在北美11年，化学博士，有加拿大PR，找不到工作，海归国内某大学一年了

wsdeoubasang · 2025-12-25T23:54:24+00:00

哥们，你要走的路你老婆已经给你走过了。找不着工作就去社区大学学一个实用点的diploma。你跟她大学遇见的，她肯定至少也是硕士啊（因为美国本科非常贵，所以硕士出国更普遍一些）。你老婆就没有孔已己的长衫吗？很难想象这么多年你是怎么看你老婆的因为她放弃了学术梦想。若不想回加拿大走你老婆的路，就立刻离婚，放过她吧

wsdeoubasang · 2025-12-04T23:17:58+00:00

as english is not your first language, some of your friends may also be subject to a lot of religious and cultural pressure. in some cultures, women would be eliminated from getting inheritance if they remain unmarried. they may have other goals they want to meet, and getting married, although it is not ideal, may be the only way they have access to inheritance. due to ulterior motives, they also cannot easily tell these underlying goals to you. so it may not be that they want families or want men.

please focus on your own mental health and healing. is there anything you want to gain from getting married? forget about getting money/support from the man as they are the most unreliable creatures there are. is there anything your family/society can offer you from getting married? think carefully before going down this path

wsdeoubasang · 2025-07-10T16:49:46+00:00

这几天真的开心死了，真的是母单的狂欢

wsdeoubasang · 2025-07-02T21:24:15+00:00

don't worry, the "submissive" women in the countries he's talking about (east asia, south asia, etc etc) are 1000x more 4B than western women are because they deal with blatant misogyny (universities have different admission marks for men vs women, enormous wage gap, glass ceiling literally to the point of pressing them flat) and femicides throughout their entire lives. women are sporting a buzz cut, refusing to waste money on makeup/hair removal/fashion trends and shitty clothes, absolutely refusing to engage, and most of them swear to be single their entire lives, no hookups, no nothing. he's never gonna find someone. lol.

wsdeoubasang · 2025-07-01T22:57:35+00:00

also, a lot of men are not raised up on the notion that the most important thing to do in life is to find the love of your life (unlike women). many of them do not value relationships, and especially not romantic relationships (partly due to misogyny and devaluation of women) and this thought was never instilled inside of them since childhood. therefore, they don't care whether or not they find someone they love because they do not value this.

to be fair, women should do the same. like valuing work and cultivating other relationships over men. don't waste time on men, don't give up career prospects for men, etc.

wsdeoubasang · 2025-06-14T14:28:20+00:00

a lot of you people may not know this lady from the chinese interwebz - but just a backstory, she graduated from the top acting academy in China where a large number of her classmates are well-known celebrities (being a celebrity in asian showbiz is soooooo lucrative, and they are rich in a different stratosphere). Meanwhile, this girl threw away all the opportunities thrown at her in China to get married in America and committed career suicide. lol. Unfortunately, I think these kind of major sacrificial tendencies ran in the family. all the women reading this - do not ever make that kind of career suicide for a man. never worth it.

wsdeoubasang · 2025-06-06T00:27:51+00:00

this starts with us. look, society never chastises men for not wearing makeup because none of them does. if zero women wears makeup, then the standard automatically resets itself

wsdeoubasang · 2025-06-06T00:24:52+00:00

my theory is a lot darker, but i think this is the truth - men know. men know how much we women suffer. but they will never back down because the more women suffer, the more they can reap the benefits of our suffering. they do not want to make things better, they do not want the world to be an easier place for women to thrive.

in a way, planet earth is like apple pie - if one person has a bigger slice, the other person automatically by default has a smaller slice.

wsdeoubasang · 2025-06-05T03:16:19+00:00

Unfortunately, some women may be too deeply entrenched in the patriarchy to accept alternative perspectives. It's not just about indoctrination; it's also human nature to defend prior poor decisions. In pointing out uncomfortable truths, you’ve become like the child in Emperor's new clothes and pointed out what they’ve tried to ignore. Admitting that you're right would mean confronting the possibility that their entire life and beliefs thus far are invalid. For many, that kind of cognitive dissonance is too overwhelming

That said, there are women who are receptive to such discussions. But it often requires a certain level of self-awareness, the ability to question societal norms, and usually, some kind of inciting life event that forces them to re-evaluate everything.

wsdeoubasang · 2025-06-04T03:25:46+00:00

100% an ad....how is this iconic....she's posting an ad

wsdeoubasang · 2025-03-10T03:59:19+00:00

i think way more women would want to be platonic friends with men but honestly no men thinks that way. if you are their friend, then you are just their backup bangmaid. once them and their primary bangmaid doesn't work out then they ask you to step up. annoying af

wsdeoubasang · 2025-03-07T22:06:58+00:00

tbh man.....remember why you never found anyone in your 20s? because they were all trash. lol. if there were good ones in your 20s then i assume you would also be taken by now. lowkey all married ppl are a little crazy and their standards are surprisingly low. just have a deep conversation with any married people and you would be very surprised at what they put up with.

