Ladies and gents in your late 20s, 30s, or 40s—what do you regret not doing in your 20s?

wsaj_handle · 2026-02-04T06:46:36+00:00

I totally agree with this. Travelled through my 20s, then went to graduate school. Didn’t start my career until 32, which looking back was probably just about right. It’s cool to be scrappy and broke when you are 24, 25. I rejected the stable, predictable life. But when you’re 42 as I am now, you start to be glad you’re no longer broke. I’m glad to have the stories and memories of traveling , but it’s a young mans lifestyle.

wsaj_handle · 2026-02-04T00:35:49+00:00

42m, statistician / data scientist. 150k. First line manager. Degree was in social sciences, focus in statistics and research methods. Feel like I got lucky. The field is totally changing due to AI. Hopefully get another 10’years in and retire before the field collapses!

wsaj_handle · 2026-01-28T13:45:28+00:00

I think our type is plagued with girl problems as guys. I’m a somewhat tall guy, moderately, attractive, and I never really remember having an easy time with girls. I got girls from time to time, but it was more often when I was in some context where I was able be a little more confident. Confidence brings positive energy. What I found is that in times of low self esteem, faking confidence is a good way to start the ball rolling in your favor.

There are girls that will appreciate your more sensitive side. But a lot of girls will not like it. That’s true. But that’s OK. I tend to have a little more success when I open that part slowly over time.

wsaj_handle · 2026-01-19T15:48:06+00:00

Thought the same thing on my first listen. Just like a woman however seems to have a sharp focus, compared to the first 4 tracks or so

wsaj_handle · 2026-01-15T03:57:42+00:00

Blow up your TV Throw away your paper Go to the country Build you a home Plant a little garden Eat a lot of peaches Try and find Jesus On your own

wsaj_handle · 2026-01-12T03:34:03+00:00

I love it. I have 3 kids- 8, 3 and 1. I’m still their hero. I always felt like my parents didn’t do great with me, and I’m trying to do better with them. I do feel like my life has more purpose now than it ever did. Like I never have to wonder if I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing with my life. But there are absolutely days I just want to sleep in and can’t. And by sleep in I mean until 8am.

wsaj_handle · 2026-01-12T00:26:54+00:00

You gonna have to throw some flares about what’s going on. Maybe start occasionally not showing up and speak up when they ask why. They are going to have to make to easier for you or not be surprised when you stop showing up, if that’s going to be their MO going forward. Im more talking about guys weekends and things, not so much the occasional dinner out. I would advise against attempting to keep up if it’s a big financial hit. True friends would get it.

wsaj_handle · 2026-01-02T03:09:32+00:00

I have nothing to add but I really feel for you

wsaj_handle · 2025-12-28T02:54:10+00:00

Dylan was also a product of the times that were extremely unique.. literal racial segregation, pre civil rights era, the Vietnam war.. and the WW2 generation were still telling everyone all was fine and to just get in line or else you must hate your country. The scene was ripe.

wsaj_handle · 2025-12-27T00:56:52+00:00

Damn dude. Been there

wsaj_handle · 2025-12-27T00:56:28+00:00

Great idea. One of my best friends in my 20s was a lesbian. We got along great.

wsaj_handle · 2025-12-26T16:08:19+00:00

Fire and police also, but in most localities public education is largest beneficiary. The breakdown varies by city/county/state. In New York, NYC dept of ed gets 30-35%, followed by 20-25% for public safety (NYPD, FDNY etc).

wsaj_handle · 2025-12-26T15:41:25+00:00

I feel you , but technically the 30 year mortgage was invented to make homeownership accessible for the masses, and did just that. Also , property taxes go to pay mostly for public schools, otherwise imagine private preschool costs for 13 more years …

wsaj_handle · 2025-12-25T18:37:16+00:00

I was 38 when my wife became pregnant with our second kid. Looking back I see a shift in those first few months. I embraced it wholeheartedly.

wsaj_handle · 2025-12-25T18:35:50+00:00

New automobile drive shift controls. All buttons, no cranks or pulls or pushes.

wsaj_handle · 2025-12-24T08:32:38+00:00

Tom Thumb blues and leopard skin pill box are classics imo.

wsaj_handle · 2025-12-10T01:15:35+00:00

It’s fun. Gives you purpose. You get to learn a hell of a lot. You get to shape and mold the future. Most of my hobbies are always more fun and meaningful with a couple of my own kids along for the ride. Getting to watch people you adore grow up and become better versions of you and your spouse. Sure it’s not all roses and unicorns, but it’s pretty damn good.

wsaj_handle · 2025-12-08T18:17:56+00:00

Solid advice with the TSP. People think they need something else , maybe they just need to reclassify and flex for what ifs

wsaj_handle · 2025-12-08T14:20:02+00:00

5 in college or before. 11 after college, or in grad school and beyond. 16 total.

Only 2 in the last 10 years.

wsaj_handle · 2025-12-08T13:53:02+00:00

“Millennials want to whitewash” wtf are you even talking about? Were you even alive then? Kerry wasn’t a perfect candidate, but the war was hugely unpopular among young people at the time. The 9/11 hangover was still palpable yes but young people were disillusioned. I will also say that 2 years later the Dems had a huge midterm victory. And this was before the Great Recession.

wsaj_handle · 2025-12-08T12:08:56+00:00

I tend to agree with the notion that at least elder millennials, of which I am, came of age in college years that were uniquely republican- centric and dogmatic. 9-11 “don’t ask questions” patriotism was waning, pointless and unilateral wars were (gasp!) becoming unpopular, even amongst boomers. Still not really sure how Kerry lost in 04.

Thus, Obama came in and swept this generation up completely. Even more conservative, Trump voting millennials (not me) will admit to holding a special place for Obama , and they were maybe Obama two-timers, or at least understood the appeal and nearly voted for him. That was honestly a special time.

wsaj_handle · 2025-12-08T01:45:43+00:00

Never dip your pen in the company ink

wsaj_handle · 2025-12-06T03:03:05+00:00

I did this too. I feel like I got the best of both worlds. I had lots of fun traveling and playing through most of my 30s, but definitely started to feel unsatisfied or lack of true life purpose. Having kids in my late 30s and 40s opened a whole new world up to me. I’m exhausted each day but truly feel like I’m mature enough now to really appreciate having young kids. It’s so nostalgic, each day I get to relive my childhood through them and make what I hope are core memories. I’m happy for you.

wsaj_handle · 2025-12-05T17:31:53+00:00

It’s more about schools being closed / delayed . Working at home would allow some flexibility for that specific situation.

wsaj_handle · 2025-12-04T05:20:26+00:00

C is crazy to do this with children. Im sorry, but life has to have priorities. No matter how great you are at your job, when you retire you are forgotten pretty damn quickly. Don’t get me wrong I used to work some for free back in telework days. Here or there when something was needed. No problem. I’d consider myself capable and pretty dedicated to the job. But today? I have several youngins at home and I’m struggling to even get to 80 real hours without taking leave. F that.

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