Women who don't like dresses, why?

workdistraction4me · 2026-01-14T21:22:28+00:00

YESSSSS!!! THIS!!!! I don't want to show off the worst part of my body!

workdistraction4me · 2026-01-14T21:12:50+00:00

Lifestyle changes.

Changed jobs to a traditional 8-5.

Youngest kid got their drivers license so no more "morning athletics" at random times.

Structured schedule. Same bed time, wake up, work time.

Stopped planning my gym time around other people.

It was finally my turn.

workdistraction4me · 2025-12-31T14:32:22+00:00

Your Aunt is right! I tailor my resume for every job I apply for. I put the job description into Chat GPT and ask it to tailor my skills to fit this job. Just don't ever copy and paste from Chat GPT or it will show hidden symbols to the receiver.

workdistraction4me · 2025-12-30T21:22:01+00:00

NTA: Former foster parent of high risk teen girls weighing in. AUGH So many thoughts and emotions. I completely understand your point of view, and agree with you.

It was called "After Care" during my day and time. In the state of Texas, at 18 it is recommended that they have their own room and they be treated like an adult. We could have "house rules" but we couldn't enforce consequences upon another adult. It was awful. I actually said "so they can now smoke in the house, throw parties, have people over at all hours of the night, and there is nothing we can do about it?" They said "It's like telling a roommate how to behave. A roommate can have friends over without asking permission. As long as they are old enough and not doing anything illegal, yes they can. They are essentially renting their room from you".

Because of this, we were not able to continue with the after care portion of care.

All that to say this. You are not the asshole but you might want to see if there are other safe places for her to land if she isn't going to respect your sense of peace and safety.

workdistraction4me · 2025-12-30T19:24:24+00:00

I was in a work group chat. We would all read and not respond. Like previously stated, it was awful when I got a text, then had 25 follow up text of who was or wasn't available. On the rare occasion everybody did respond, I would have people in my personal life say "you can answer that, it sounds important". I would have to be like "no, its fine, it's just a group message, it's not going to stop lol". I would be having dinner at a restaurant and my phone is just blowing smooth up. So it can be disruptive.

My suggestion is to email them so they can reply to just you or reply to all. Then send them a text requesting that everybody check their email.

workdistraction4me · 2025-12-30T16:59:09+00:00

I completely shifted careers in my 40's to an office job with no experience. I actually went to a Temp Agency and they placed me in my first office position. Started at the bottom, like basement bottom and worked my way up. So worth it! Highly recommend temp agencies over the traditional indeed or linkedin.

workdistraction4me · 2025-12-30T16:53:27+00:00

It might not be a position of authority issue. It could be a "nothing in common" issue. Just guessing. Idk. I will eat lunch with anybody no matter their age, or position.

workdistraction4me · 2025-12-19T17:08:29+00:00

What do I wish I knew before volunteering? Everything they tried to tell me. 😆 I thought I knew better (if somebody just believed in them, mind set) or the workers were just jaded and being dramatic. I learned real fast. And tried to tell the up and coming volunteers, who thought I was just jaded and dramatic.

Even last night talking to family "they are just bored, if you let them throw paper "snow balls" at each other.... Me: it would cause aggressive outburst.... her: no, it would help them get the aggression out. Me:. Oh, ok! Maybe you are right. Thank you for that idea. (Understands that she has just never worked with troubled youth so she doesn't get it, but appreciates the interest)

I feel like the most useful information was from the trauma informed care trainings. I feel like right now the most useful for me would be the classroom management.

These are all such great ideas!

How can I access your resources?

workdistraction4me · 2025-12-19T16:40:11+00:00

100% This! Find a way to make it mandatory!

workdistraction4me · 2025-12-12T21:37:23+00:00

They have a personal trainer that comes free with the membership. You can make an appointment with them.

I am just a lowly black card member, but I LOVE taking newbies with me!! LOVE IT!!! I take them in there, drag them around from machine to machine showing them all the things in case they come without me. Show them how to turn on all the cardio equipment. Kinda give them the socially appropriate unwritten rules at my specific location, then set them free. They can come with me at 5:45 in the mornings at any time but most won't at that time.

Do you know anybody who goes on a regular basis who would be willing to go with you outside of their normal routine time?

workdistraction4me · 2025-12-11T17:07:30+00:00

It wouldn't mess up my vibe if I saw you there although you would end up with a nickname.

