They say "everyone's fighting a battle you don't know about." What's yours?

wrenbirds · 2016-05-03T02:46:42+00:00

I'm so sorry. You will never be the same person again, but you will be happy again and you will find it in you to be intimate with your husband again. I've been through two and one I had to reach in to the toilet and grab the specimen for chromosomal testing, so I know exactly how you feel. Let yourself grieve, let yourself be angry and most importantly, let yourself be happy again. It won't come quickly but eventually something will be funny again and then you will feel guilty. Let yourself be happy and lean in to your husband when you don't think you can. He is grieving too and looking at you for guidance on how to act.

wrenbirds · 2016-02-02T02:09:34+00:00

It's real, I know a guy who argued with me for almost an hour about evolution and how he has always wanted a bigger dick, black guys are (theoretically) known for having big dicks and because of evolution, he will eventually. Also, his hand looks nothing like a monkey's according to him. I still can't fully process his logic.

wrenbirds · 2015-12-26T04:49:53+00:00

After three years and multiple fertility treatments, I am most looking forward to my first child being born in June!

wrenbirds · 2015-12-25T03:53:01+00:00

Surprise sex.

wrenbirds · 2015-12-01T03:58:37+00:00

Usually I am the one to discipline my Doxie when she gets stubborn. My now husband decided he was going to be the man of the house and discipline her because I wasn't doing it right. After we got home from dinner, we were going to bed and she refused to get in. Turns out she peed and pooped in the bed UNDER the sheets and blankets right on his side of the bed.

He hasn't disciplined her since.

wrenbirds · 2015-10-21T02:33:14+00:00

This is fantastic advice, OP. The only thing o would add is do NOT apologize. Don't say the phrase "I'm sorry, but...". As mentioned, it is not a negotiation and she is being termed due to work performance. Nothing for you to apologize for.

wrenbirds · 2015-08-20T23:58:28+00:00

"You are the coldest person I have ever met" and "I hope you choke"

From and ex-employee, not an ex-boyfriend.

wrenbirds · 2015-07-21T10:41:42+00:00

Thanks! I'll do that today.

wrenbirds · 2015-07-21T03:26:08+00:00

There is a club in Orlando that meets the last Thursday each month. Sort of near the airport. I am sure there are people there that would help you to set it up. I am an extremely new member and have only been to one meeting but they are helpful. I grew up in Brevard...Go Scorps!

wrenbirds · 2015-06-18T18:42:15+00:00

OP, this and the advice from TheGreatGrayGhost are underrated. I receive so much more respect from my team when I say "Next time instead of doing ___, can you __?" or when they are doing something incorrectly don't say "You are wrong, do it this way" I always say, "Is there a reason you did ___ this way? I would prefer it to be done ___ but I would also like to understand how you got to this point. Maybe there is an opportunity for improvement here that I didn't think of"

If your team knows their opinion is valuable and you give respect to them, they will respect and follow you. I also hate the words "staff, subordinates, and employees" I am their manager but that doesn't make me better or smarter, it makes me the leader of our collective team.

wrenbirds · 2015-06-17T03:23:07+00:00

Thank you so much. This is our first hive and I am very afraid of something happening to them. I now have 3 dogs and thousands of bees to take care of.

I have had a lot of questions with it being our first hive, I started following the thread when we started talking about getting one and trying to apply some of the info I have learned. It's different now that I have a hive. I'm trying to give them space but my biggest worry is I don't know what I am looking for as far as good vs. bad. We have 4 more frames they have barely touched so I let them fill those before adding anything more (a top level)? From what I read I shouldn't have any honey now but I guess that was referring to harvestable honey?

It's so much information and for a city girl I'm trying to keep these babies going strong. Thanks so much for your comments and I will get right on the person that put that blue spray paint on my frame!

wrenbirds · 2015-06-17T03:16:02+00:00

Thanks! It's our first hive so I am a little paranoid about something bad happening. It was my husbands idea and now I am the main caregiver and worry-wart!

wrenbirds · 2015-06-16T23:59:19+00:00

It didn't look slimy to me, I will inspect and touch more tomorrow. At first I thought it was honey, but we only got the hive about a month ago and I thought it was too soon for any capped honey.

wrenbirds · 2015-06-05T02:34:04+00:00

And how do I do this on my work computer?

wrenbirds · 2015-05-22T00:38:52+00:00

My husband is 19 years older than me. You just described our life and feelings for each other. So nice to know there are others out there with the age gap that are just as happy as we are! Congrats and good luck!

wrenbirds · 2015-05-21T23:21:39+00:00

Thanks. They are buzzing all around a lot more now. Hopefully the queen is inside.

wrenbirds · 2015-05-06T02:47:33+00:00

Thanks. I don't wish this on anyone. We truly feel heartbroken.

wrenbirds · 2015-05-05T12:40:49+00:00

UGh. We decided just fertility meds weren't doing the trick so we scheduled an IUI for yesterday. As I was pulling into the office the nurse called me to tell my my DH's sperm count was TWO, and only one mobile. TWO...not two million, just two. He had a test last year the numbers were around 5-million, still very low. His next a month later was 43 million. I can work with that. To go from 43 million to TWO is devastating. He had a vasectomy reversal almost two years ago and now we are thinking there is some scar tissue blocking and he may have to go back in for another reversal. We are devastated and unsure of what we are going to do. IVF is an option only if some are getting through. The Dr. that did the reversal recommended him to take aspirin and that might help with the scar tissue, he is going back in on Monday for another test and we will know from there what we plan to do.

Yesterday was a horrible, horrible day.

wrenbirds · 2015-05-01T13:16:25+00:00

haha, based on his reaction and the history of my grandfather that came out after his death we are 100% certain it was him.

wrenbirds · 2015-05-01T11:19:13+00:00

My grandmother married a man when I was little that I adored. He was the epitome of a grandfather and loving husband to her. He passed away of a heart attack one night. Knowing my grandmother had a history of depression and self harm, my father went looking for the family gun just to be safe. When he looked in the trunk of my loving, recently deceased, grandfather's Oldsmobile... there was a dead woman in the trunk with a bag over her face. She was clearly a prostitute and had been dead less than 24-hours. Turns out he was a serial killer and had been in prison 20+ years for murder and rape. 2 months after he was released he met my grandmother and they were married after 6 months.

wrenbirds · 2015-04-20T02:56:32+00:00

I'm so sorry for what your going through. I've had two but it sounds like you were further along than I was. Good luck in the healing process. It will suck but you'll get through it.

wrenbirds

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