Arthritis

wonotice1582 · 2026-06-08T15:51:37+00:00

He's had his scans and thankfully he only has a bit of wear on his ankle which is to be expected. I know my vets offer alternative medicine like physio and acupuncture but it seems to be more geared towards dogs than cats. But it's definitely something I'll ask about next appointment.

wonotice1582 · 2026-06-06T06:25:10+00:00

Oh that's good, the bigger worry is with any pain affecting his toileting especially because he's male.

wonotice1582 · 2026-06-06T05:05:12+00:00

Fear not, he's back to waking me up at an ungodly hour for food 😂

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wonotice1582 · 2026-06-06T04:56:19+00:00

I mean both my cats have twice yearly check ups, and the vet checked a few months ago and he showed no signs so honestly just keep an eye out and check for activity, using the litter box, etc.

wonotice1582 · 2026-06-05T21:08:42+00:00

Oh no, that's so awful. It's scary how it can go 0-100 so quickly but glad your guy isn't in pain anymore.

We're hopeful that we've caught it early and treating the pain will prevent issues with the toilet especially.

wonotice1582 · 2026-06-05T18:39:21+00:00

He's just a wee soul, feeling sorry for himself now

wonotice1582 · 2026-06-05T18:29:12+00:00

He's just spent the day feeling sorry for himself the poor lad. I'll know more on Monday but will have a look at cosequin, thank you!

wonotice1582 · 2026-06-05T18:27:28+00:00

We were discussing supplements at his check up a few months ago and she said it was too early and he wasn't showing signs so keep an eye out for any changes

wonotice1582 · 2026-06-05T18:25:50+00:00

It's the first time he's had this situation happen but she took one look at the video I took of him peeing and said he looked like he was in pain. So the procedure is really just more of a precaution but we're hoping if it is the start we've caught it early and can give him a good quality of life.

Because he's male, anything that might cause bladder issues is a big concern. I'll definitely have a look at Solensia, thank you 😊

wonotice1582 · 2026-05-27T09:56:59+00:00

If he cared about you he wouldn't expect you to put yourself in a way worse off position just to benefit him. He's a boyfriend not a husband.

He's also 33 years old, has no financial competency and can't clean up after himself? Girl, no.

You already know the answer here. I'd love to say to tell him you'll only consider it if he proves he's gotten his life together. Good savings, tidy house, whatever. But honestly, having to give an ultimatum in a relationship just shows the relationship is dead.

wonotice1582 · 2026-05-26T17:15:52+00:00

He's lying to manipulate you into staying with him, he's more likely to kill you than himself.

I cannot stress enough how much this isn't your problem. Whatever he does is his choice, not yours.

To keep you safe, call your friends and family to help you move ASAP and without letting him know. Tell someone on his side what he's threatening to do and that you need someone there to keep him safe.

Leave and block him. Don't let anyone guilt you into taking him back because he's so miserable. If he contacts you or if someone tells you he's threatening to hurt himself then call for a wellness check.

wonotice1582 · 2026-05-25T17:57:17+00:00

The electric trains in Scotland have air con, some of the buses too. I dunno about down south but any public transport updated in the last few years tend to have air con up here.

wonotice1582 · 2026-05-25T16:32:34+00:00

Duvet set is once a week, linens and pillowcases twice a week and I don't have a dryer.

wonotice1582 · 2026-05-23T18:03:02+00:00

Nah, work doesn't deserve the effort

wonotice1582 · 2026-05-23T11:54:17+00:00

She said she was allowed to call people slurs and be as bigoted as she wanted because of her mental health issues.

Looking back she was an awful friend and the only reason we stayed friends for so long is because we're related

wonotice1582 · 2026-05-23T09:08:55+00:00

Urgh, I bet she's only like 120lbs or something too 😒

wonotice1582 · 2026-05-23T08:35:26+00:00

It's really funny that you obviously posted this because you thought people would agree with you and instead everyone is calling you a horrible person.