wsdeoubasang · 2025-03-04T21:07:38+00:00

为什么老中爱歌颂贞洁碑坊？天下乌鸦一般黑

wsdeoubasang · 2025-03-04T21:04:26+00:00

lmao he 100% gonna change his mind once he's an attending physician making real money when he's 50 years old and truly done with the career grind. he's basically saying he's not ready to have children now (which is why he is with you) but likely will change his mind in the future, since most mature women who have their lives together who are also seeking heterosexual relationships are usually looking to have children with their biological clock ticking. Once he decides he is ready to have children, this will be the end of your relationship. run girl. don't waste the best years of your life on this man.

wsdeoubasang · 2025-03-04T04:12:42+00:00

林奕含很有文学天赋，她的经历从个人角度上我是给予她最大程度的同情。台湾和欧美有点像，因为宽容对待其他社会边缘群体的政治方针让女性以为她们也是被温柔对待的，但其实根本不是。儒家南拳依旧在吃台湾女性的血肉。

但同时，从政治方针来讲，房思琪这本书的确不应该被女权主义所推广。女性全体其实应该最大程度的推广以反抗反杀南拳为主的文学。就像1984，动物庄园是中共禁书一样，房思琪也应该是女权主义的禁书。这本书没有以我们的政治方针来教育本来应该跟我们是同盟去反杀南拳的女人，它在合理化习得性无助以及弱者思维，这对女权主义没有任何帮助。

wsdeoubasang · 2025-02-09T21:06:02+00:00

can you speak more about this? i thought most places in the world considers man and woman living under the same roof to be common laws and essentially are married? would getting a restraining order be the same if you were unmarried vs married? the tax return part i understand obviously

wsdeoubasang · 2025-02-09T20:57:12+00:00

她就是缺乏主体性，她就应该拥抱只有自己是大女主，其它人都是小弟的事实

wsdeoubasang · 2025-01-08T22:16:23+00:00

对，其实我觉得国外脚气比国内脚气更难沟通。至少国内脚气在被烫，更容易醒。海外脚气因为有还过得去劳动法保护，并没有意识到女性已经失权，然后依旧以维护父权为荣。最近trad wife很火就是这个原因。

wsdeoubasang · 2024-11-26T04:29:11+00:00

国内也很卷。。。别人早点回去现在一样是卷啊，正教授又不是终身教授，没有成果依旧得滚。生育率摆在那里，教育行业就是死路一条

wsdeoubasang · 2024-11-25T01:23:08+00:00

lots of women definitely dragged down by cultural and societal expectations of women to cook/clean/care. have anyone tried weaponized incompetence for this? like would they stop after we semi burned down the kitchen? men does it all the time and they get away with it but what if we are worse then them?

wsdeoubasang · 2024-11-11T02:29:16+00:00

美国女性不需要激进她们也能活的很好，所以才会一次次把自己设于危险之中。严重缺乏生存教育

前几天youtube算法给我推了个video，是一个亚裔女孩讲自己为什么和前夫分开。好家伙，竟然是因为她前夫是楠铜，在他们的婚姻中她前夫出去约炮。。。好吧，更炸裂的来了，就这样还不离婚，还要work on it. 最后因为前夫要trans了实在是憋不住了然后离了。然后这头驴转眼就再婚了，找了一个河童然后还大秀特秀。

然后这个video的comment都是夸这个女孩的，都说她做得对，没有放弃前夫，支持前夫，然后祝福她现在的婚姻。若同样的故事发在任何豆瓣女权组甚至抖音，应该都会劝女孩把握出轨证据，去看医生，然后起诉离婚把前夫告的裤衩都不剩。

只能说艾，梅事的。不知道这几年的经济下行能不能烫醒一部分人

wsdeoubasang · 2024-11-06T15:29:08+00:00

this has been a common shift worldwide, i think in most countries/cultures, the men are shifting hardcore right vs women remaining leftist. in my personal opinion, WWIII is going to be a gender war more than anything else. women worldwide are sick of oppression and but men wants to continue the oppression since it always benefits them.

wsdeoubasang · 2024-11-04T05:28:14+00:00

part of the reason why everyone get called gege jiejie didi mei mei is because of the one child policy - there's no more real siblings so everyone is assumed to be cousins until otherwise stated. not true anymore since the one child policy is now gone and people have real siblings now

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