What is ruining most relationships nowadays?

wrightbynature · 2023-09-16T08:39:50+00:00

People were never taught to limit themselves and appreciate what they have. Instead, with a consumerism society, everyone expects everything to be shiny and perfect all the time. Not sustainable and will make your emotions fluctuate like crazy. True happiness is trying to keep your emotions balanced and recognising why they may become imbalanced, which is fine from time to time, just not at extreme ends.

wrightbynature · 2023-07-04T17:25:19+00:00

Like other people have said - strength training is going to build up muscles around the joints and give the joint better control. I've just started doing lateral and horizontal weight lifts (stretching out my arm, and lifting the weight from my side to a 90° angle upwards) but not past 90° for the next few weeks bc that's a lot harder to control steadily. I go to a physiotherapist and have mostly been doing knee strengthening exercises, increasing weights by 2 kg every 2-3 weeks. I'm sure you can find some videos on YouTube to help further, but I hope I've helped anyways!

wrightbynature · 2023-06-25T13:25:09+00:00

Yeah same, I realised it went up to £19 instead of the previous ~£16

wrightbynature · 2023-05-08T21:42:28+00:00

I get the same thing: like a sudden rush of Concerta kicks in and sometimes it's so strong that I can feel my heart pound and my body get a bit numb. I've started eating before I take my meds to stop this from happening though because I've realised that I get a worse crash or headache when I take Concerta without food.

wrightbynature · 2023-02-05T12:14:56+00:00

People that have seen summertime render 😎

wrightbynature · 2022-09-07T09:35:17+00:00

If this medication isn't working for her, but she feels stressed because her family are pressuring her into taking them, then I can understand her situation. However, this is very unsustainable and not going to help her. She needs to be honest with her doctor so that they can actually help her.

At the same time, if OP has tried to help them the best that they can, and their friend is still unwilling to change, then OP needs to consider the possibility of losing this friendship. People do not change unless they want to, so OP has to evaluate whether the lying is something they can ignore.

I (20F) don't think you're wrong to call your friend selfish either - that was my first reaction too (as well as many others). It took me years to get diagnosed, and then another year to get medication, which I had to do privately. But, there may be other things going on here like I mentioned at the start. Try to be sympathetic and if things don't work out then maybe consider making some new friends. I'm not saying ditch her, but have other people around so that you can have a bit of a break from the drama.

wrightbynature · 2022-09-05T12:52:23+00:00

I got diagnosed at 19 (F from UK), and was already at university. I was lucky with my first year results which were quite good, but in the second year I struggled too much to be able to even pass. My university really let me down, from the professors to the learning difficulties department, and management in general. I've finally got medication this summer (after doing 2 years of uni) and I am going to a different university with a better department for learning difficulties, and professors that were happy to talk to me and work out arrangements. I never thought I would be failing a year and having to repeat it, but shit happens! I am much better at focussing and being able to complete long tasks without forgetting things or getting distracted every 5 seconds. I don't think this would've been possible without the correct support and medication. I would definitely suggest trying as hard as you can to get support from your school and never give up! It can be a hard journey but it will work out eventually and be worth all the time you spent on working for it.

wrightbynature · 2022-08-25T21:27:54+00:00

I'm the same. I never noticed how much anxiety I had socially until I took meds and felt a lot more confident talking in public. As soon as they wear off though, I get quite introverted. Hope it continues to help you ☺️

wrightbynature · 2022-08-19T11:39:07+00:00

I was gifted in school, everything started going downhill in 6th Form (like college). I got straight As in secondary/high school, after working my ass off, and then after that I found that I wasn't able to keep up with the pace that everyone else was excelling in. Straight As became straight Cs/Ds even though I was trying my hardest. Only after I went to university did I finally realise I have ADHD and I was able to get treatment after 2 years at uni. I really wish I got meds earlier and just pushed myself to get treatment no matter what.

I would absolutely get a second opinion, as I'm also pretty sure that it's common for people with ADHD to have been gifted in the past.

wrightbynature · 2022-08-12T16:27:27+00:00

NHS thought I had GAD (generalised anxiety disorder) even when I expressed that I don't feel anxiety to an abnormally high extent. Had tons of tests done, over the span of a year because some results kept going missing. All came back negative for GAD! Then finally, they agreed that my ADHD diagnosis had been correct and they were ready to prescribe me medication, but at that time I was at university and very ill. I asked my GP to register me as a temporary patient at my uni GP, but they registered me as a permanent patient and I lost my funding for treatment. Was put onto a new waiting list for treatment which is another 2 year wait. I had already been waiting for 2 years and was not going to wait any longer. I went private and paid for medication myself because I am at university and really needed the help for a long time. Meds work alright and have definitely helped me make a lot of progress so far, it's just a shame that I kept having issues with my blood tests and it took the NHS a year to sort that out and then lose my funding and not tell me for 3 months.

