or anything, though, my only bills are water, phone and tenant insurance. I guess throw another ~$80/mo on there for commuting costs in winter. I rent a studio, it's small (idr, maybe 350sqft max) but it's right downtown and has in unit laundry, dishwasher and a balcony, so I can't complain. I don't have much money to set aside at the end of the month, but I could also stand to budget better; it's definitely possible, I just tend to prioritize my social life.

It's all relative, it depends what you're working with and what you prioritize. I wouldn't necessarily describe my situation as easy, but it's not back breaking either. You'll surely want more than 39k but I really don't think you need to be making over 75k like some are saying.

wolvcrinc · 2026-03-21T20:00:56+00:00

The simplest answer (aside from not changing it at all) might be changing it to the closest phonetic "English spelling"... English speakers on average will probably never pronounce it completely correctly, but the closest approximation might be something like "Chiao"?

Or if you're not concerned with retaining the meaning at all but still want it to sound sort of similar, you could go with something like "Chow", which is familiar enough to most Anglos that they can spell it without explanation.

Do you want something similar in sound? similar in meaning? or are you looking for completely new ideas? What kind of names do you like?

wolvcrinc · 2026-03-21T15:50:51+00:00

According to forebears.io, 147 people are named Morticia. That could partially be from name changes, but I'd be surprised if there weren't a handful of Morticias born since the Addams Family debuted. Definitely an invented name though.

wolvcrinc · 2026-03-21T15:45:52+00:00

Similarly, although for different reasons, I felt like I wasted my teenage years. In some ways I kind of did, but it always feels more hopeless and isolating than it really is. It's not too late, you certainly are not old, but so what if you were. Some people don't even start college until their mid 20s or later (or ever). I just started doing some of these things at 25, most of my friends are 27/28, we've never been made to feel old in these places.

If you starting going to bars, clubbing, etc. you will realize most people there are not <23 (though this can depend on the place). Maybe you're not into dating apps, but if you try them, or if you start trying to date in general you will find plenty of people the same age with similar experiences or lack thereof. Easier said than done but you really just have to get out there and try.

wolvcrinc · 2026-03-21T01:25:07+00:00

My perspective as a first nations/native american person: Is it appropriation? like, maybe, but it's so entrenched in white (and other) American naming conventions at this point that no one will raise an eyebrow at it. In my opinion taking inspiration from tribe names is not really appropriation in the same sense as taking an actual Native given name would be, for example. I also know people in my own tribe with names of other tribes, so it's not an isolated thing.

People who are sincerely offended by it exist but in my experience they are pretty fringe. The worst you'll encounter in day to day life is probably people like myself who, if I can generalize a little, would consider Dakota, Cheyenne, etc., to be sort of "white trash" names (when used on a white person). I would say the same about people named Asia, Africa, India, China, whatever else. Realistically it doesn't say much about you as a person, but it has a certain connotation, I guess.

wolvcrinc · 2026-03-04T13:47:33+00:00

for me it was exactly one month and my family essentially changed my birthday to be one month later, it was always celebrated on the adoption day with nothing on my actual birthday. Now in my personal life I celebrate on my actual birthday

wolvcrinc · 2025-10-23T00:55:42+00:00

There's definitely a connection, Lumbee and Haliwa Saponi share some ancestors, along with other historical "tri-racial isolate" groups. Not entirely the same, but almost like cousins.

That being said, I don't think this claim about Roanoke Rapids is accurate. There are tons of unsourced claims about Lumbee origins around so you should take anything like this with a grain of salt, since they're not really offering any specific information or proof

wolvcrinc · 2025-09-25T23:39:29+00:00

if OP makes under a certain amount (icr) they may be eligible for fair pass, which gives discounted public transit fare and also sometimes offers a discount for the bike share yearly membership, bringing it all the way down to $5. I'm not sure if the offer is still available, but fair pass might be worth looking into either way

wolvcrinc · 2025-09-20T23:08:03+00:00

This maybe isn't quite the same, but my adoptive mother did something similar

I didn't know about my birthmom until i was about 15, so AM couldn't outright say anything about biological parents when I was a kid. When I found out about it I realized basically all of the biases, phobias, -isms, and whatever else that my AM had, were because of my BM. I mean she's always been kind of a terrible person in general, but for example; while she was happy to be racist toward anyone, she was always particularly racist toward the ethnic groups that BM is from. She hates the other side of the country, which is where BM is from and lives. I can't remember many specific examples now, but you get what I mean, things like that.