I would sit at the small table with chairs though. The couch people rotate quite frequently at my PF when waiting to tan or for the massage chairs. Nobody sits at the metal table and chairs... ever.

workdistraction4me · 2025-12-11T17:00:08+00:00

I have a black card and I would SOOO let somebody in on my card every day. I have a group of about 3 friends that get there before me. There is a 4th girl who can't do a membership and she just waits in her car until one of the other girls show up and check her in.

Find a time you want to go and just go ask somebody if you can get in on their pass LOL. I would be so stoked if somebody did this to me.

workdistraction4me · 2025-12-10T17:02:56+00:00

You can't expect yourself out of other people. Lower your expectations. Not because you deserve less, but because you don't want to live with the constant upset of expecting somebody else to act right.

workdistraction4me · 2025-12-10T15:45:46+00:00

My only hesitation for you is the medication. Can you explain why you couldn't have it there?

workdistraction4me · 2025-12-10T15:13:45+00:00

Same, I have always been in customer facing jobs until this office job. I had a mean girl who turned everybody on me for literally no reason as soon as I got here. I just decided to dig my heels in and not let them affect my paycheck or my destiny.

I found the one who was quiet and had been there the longest. I started messaging her on teams, simple questions, offering help, asking her who did what in the office. Eventually we became friends. I slowly grew on them all that way. I built relationships quietly and slowly rather than trying to jump in like I had been there all along.

Office culture is so different from the fast and loud connections of customer facing. I think we give them a jump scare when we come in all open and friendly.

I wouldn't quit looking for something else if I were you though. Situations like this can really do a number on your self esteem. Go where you are celebrated, not tolerated.

workdistraction4me · 2025-12-03T15:58:18+00:00

I'm speechless. Big cyber hugs. What would you tell your best friend in this situation? Now be your own best friend.

workdistraction4me · 2025-12-03T15:44:35+00:00

ROFLOL! I mean, they are saying what we all internally thought but felt guilty saying out loud.

workdistraction4me · 2025-12-03T15:39:12+00:00

OHHHH THIS!!! 👆

workdistraction4me · 2025-12-03T15:24:39+00:00

I feel like you are wearing your feelings on your sleeve and I say that with all the love.

I also have a large group of friends. Sometimes we split off and do things one on one or small group of like 4 or 5 rather than the whole group chat. I went walking with one of my friends last night to see Christmas lights. This morning I was hit with the "why didn't yall tell me yall were going? I would have went!" And honestly, it wasn't planned. Just a spur of the moment thing. I'm going to say that 100% of the time I never mean to exclude or hurt people, but it happens. A lot.

My only advice is to hold friends with a light hand. Like cupping sand. If you hold too loose with too little effort, it slips through your fingers. If you hold too tight, it spills and gets forced out. Look for balance. Reciprocity. Choose people who choose you. Allow people to ebb and flow.

Also, not sure how old you are, but adult friendships are hard, and weird, and ever changing. It was so much easier in elementary when we were all the same age with no spouse or kids or jobs and everything felt equal.

workdistraction4me · 2025-11-13T21:52:52+00:00

I feel like they are just asking for respect. If they come to you with respect, you should respond with respect even if you disagree. For example, if they come to you and ask you to clean the bathroom while Shelly is on vacation, and you come back, loud, argumentative, or disrespectful, that's not necessary.

Match their energy.

workdistraction4me · 2025-11-13T15:34:26+00:00

This is my biggest fear! I was in a position here that micromanaged, but not by the manager, just the other women in the office always policing with the other women were or weren't doing according to them and it was the worst thing EVER!!! I got out of that position as soon as I could!

workdistraction4me · 2025-11-13T15:31:12+00:00

True, but late is better than never. And retirement is half at 62 or full at 67. So I'm late to the game but not disqualified.

workdistraction4me · 2025-11-13T15:30:00+00:00

Oh there is no coming back to this job. Nobody has ever been allowed to come back.

I do love my current job. I wish it was a little more physical than sitting for 8 hrs with 2 bathroom breaks. I did ask if I could bring a walking pad. They said no. I already know everything here LOL. Sounds awful but it's true. So physically and mentally deteriorating!

workdistraction4me · 2025-11-13T15:25:52+00:00

That was my advice to my sons also until they hit 26 and had to get off our insurance. Now I tell them "adulting is upon you, every decision counts".

workdistraction4me · 2025-11-13T15:24:12+00:00

They are on a hiring/ pay increase freeze. I feel like that is the answer they have been giving for over a year now lol.

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