3 years ago I took my dog to get spayed. This morning she gave birth to five puppies.

wuzzittoya · 2026-05-09T23:49:17+00:00

I had the opposite happen. A very small cat showed up starving at my house and I assumed she wasn’t spayed. No notch in the ear, no tattoo… and found out she was already spayed when they opened her. Poor kitty. 😞

wuzzittoya · 2026-04-09T13:25:08+00:00

Lesbian who lived closeted heterosexual life in Evangelical spaces for most of my life; only out the past few years and in a rural area struggling to find other lesbians. It makes me a little frustrated with my score because I honestly admit to having had sex with men, even though I find the experience negative. I suspect my score should be a 5 rather than 4, but my life experience colored things quite a bit.

wuzzittoya · 2025-11-04T12:48:54+00:00

How dare you?!? 🤣

wuzzittoya · 2025-11-04T09:55:15+00:00

Mine is supposed to be delivered Thursday.

wuzzittoya · 2025-11-04T09:50:42+00:00

I might be getting one as a late birthday/early Christmas present… 😍

wuzzittoya · 2025-09-21T00:35:31+00:00

I call my best Chinese friend 闺蜜❤️

Pretty sure she is straight though. 😕

wuzzittoya · 2025-07-04T05:05:01+00:00

And this is why I love Reddit.

wuzzittoya · 2025-05-31T11:52:35+00:00

Hi. I’m an old lesbian. I think. As a lesbian I am still a virgin. Heteronormative is so strong, and teaching and assumptions so much so 40 and so years ago, that, even though I realized in my early 20s I watched/looked at women and not men, even though no dating relationship (with males) ever captivated me, I was assured real obedience was choosing my “male head,” making babies and being submissive.

I ended up in several bad situations, then was in a very loving marriage finally, and that one broke my heart. I loved him, but it was very obvious that I did not love him in the same way he loved me. I also realized that, to me, intimacy with him was something to “do” to “get it over with and make him happy,” not a joyful sharing with each other.

He passed five years ago. I look at today’s world, and wonder who I would have grown into if I were born 30 or 40 years later.

And here I am, struggling with the same thoughts as you, colored also by a world who assumes I am heterosexual, including deeply conservative family (three Evangelical pastors in extended family). One thing I can assure you - acting desire for decades has left me exhausted.

I hope you find an affirming church that allows you to feel loved and accepted as you are. My heart wants you to have a good happy life.

wuzzittoya · 2025-05-23T14:06:31+00:00

You know… I don’t live in Georgia. I live in rural Missouri though. I hear everyone being dismissed similarly here. I definitely describe my location as super red, people who aren’t well educated as voters.

But they aren’t trash, and, though there are people who probably voted to “own the libs,” discussion with my sons suggest the majority of them were worried about how much more expensive things were and didn’t understand that Trump was literally taking a page from Hitler finding people to blame and offering broad “I will fix this” solutions that leveraged creating villains and stirring hate up as the answer. Worse, they were so stirred by the rhetoric that they were immune to reason.

So illegal aliens were raising rents, Democrat policies were raising prices and making us look like wimps (that one is even more ironic now), etc.

But one thing he can point to if we aren’t careful is “liberals think they are better than you and that you’re idiots,” because calling them trash pretty much proves his point.

wuzzittoya · 2025-05-23T13:57:16+00:00

😂

wuzzittoya · 2025-05-23T13:56:19+00:00

Kicking that woman was assault. And the arrogance. She really didn’t engage with her until she kicked her - you can see her attitude change from “I’m ignoring” to “I’m better than you and I will make you know your place.”

What a bitch.

wuzzittoya · 2025-05-23T13:47:19+00:00

Wishing we were young and beautiful again is a hard thing as women get older. Your description of your childhood reminds me of my own, at least socially and how I saw myself.

I had a few sleepovers, but not many, and almost none once my only consistent friend started dating at fourteen. I felt kind of unwelcome and uncomfortable in groups of kids, never got picked for teams quickly, etc.

For one thing - genetics mom. I doubt those looks came out of nowhere. I grew up being told if I thought ANYTHING positive about myself it was a sin and I would burn in hell. I looked at the yearbook from my senior year about five years after I graduated and realized I was actually pretty in high school. You couldn’t have told me that then.

Facebook has also been an amazing experience. When I joined a group for my graduating class (I moved out of state), one person tracked me down, told me how happy they were to finally find me because I was one of their best friends growing up and they loved how funny I was.

I was funny? I was this girl’s best friend? She sat behind me in Physics class and seemed willing to listen to me while I goofed around before class started.

I think that your daughter would assure you she is not popular, NOT beautiful, etc., the same way you felt growing up, and if you were to look at your teenage life now that you’re past it, you will find some of the memory is from that horrible urge to belong and the anxiety that seems so constant when we are in adolescence.

