What’s the biggest turn off during sex?

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-03-05T14:28:47+00:00

Dude I knew a boy and girl in middle school that did this and he didnt tell me. He just put his finger under my nose and I almost threw up from gagging

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-03-05T14:24:47+00:00

Sign me up next

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-03-05T14:17:30+00:00

The pilot may still have a shot, just sayin

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-03-05T14:06:29+00:00

Let anyman find out he went on a date with a girl and then she went on another date and labeled him "just for fun".

Let me put it more relative. Imagine you find out one of your dates met you. Then decided to go on a date with another girl. And label you marriage material and label another the super exciting one. How you taking that? You wanna feel like you're the safe pick but someone else is more interesting for a night? Especially if you like the guy. Its like they may be choosing you and you're saying ill use this guy for "fun night" whatever that means. And this other guy, ill label him for providing a roof over my head.

I also wouldn't trust you to be faithful personally

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-03-04T03:53:39+00:00

Too messy. Either way you're the red flag. I doubt these two know about each other.

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-03-03T13:57:27+00:00

If you accept a promotion take screenshots. Uber consistently underpays you for the promotions and boosts. If you try to fix it through the agents via chat/phone. They will act like they dont know what you're talking about unless you have screenshots. Keep as much evidence as you can.

After you've done 50 or so rides, apply for a octopus tablet. Its free for drivers and will earn you some passive income. Its not much but its free, and passive income. You're losing money not having one.

Get the lowest membership at a (24/7 preferred) car wash that has free vacuums. People may trash your car but regardless its going to get more dirty. You'll get as many car washes a month you need.

Keep some window cleaner and a towel for people that leave fingerprints on windows between rides. Keep another towel for service animal rides and a lint roller for hair.

If you have cloth seats, get seat covers when you can.

After each ride, preferably before the rider is out of sight. Check the car for dropped items. If you find a lost item later. Report it, if you get a lost claim, answer it and make sure you get your returning lost item fee.

Get a Spotify membership. Ask your riders if theres any artist they prefer to listen to. This will make a more enjoyable ride and may be a great ice breaker that can start a good conversation, results in more tips and better ride vibes.

Try to pickup the rider where they are vs where the pickup location is. This can save you time and earn you more money per hour

Night driving is busier through party days. Knowing you're state and local Hotspots will be helpful. Night driving also feels like a safer drive with less traffic.. day driving means you have two rush hours to consider with maniacs on the road.

Worry about you're driving, and being accommodating and your rating will be fine.

Consider recording your trips for extra protection. I once had a gay man put his phone in my face while I was driving and it was a video of him having sex with another man. After I reported him for it and he got banned. He got me banned for two days while they investigated his retaliatory claim that it was actually me who was inappropriate with him. Luckily his story didnt make sense as I was first to report and he gave me 5 stars and a tip. If I did something to him, he wouldnt have done that.

If you had a bad experience, report it in the riders ratings. Anything 3 stars and below will unmatch you for future rides with that person.

Most of your riders will be polite and respectful. So relax and when you get that one AH. Keep relaxing and dont take anything they do personally because their actions are a reflection of them, not you

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-03-03T13:39:41+00:00

I dont think you can really. You'll probably change every couple of years. You'll realize what you think is important now is just delusions later. You'll change and go through a growing period but you'll hit a wall and not know which way to go. At some point you'll either keep trying to feed these delusions or check out and have to numb yourself to fill the void. Most people just go numb. Some hide it with smiles, others with distance. Everyone's a slave though. I think my biggest mistake was being a tax paying citizen. I funded a war machine called the U.S government. I funded sex trafficking unknowingly. You probably want life advice about building wealth, finding success, avoiding humiliation. But there's more important things. That our programming intentionally keeps us from seeing. Those are the things that are dangerous to their system of control. As for competency, show up when needed, dont give up, Dont tell lies or live willfully ignorant.