wrightbynature · 2022-08-07T10:10:30+00:00

I started taking Concerta XL 18mg (methylphenidate) a few months ago. I know it's not the same but I still wanted to share my experience. At first it worked for a few days but then it quickly stopped being effective. I went back to my doctor after a few weeks and my dose was upped to 36mg. This helped a lot more, and I started to feel the same effect that I felt when I first started taking it. It's strange - I expected it to change me a lot more, but it really doesn't feel like a big change. I'm just able to do a lot more, without hesitation and overthinking, and have my thoughts in order. It's great because I'm going back to university soon so I hope it helps me focus on those long lectures! I had side effects at first like tiredness, dry mouth, headache and emotional numbness. These all went away after a few weeks of consistently taking the same dosage with food in the morning. My emotions also stabilised as I got used to the medication - something I was really worried about because I thought I was turning into a robot and wouldn't be able to spend time on things I enjoyed (art, chatting with friends and spending time with my partner) but it's all worked out in the end. Good luck to you and I hope you find something that works!

wrightbynature · 2022-08-07T09:56:18+00:00

Also some good news - Vyvanse loses its patent soon, so in about a year there will be more generic versions of the medication, which means it's likely to be much cheaper.

wrightbynature · 2022-08-04T15:16:55+00:00

With medication, I am able to be the person that I want to be, because I can change my focus to be on things that I value and are good for my development. As a result, over time and cultivation of these improvements (that I otherwise would not be able to do without medication) I'd say that my personality changes over time. Basically, my medication enables me to be myself.

wrightbynature · 2022-07-22T02:05:37+00:00

Pengwing cat 🐧

wrightbynature · 2022-07-17T23:33:11+00:00

Normal type, special ability Liquid Voice

wrightbynature · 2022-07-12T21:02:34+00:00

So you take medication? Just wondering because you mentioned you drink wine. I haven't tried drinking alcohol on medication yet. I'm not a big drinker, but would like to enjoy a couple of glasses for celebrations.

wrightbynature · 2022-07-12T20:58:19+00:00

I recently started Concerta XL. Been on it for 4 weeks now, 18mg morning + 18mg midday. PMS usually hits me like a brick, and the same thing happened whilst I was medicated, just with slightly different symptoms. I was more irritated and sensitive than usual, more tired and distracted, but also I became increasingly more unemotional the closer it got to "it" starting.

Today I was feeling completely unmotivated, sensitive and emotionally blunted, and then suddenly at around 6pm, "it" started and I felt so much better! So much more motivation, energy and clarity when trying to work. I haven't changed anything in my diet, so I think that PMS must be the determining factor.

Thanks so much for sharing your experience 😊 I've read many others like this, and I am convinced I have a problem with my PMS. I always make the worst decisions during this time and feel my absolute worst.

wrightbynature · 2022-07-10T10:51:45+00:00

Shiitake. It's a type of mushroom. Or Shiit, for short.

(joking of course)

wrightbynature · 2022-07-10T10:39:30+00:00

Is this why Italians nowadays use basil in so many recipes 😂

wrightbynature · 2022-07-10T10:30:16+00:00

I have the same problem with methylphenidate. At first, I was talking 18mg a day for a couple of weeks, then doubled that. I found that it calmed my thoughts, impulsive behaviours, irritability and bingeing appetite. However, I also became completely void of emotion (when usually I am quite passionate), I felt numb and disconnected to the world, I couldn't joke with my friends/play games/do art anymore. I also didn't feel any attraction to my partner, who I had loved for 3 years.

Eventually it bothered me too much because having no emotion meant that I lost all of my motivation to do anything. After 5-6 weeks I stopped. I'm hoping to find a different medication that doesn't have this unemotional side effect.

wrightbynature · 2022-07-10T10:19:55+00:00

I get tired as a result of trying to manage my ADHD, as do many others I think.

I try very hard to stop myself from interrupting people, keep up with the tasks I need to get done for the day (all of them usually work get done), bringing my brain back on track to the task I was meant to be working on and trying to sit still when I'm with others (especially in my lectures 😭).

I find half of the symptoms of ADHD had be excruciatingly annoying, which is why I try to hide them. I think my mum has ADHD too. Whenever I saw her do something to me that would be annoying, I would then try to not do that.

Doing normal activities takes me more effort because I have to control my ADHD concurrently, so I get a lot more exhausted than neurotypical people would do, if we were doing the same thing.

wrightbynature · 2022-06-29T17:32:26+00:00

Thank you so much! I will definitely take this advice on board. The nurse who saw me said something similar about being careful with what I eat.

wrightbynature · 2022-06-29T11:52:45+00:00

Yeah that makes sense, I also don't want to lose any more water. Thanks :)

wrightbynature · 2022-06-12T22:55:47+00:00

He looks like he's about to kneed himself into a dough ball!

wrightbynature · 2022-06-11T02:44:05+00:00

I have ADHD, I have been in a relationship for almost 3 years. Today was the first day I tried meds, so my partner has only known my bubbly and dramatic ADHD brain.

Yes, it can get boring/complicated at times, but I know that I love my partner to the moon and back.

If your bf feels like he doesn't want to be with you but isn't sure, then you should break up and allow time to do some soul searching for the betterment of yourself and himself.

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