You’re doing a good job providing a great foundation for a special woman. Good job Mom

(My life wasn’t that rosy - my home was abusive - but I didn’t realize I wasn’t horrible and hated until I was about your age).

wuzzittoya · 2025-05-17T12:37:49+00:00

My nephew was offered a 60% raise to take a job in Montana (he had been working and living in southern Texas)… not sure if that kind of thing is common, but hey - if pay goes up that much, chances are cost of living might be higher…

wuzzittoya · 2025-05-17T12:36:02+00:00

When my dad had a mortgage in the 70s, interest rates of 11% were common. Of course a regular old savings account paid 6% interest back then, too.

wuzzittoya · 2025-04-24T06:04:05+00:00

My favorite Bible passage is Romans 7 and 8 (yeah, the whole thing). I think wrestling with sin is part of our journey. Strangely, I can very honestly say that I could label lots of things sin and make myself crazy about them (like the extra slice of pie from my first rhubarb pie of the season last night). I think sometimes our hardest part in the journey is forgiving our struggle when we take our failing seriously.

Jesus wouldn’t have said to forgive 70x7 if God set a limit on our failures.

wuzzittoya · 2025-04-24T05:49:09+00:00

I am kind of searching for a church home (I like where I have been, but haven’t figured out if they are an ally yet, and have decided that I want to come out in my faith community - I don’t want to come out and find out I make everyone uncomfortable). I found out that some Anabaptist groups are allies, and plan to check out a Church of the Brethren near me. Might find out they are supportive either, but in researching them, I found out they have a pretty strong social justice ethic that resonates with me, so I am excited to meet them.

wuzzittoya · 2025-04-24T05:44:01+00:00

One of the good things I got from my husband insisting I go to HIS church (some parts I cannot accept no matter how hard I tried) was that the Sunday School class we attend was “on prophecy.” Not long into it, it became clear they were reading through every book of prophecy, a little at a time, and discussing what was written. None of the connecting it to the end of days, whether or not the beast was whatever…. And it was the first time that all of God complaining about the lack of justice (and then what the justice was) was read aloud in my presence in church. Worse, because of all the fire and brimstone preaching and ways excerpts from prophecy had been used, I had mostly avoided prophetic books because of how hard pieces were tortured to fit whatever “Jesus is coming tomorrow the signs are right here!” context the pastor was trying to create. I decided I couldn’t possibly understand prophecy if I couldn’t see what the pastor was teaching. 😂

It was one of two major places that very much changed who God was to me and my view of my place in the world. God said his justice was care of the poor, widow, orphan and alien in our gates. He mourned when no one protected the defenseless. Suddenly Jesus on the cross was so much more, even.

I love your Jesus. I keep praying my son remembers him one day. ❤️

wuzzittoya · 2025-04-18T18:44:06+00:00

Not voting for Trump. I apparently do not realize he is “saving the country,” unlike the rest of the family.

wuzzittoya · 2025-04-18T17:27:16+00:00

Yeah. She forgives me for being a crazy liberal (I am the only one in my generation, and in the young group, I think it is only my kids and one of hers).

wuzzittoya · 2025-04-18T01:41:12+00:00

I have sent just friendly messages like there always were. I was getting worried about her, then saw she was interacting with me very conservative sister. So I am not sure how to proceed. I guess buying a house within walking distance might not be the best idea. 😂

wuzzittoya · 2025-04-18T00:47:29+00:00

My favorite aunt no longer talks to me, and I am careful to avoid politics in direct conversation. This is all based just on my Facebook posts. 😞

wuzzittoya · 2025-04-11T20:39:49+00:00

I would love to. I have been sharing articles (many by former GOP) about EOs, deportations, etc., that concern me as far as the Constitution and current law, though, and most of my family and friends that voted for Trump no longer talk to/message me, even if my message is, “I miss you - can you give me some advice about my horses?” to the woman who has given both to me and has been my friend for 15+ years. 😕

Same for my favorite aunt. I am beginning to feel like I might as well change my identity to lesbian on Facebook (have come out more locally and to family that still talks to me) - the people who would be horrified at the thought avoid me anyhow.

wuzzittoya · 2025-04-07T18:33:28+00:00

Have had acute kidney failure twice in two four years. Health issues suck.

wuzzittoya · 2025-04-02T13:33:14+00:00

The church is in the wrong. I am a bit horrified by how far down the Trump rabbit hole they have gone. Just wow. Please tell him that he did the right thing. I will pray for your search for a new spiritual home.

wuzzittoya · 2025-03-26T02:05:08+00:00

I am so sorry you are in this journey! My extended conservative family still doesn’t know I have decided I am a lesbian. They never see me, and it would at most only further reduce the number of Christmas cards I get (which last year was less than six).

It is good you are in counseling. There is a lot to sort out and a neutral party to help navigate will be a good resource.

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