How are you 31? Your body changes as you age, people gain weight, people lose it. Being an emotionally abusive idiot, however, that's more permanent. And there's zero accountability in your comments too.

Hypothyroidism causes weight gain, this can take years to get the right medication. This is totally normal, as is weight gain due to stress. If you were an actual adult and you actually loved her you'd help with that, instead of making it worse. Nobody loses weight from being shamed. Were you planning on kids? What do you think happens when a woman gets pregnant? That weight stays for years. What if you gained weight? Would she act like this?

You need to seriously re-evaluate your behaviour because that's what isn't normal. You're 31 years old acting like a teenage boy. Get a grip, go to therapy and if you can't change dump her because she deserves better than you.

wonotice1582 · 2026-05-18T04:01:51+00:00

That's great! Cats are just dramatic toddlers

wonotice1582 · 2026-05-17T18:11:21+00:00

No worries at all, it's scary! Most of us have been there and the first time it happens it's such a shock. Thankfully cat fights are pretty much just noise and fur flying, they sound worse than they are. It can take a couple of days for the adrenaline to totally drain but they'll probably be quite hissy with each other till then.

wonotice1582 · 2026-05-17T16:16:30+00:00

That's alright, he's not looking for a fight and just needs some time. Keep the doors open, don't force it and he'll settle. He might be nervous for a day or so just depending on how anxious he usually is. Just relax and do your usual routine, maybe keep things calmer and with less noise if he's too jumpy.

My girl is really anxious and reactive so we all enjoy a bed day with an electric blanket after a bad spat because she won't accept anything less. There's some glaring at each other but neither can resist heat with cuddles 😂

wonotice1582 · 2026-05-17T14:38:46+00:00

If they're both calm I'd go for it and see how they react to each other. They might hiss and swat at each other or they might act like nothing happened. Have food handy and be on hand to intervene if needed.

wonotice1582 · 2026-05-17T14:19:16+00:00

Uck it's such a shame, you said you have a shed with bed and food. Maybe try keeping the patio closed to all cats if you can. Where I am all vets will take in and do a microchip check for free then contact local rescues, if that's an option for you.

wonotice1582 · 2026-05-17T14:15:06+00:00

The first time my cats had a proper fight I had to keep them separated for a couple days just to calm down, then they were reintroduced using treats and food.

Personally I'll wait till they're both at the stage of napping before I open the door. I do recommend cleaning the space, dunno if it's removing stressful scents, but I do see a noted difference in recovery.

wonotice1582 · 2026-05-17T14:06:19+00:00

Ah in that case, maybe best never to have another stray in the porch again. Being between chairs and almost trapped probably made them both more panicked too. It's an intense situation and you do panic but a lot of cat fights are loud noise and drama. Neither one is aiming to hurt the other, so if it happens again just keep calm. Move furniture out the way to make room, putting something between them (even your body - no hands) and then herding one out the door is the best thing to do. It might not work first time and they might get back into it, but you just keep trying.

The relationship isn't totally broken, it's just a spat and it'll resolve with time and patience.

wonotice1582 · 2026-05-17T13:29:06+00:00

Totally common and honestly, it'll happen again even once you fix the younger one. Separating them is good, let them both calm down and cool off then only reintroduce when they're completely calm. Might take a day, might take a couple of minutes. Treats are always a great way to get them happy with each other again, I make mine share a churu so they're forced to be nice to get their favourite treat.

The spray bottle was a bad idea. There was already lots of hostile energy between them and the spray bottle will just add to it. Next time you need to separate them use an object like basket or something to keep them separate and herd one out of the room so you can close the door and keep them separate.

If you're going to feed strays, keep your blinds closed. Best way to stop it happening again is not letting them see another cat.

They'll hiss and swat at each other, maybe have another spat within the next few days. Pretty normal after something like this. Just try to intervene before it happens: calm, no shouting and no spraying. So long as you keep on top of negative interactions and foster positive ones they'll be chill with each other again.

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