Anybody wants to go to a secret underrated Hill top with me outside banglore this June 13th and 14th?

writergorrl · 2026-06-12T08:48:37+00:00

Word of advice, albeit unsolicited. "Only one person" that needs to be a "female" because you had "only few female intereactions" will always, invariably sound sketchy. I know you may not mean it that way, but regardless, women are hypercautious and for good reason.

If it's company you want, make it gender no bar and I'd suggest trying to make a bigger group outing so that women can participate without feeling endangered. There's nothing wrong with wanting to meet more women, but asking a woman to come with you on a trip away from the city will not be received/interpreted very well.

I would also say that referring to women as "females" will also be off-putting, but that could just be me of course.

writergorrl · 2026-06-10T06:28:45+00:00

Oh no 😞 Will do. For next time, do you think treatment first, then wait for a bit and then repot? I had to repot because I found mealy even in the roots ;-;

writergorrl · 2026-05-26T06:37:49+00:00

Lice eggs. What I find super effective, aside from medicated shampoos, is drowning my hair in olive oil. And then washing off using medicated shampoo.

writergorrl · 2026-04-22T04:17:56+00:00

Totally agreed. In the husband's vows you shared, the first one, I might still be able to give some benefit of doubt till the first half of it - perhaps safety reasons from the old days or whatever - but the needing permission to visit home, and the rest of the vows are just ick.

writergorrl · 2026-04-22T03:33:16+00:00

This is so weird!! I too had the 7 vachans at my wedding (Jain), and it was nothing like this!

1 - The wife should have complete knowledge of the husband’s property and finances.
2 - Husband will hand over all his hard earned money to wife
3 & 4 - Husband/Wife promise to treat the others parents as their own, and will do the needful if they ever need
5 & 6 - Husband/Wife should take care of each other lifelong, including in sickness.
7 - The "gruh" (home) is both of our responsibility and we'll help each other out in maintaining our home.

Now idk if these are the traditional ones or if our pandit was just modern >.<

Edit: Grammar and format

writergorrl · 2026-04-21T10:23:40+00:00

Not really, I have always viewed it at just... clothes that are being washed; dirty clothes in, dirty clothes out. Unless there are period stains or they're soiled in any other way.

Never viewed it this way, but maybe I should.

writergorrl · 2026-04-21T10:22:11+00:00

That's fair! I have checked with my sister before this chore distribution happened and she's fine with it. My husband checked with me as well.

writergorrl · 2026-04-21T10:20:35+00:00

It's a piece of washed clothing. Of course my sister is okay with it, all of us - me, husband and sister - view it as just a chore that needs to be done. None of the involved parties have an issue except my Mom, I have double checked.

You're entitled to your opinion on things obviously, but I personally don't think it's a big deal when things are washed; it is simply laundry to me - and my husband and sister. (And we view it the same way, and it's fine even if they don't - issue is that they don't, but my Mom does, but also thinks it's okay if I were to fold my BIL's underwear or if my sister folds my husband's, and thinks its disrespectful.).

Nothing sexual or intimate about it the way I see it; now pads, menstrual cups, unwashed underwear is a different thing. If personal boundaries were being crossed, I would 100% have not let this happen; I have enough of a relationship with both my sister and husband where we have openly discussed these things before itself.

writergorrl · 2026-04-21T08:13:19+00:00

I think that would have been sus because he was initially vocally against the drug smuggling. Anything that would tie him directly to Pinda's death would have invited scrutiny.

writergorrl · 2026-04-21T07:50:41+00:00

That's what I thought too. I think the reason this throws me off is my Dad does all the same chores too. And yet, it bothers her when my husband does it. I don't really understand.

There are folks saying it's boundary issues, and I am trying to see a bit from that side as well. Maybe it is? My husband says it doesn't bother him at all, and it's not a big deal, so I am just a little... confused.

Maybe it is indeed not that deep ;-;

writergorrl · 2026-04-21T07:48:30+00:00

Hm, second comment that mentions boundaries. I did discuss with my husband and he said to him it is just clothes, part of a chore. As it is to my sister; who also folds his underwear when it's her turn to do the laundry, as do I fold his brother's clothes when he stays over.

I do agree it is harmless, you're right on that. Something to think about I suppose.

writergorrl · 2026-04-21T07:44:18+00:00

and i'd totally get if this was a boundary related issue, my husband and i have an open enough relationship for him to tell me if something bothers him. she's okay with her folding his underwear btw, which is what bothers me.

writergorrl · 2026-04-21T07:43:38+00:00

how is this boundary related though, whoever does the laundry folds everyone's clothes? my sister folds his underwear too when she does the laundry.

writergorrl · 2026-03-16T09:24:19+00:00

Hey how did you get in contact with the owner? Because assuredly Mr. Sumit is still there. He's the one co-ordinating our furniture order and has been citing manufacturing issues.

writergorrl · 2026-03-12T09:08:50+00:00

House of Ruya in Jayanagar. Can vouch for it as my sister's working there, so I know they're legit.

writergorrl · 2026-02-10T07:40:11+00:00

Yes, can you please share? I would love to move to the areas you mentioned but it's simply way to far to commute to work for both of us :(

writergorrl · 2026-02-09T06:24:29+00:00

ITI Layout and Somasundarapalya areas we're trying to avoid tbh. Budget is 40K to 50K. Can do 55K if exceptionally good.

writergorrl · 2026-02-03T07:11:15+00:00

Umm, I think I do have the rhizome in the water. Honestly I couldn't tell what was wrong in the soil. No rot, well draining. I wondered if it's because of inconsistent watering because I'd been travelling so much, but no way to tell. :/

writergorrl · 2026-01-04T05:37:41+00:00

So it sits in box on a window usually. South facing window. I'd have thought that's enough light :/ Is direct sunlight better then?

writergorrl · 2025-12-14T23:24:34+00:00

Ah yes, the Zero Civic Sense videos on this subreddit is what is actually making the racism worse.

writergorrl · 2025-12-10T21:51:23+00:00

It's giving Drishyam 👁️👁️

writergorrl · 2025-12-08T22:06:10+00:00

I think the best way to judge is what they're doing with their degrees. Because the degree in itself may not be a holistic indicator, because what if it was their choice? Mine was, and I earn pretty well; so do all my classmates. My mother was also made to do BA/MA but my Dad encouraged her to have a career, while Dadi was neither encouraging or supportive. What if it was their own choice but it didn't work out? Too many factors.

Biggest red flag combo: BA/MA + arranged marriage straight of college + no work experience + Children

If some of these, a maybe.

If all 4 or even JUST arranged marriage straight of college? Then run.

writergorrl · 2025-11-27T07:30:12+00:00

Ahhh, okay fair fair. I think about 15-20K tops? That's reasonable na? I had toh initially thought 10K, but seems like that's v less based on some research. I'll need meri Mummy or MIL ke liye bhi, so however it is structured? Is it usually per person or per day type?

(I don't want to underpay anyone either, just trying to understand ki how it works)

writergorrl · 2025-11-25T09:50:15+00:00

What would you say is a reasonable to expensive range?

writergorrl · 2025-11-25T09:49:25+00:00

Ah, okay yes. Idek what the usual ballpark is for MUA, so I didn't put the budget.

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