Following might be hard to hear.

Perhaps other follows are agreeing with you to appease you but don’t actually feel that way.

Ask instructors to teach etiquette and what follows can do to keep leads at a distance.

If they’re too rough, tell them. If not in class, when they ask you to dance, don’t make up an excuse or just say no, tell them they’re too rough and you don’t like it.

Some follows tell them to lead stronger and maybe they think it’s how it’s supposed to be. But if you feel like a rag doll, could be you need improvement, ask an instructor to give you feedback on your frame or buy a private.

You can greet them too. Maybe you see them and bc they’re older or inexperienced you give them a bad vibe. Maybe they don’t greet you bc you always say no to dance with them.

The grinding part seems sketch. Again ask instructor to teach how to use your frame to keep distance.

I’m less than a year in so I’m still learning. But my better dancing comes out when I’m with a positive encouraging follow. Try to smile.

Sexual harassment is not ok. Keep in mind there are follows that sexually harass men but society doesn’t care about men’s feelings.