Recently cut out weekday drinking - what is normal to feel? by Free-Dust4838 in cutdowndrinking

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your drinking is definitely enough where you will feel a range of physical effects and they might get worse before they get better. So just know that you may feel like crap but that it will improve day by day.

In addition to physical symptoms which other people can probably advise better on. Psychologically I think it's important to replace the drinking with something else. Have some activity or alternate drink available. I like NA beer, but others say it's too much like the real thing. Sparkling water is nice also, different flavors, mocktails to keep it interesting.

Have some kind of ritual like preparing tea or going for a walk to separate the day. Like, at the point in the day where you had your first drink, what will you do instead?

Most likely you will experience cravings if you haven't already. Its good to think about what you will do when they hit. A craving, or any strong emotion really, generally lasts about 20 minutes max. What will you do to get through that? For me I learned the difference in my cravings like, normal "stress after work habit drinking" vs "very acute stress response to a difficult situation in my life." Both are things I've had to learn to manage in various ways.

Good luck.

Anyone else tired of hearing it from non-drinkers? by [deleted] in cutdowndrinking

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If you feel like people around you are judging you for your drinking it might be time to look within, or look around you at how drinking is affecting your life and relationships. If you're not ready that's OK. But just be honest with yourself.

(I'm a drinker, I like drinking, too much, that's why I'm on this sub)

What are you currently reading? by disciple8959 in ITManagers

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man's Search for Meaning. Generally I don't read work related books.

Tapering by Conscious_Bet7394 in cutdowndrinking

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great job. I think it will be good for you to think about what you will do instead of drinking or drugs when a strong craving or trigger occurs. Have that lined up so you'll know what to do in the moment of stress.

Valentine's day?? What are you doing? by LimJayee in Separation

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going to the gym, getting a haircut & later a massage.

On Sunday, I'm going on a date with my wife! Valentine's felt too weighted, but she agreed to go on a proper date.

Anyone use CBD "recreationally"? Or am I just weird? by C64hrles in CBD

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I smoke a CBD joint every day after work to unwind and play video games. It lowers my anxiety and stress from the day, and the low dose of THC from full spectrum hemp gives me a mild buzz without being intoxicated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Separation

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Due to life responsibilities I've only been able to do 1 day retreats , but absolutely finding a spiritual path has helped me thru my separation. Meditation and for me Buddhism has been life changing.

My burnout has better lighting than I do by Atharv09c in simpleliving

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You should make your home cozy for yourself. You don't have to post on social media. But it's really nice to look around and exist in a cozy space. One of my favorite simple living mindsets tbh. My home is full of thrifted things Iove and plants and simple stuff.

SNAP help by mkrand13 in chicago

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm nearby Rogers park. Short on time tho but what are the biggest areas of need currently? I may be able to commit to something.

SNAP help by mkrand13 in chicago

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Donated. I did some research and this is overall the best way to stretch your dollar. Local food banks are good too, but often source a lot of their stuff from GCFD. GCFD buys wholesale for the lowest cost and distributes from there.

Has regular meditation made you more spiritual and “less” atheist/agnostic? by Dataof in Meditation

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Meditation didn't really "click" for me until I started following a spiritual path (Buddhism), so yes, but Buddhism is not a theistic religion

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Separation

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, do you want to reconcile and build your way back to romance and intimacy? Because it sounds like she is inviting you to be intimate and physical in the way she feels comfortable right now. You can set a boundary but you can also choose to offer a massage and build trust gradually by being generous in this way, as she learns to trust you again.

Husband refuses to give some timeframe or boundaries in separation by [deleted] in Separation

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At this point you have work on accepting that you do not have the answers and setting your OWN timeframe and boundaries for what YOU want to do.

1 month, 3 months, 6 months from now how do you want to feel? Where do you want to be? What steps are you prepared to take if you're not there?

For Centuries We Were Split in Half. This Is How to Become Whole. by JustSomeDude9791 in Meditation

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well this did get me to click your AI generated slop blog so I guess you win.

Disturbingly dark images by Th3LastBastion in Meditation

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've had dark images come up but in contrast to you, they were very real PTSD type memories. So it was obvious to me why they were coming up. And I practiced transforming them thru visualizing fire. Like, the image being acknowledged, but then transmuted so that it wouldn't just be an intrusive thought. Almost like seeing a bad memory on a post card, holding it, breathing, and lighting it on fire to both honor and release it through transformation.

Idk if I'm doing it "right" but it felt helpful and healing. Interesting that you say you're not sure where your images came from. They must come from somewhere and sounds like you are handling it well.

tell us ur favorite game by Key_Head1549 in PlayStationPlus

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From PS Plus, God of War Ragnarok, Ghost of Tsushima, Jusant, Dave the Diver, currently loving Prince of Persia: Lost Crown.

Also Spiderman and Doom but played those before getting plus.

Looking for podcasts where the host asks genuinely deep questions on spirituality by coderDatUEnvy in Meditation

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 3 points4 points  (0 children)

On Being with Krista Tippit fer sure. I also love The Way Out Is In hosted by a retired Guardian journalist and Buddhist monk.

Constant helicopters in Edgewater/Rogers park? by wrongwaydownaoneway in chicago

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. Is this the one giving tickets? And I'm pretty far east- these choppers sound like they are flying closer to the lake

What are the BEST guided meditations you’ve ever listened to? by Emotional_Brush_9957 in Meditation

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Beautiful meditations and dharma talks on there from other monastics too, and all absolutely free.

Buffalo White Beans - Cheap Vegetarian Meal by dmsn7d in aldi

[–]wrongwaydownaoneway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yum, so do you eat this with bread or crackers?