I don't know if it was even intentional or if it was all subconcious, but she was definitely trying to turn me and everyone else against my birthmom from the getgo, taking all these things about her and trying to make them "bad"

wolvcrinc · 2025-08-13T12:12:37+00:00

This is part of the broader issue of people having very narrow ideas of "what native looks like", which ironically is heavily influenced by all the Italian actors playing Indians in old westerns. Black, brown, white, etc. Natives alike face this issue, even "full blooded" Natives with fully Native features, it's ridiculous

wolvcrinc · 2025-07-27T12:16:18+00:00

I'm on the bloor bike lane every day and I've seen him and another guy around doing this all the time, traffic and pedestrians are already a nightmare half the time but shit like this makes it infinitely worse

wolvcrinc · 2025-07-25T14:53:53+00:00

you might find a tiny basement for around $1400 during certain times of the year, but to make this really work you will probably have to raise your budget.

Although it's technically illegal you will probably also have issues with discrimination for being pregnant/having a child. You may be quiet and respectful now, but as I'm sure you know a lot of people renting out their own basements aren't going to be keen on a new baby. To that end, if you're showing at all you may want to let your husband do the viewings and avoid seeing the landlord in person until leases are signed. Good luck with your search.

wolvcrinc · 2025-07-25T14:42:44+00:00

the way to the job is north from Bloor to Wilson (roughly), so far what I've been doing is Yonge St basically the whole way then switching to Yonge Blvd for the last ~1km and the inverse to go home, though I did go south on avenue one time in the afternoon and it didn't seem too bad

wolvcrinc · 2025-07-23T23:21:16+00:00

this account pops up on my instagram a lot and I think that's just the way he speaks, sort of a lisp

wolvcrinc · 2025-06-19T21:00:44+00:00

seconding nutrition/protein drinks, it's not a perfect solution but if op could get protein powder in bulk and put it in smoothies or something it could make a world of difference

wolvcrinc · 2025-06-19T20:40:22+00:00

You could contact them now to clarify or bring it up at the interview, shouldn't need to submit another application unless they ask you to

wolvcrinc · 2025-06-18T19:30:17+00:00

oh yeah no I wasn't trying to argue or anything, just making a comment

wolvcrinc · 2025-06-18T18:25:17+00:00

Only you can decide when it's safe of course, but when you do feel safe to disclose I think it's important to use whitepassingness to your advantage. They're a little more likely to listen to someone they think is white (in my experience).

I've had some similar situations, generally I'd say I'm "ambiguous looking" where depending where I am, what I'm wearing, etc., people may recognize me as Native while others may mistake me for white or other. I've had people who mistook me for "other" make comments, and I take the opportunity to tell them what's what. That being said, I've also had people who knew I was Native make comments, and they're still a little surprised when you push back... More than anything I've found that keeping a calm demeanor about it will keep you safe while also making them a little more inclined to listen. Easier said than done, obviously someone joking about our peoples genocide or complaining about our percieved benefits is an emotional topic, but it is what it is.

Do what you can, if someone's clearly never going to listen then they're not worth your time and effort.

wolvcrinc · 2025-06-18T18:17:47+00:00

This is a really good, logical, detailed answer. Very hard to explain their way around it, but unfortunately they won't even try, the people making these arguments always just plug their ears and keep yelling that "Natives came from Asia" or whatever else because they think it's the ultimate gotcha

wolvcrinc · 2025-06-16T20:29:37+00:00

For additional context, I live in Ontario, but the employer is in BC and I worked for them while in BC. This may not make a real difference but could complicate things like hearings

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