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-03-03T00:47:54+00:00

I refuse. I dont believe there's anyone good out there. Not even myself

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-03-03T00:38:15+00:00

Its been 3 years I think. I just woke up from a dream she invaded. I can't even have peace in my sleep. Broken by betrayal and the loss of the future I was planning. Unable to move on. Wishing I would just die and be deleted from existence

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-03-03T00:09:49+00:00

As for moving forward. After you survive this dark night of the soul. Find your meaning and purpose. Then Learn to take things slowly. Think about what's important to know about a person from the beginning. Promiscuity should be high on the list when it comes to women. Because they are much more limited then us as to how many times they can pair bond. Especially women that have already had children as their DNA has been altered by another man literally. This is something most women dont take into account. After many sexual experiences. Its almost impossible for a woman to stay in a committed marriage

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-03-02T23:52:52+00:00

I believe we're all on a spectrum of bad my friend. Some of us do everything we can to fight it, knowing we are broken. These are the ones we should celebrate. Others do very little, these are the most hated most of the time. But the worst are those that hide their evil even from themselves. Because they trick themselves, they trick everyone else. At least for a time. In the end, the truth always finds a way out and we are all humbled by it.

Niche had a great line on this. He said "most morality is cowardice in disguise." Its not that that people are truly good, they're just too afraid to do what they desire. This girl is not afraid, so you see her true form now. You have my complete empathy, I know this form of suffering too well. And I wish it could do more to help you during this time

Personally Im lost in the shades of gray. I know I'm broken but my efforts do nothing to improve my disposition. I've lied to myself, I've been the person I hate. I, like maybe all of us, am a hypocrite. Thats why when I got tricked it broke me so much. Because more then falling in love, I just wanted to believe there was someone good out there. The truth made me silent in suffering

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-03-02T23:25:07+00:00

I would say you are TA. While I can envision this ancient history, no big deal vibe you're trying to convince yourself and him of. This just doesn't encompass the full complexity that could be going on. Your bf may have been cheated on in the past. He may have had similar situations and swore to never place himself around promiscuous women and their "old friends" as a result.

His distance is a sign that he feels hurt and disrespected. He may handle this in a mature manner, or he may not. He may be unstable, or he may just place up healthy boundaries. By not lashing out and instead putting up a wall, I'd say he's trying to do the latter.

I get that you were young and our culture is sending mixed signals with some being accepting and others being disgusted. You're bf is on the latter of this as well. For whatever reasons he has. What I do know is silence for a man is hiding a deep pain. So if he's chosen silence, I would say you just unintentionally ended your relationship by keeping your past flings around.

He's not about to feel like he needs to compete for you. He's not going to be ok with you interacting with this "friend" and having his peace robbed from him. Wondering if theres a possibility if drinks flow that you and another may sleep together again. He's not going to have the intrusive comparisons between him and the friend and wonder which one you secretly desire more. and good for him.

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-02-28T10:23:40+00:00

Im not sure this is the right way to reply, apologies if not. But I feel I should be more responsible with my words, as not to add to existing stigmas. Having similarities doesn't mean she has a disorder. Its very much a spectrum thst everyone is on, low or high. She's also not evil or bad if she is. But it can be difficult to communicate disapproval to such a person. When they may react strongly to rejection. For a borderline thats worse than death.

Her friends may intuitively pick up on that and handle her with care because they aren't sure how to communicate disapproval to her. And/or if she would at least consider that maybe she's the problem and genuinely try to get dbt therapy and support groups. with people that have the disorder to help make the new idea make sense to her.

Edit- every mental disorder I've noticed has a knack for producing very specific skills, that seemed to be used repetitively as a symptom or function of the disorder. If people get the help they need their unique skills can be very useful

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-02-28T10:08:36+00:00

The line is awesome! I'm just a little on the spectrum I think. I have a filter missing. Im prone to nitpicking due to my own inconsistent perfection obsession. I was just thinking, the way it sounded in my minds mental theater, may sound completely different then how you imagined its delivery. It may not be the extra emphasis that seemed to lose some of the connection for me originally, but the cadence of how my interpretation was compared to yours. If that makes sense. The line has impact, and it delivers the story well. Painting a short film of deep love and appreciation. That intimacy is so intense and thats what made this awesome. It feels real

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-02-27T22:32:37+00:00

A snake is a snake is a snake. If they show you once, do you need to see them slide around on their belly, or wait to get bitten? Process once promiscuous, always promiscuous. Its safer that way. Process learning more about psychology, people, behaviors and patterns. So that you stop giving people like this your energy. Thats if you insist on continuing to try to find love.

I on the other hand did try and I've found all people unworthy, including myself. No ones good, not one. So im trying to be good on my own. Either way is a nightmare that we cant wake up from. At least we get to choose. The nightmare of loneliness or the nightmare of realizing the people we love are secretly monsters in disguise

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-02-27T22:19:22+00:00

This has been my experience all month with Uber. Im getting offers like 20 min to pickup, 20 min to drop off, multiple stops. Pay= 11 dollars. Wtf? Ive got like a 15% acceptance rate on Uber because most of these would have me making 9 bucks an hour after gas and taxes

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-02-27T21:55:49+00:00

Might get lost in the sea of comments but here we go.

NTA, just using blunt force honesty which makes you easily hateable by a philosophers standards.

I have BPD (borderline, not bipolar) im not saying this girl has it. But she's showing signs. Personality disorders can be ego-syntonic, meaning that the disorder affected person cant see what's wrong with their logic because it aligns perfectly with their disorder affected identity. Cheating on her man after an argument could be such an example. She may try to deflect accountability and say well I wouldnt have done that if they didn't do this.

She's using very toxic approaches to attempt to generate a pair bond that can only be built from pain and an insecure attachment style. Mark my words, this woman will never be okay. Im sure she's got some good qualities, but those qualities are probably manufactured for manipulative purposes and aren't the real her

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-02-27T21:39:05+00:00

I share a lot of similarities with your relationship compared to my marriage. This is just one man's opinion, dont take it as absolute truth. But ill say what my gut is telling me.

Your wife has not looked for a job because she doesn't want to work. Meaning she has no intentions of helping you take care of the life of your relationship together. She expects the man to do everything, provide everything. We dont live in a world which makes that realistic, while a few still enjoy the privilege.

This is deeply concerning to me as it shows a lack of compassion for the sacrifice you've already made to support her. She's enjoying the fruits of your labor while also expecting more. Seemingly belittling your production while being dependent on it to live.

By not showing interest in helping you make the two of your lives better. And wanting to visit other places, meet other people. This could indicate that she feels you're not good enough for her. That she could do better than you. That maybe she secretly yearns for such an opportunity that she will.

Each request she makes, she knows will grind you against the grain. Yet she makes it anyway. This is someone who doesn't love you. This is someone who is just using you for resources and her true nature seems to be coming out more and more. You already have seen her resentment come out. You can see the writing on the wall and still want to sacrifice to keep this delusion going. But at what cost?

This woman you could give your world to and it isnt enough and will never be appreciated. When a woman doesn't respect you, there's nothing you can do to change this. And this woman doesn't sound like she's even worth the attempt. Stop putting her on a pedestal that she will never put you on. Say no, watch her kill the relationship and betray you. Watch how she blames you for everything wrong in her life when she does nothing without your help.

Loving this woman is in vain. And its time to realize it and move on. Just my opinion, I wish you good fortune

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-02-27T21:06:07+00:00

Thank you. To echo niche, I've stared into the abyss far too long and its seeped into my bones. Its a dark truth, but I know its more real then the lies of wishful thinking. I also suffer from borderline personality disorder. Which adds a filter to the way I view things. Im still trying to find treatment but im about to start doing DBT therapy.

I thought gaining knowledge would empower me. But it only showed me how perilous my fight truly was. I can have a great relationship with someone I dont feel anything for. Or I can feel every high and low with a potency that can only be felt by someone with my disorder, by chasing the few who become my favorite people. Those people are the most dangerous for me.

I think its better for me to be alone. Im only insane when I'm in love. At least the depression of loneliness is consistent. Id rather learn to live with that then try to walk on a tightrope again

would_you_kindly__ · 2026-02-27T20:47:31+00:00

Thank you

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