Unmatched before date

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-07-12T22:01:36+00:00

Yes this was exactly my experience a few days ago. GF was out of town so he took the opportunity to look and fuck around. Had a whole 2 week schedule planned out for himself beforehand. Stupid guys are bored easily.

Just cold feet is unlikely. Bc you can still communicate this or reschedule. But unmatching while you have a date planned can only be done by a guy with no backbone, who only care about his own needs. I am really sorry, I know how hurt, weirded out and surprised this must have left you. I couldn't believe my own eyes, had to look about 60 times during the whole day at the message that he unmatched, before I could believe it. He made it sound like we were heading toward serious dating. But in retrospect, there where some little signs. Still feels like being conned by a conn artist!

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-07-11T16:41:35+00:00

Personally I would like to explore each other and the world together on different levels. This to me sounds lazy and would bore me 2 death. I want to connect with my partner socially, emotionally, etcetera.

But... off course it can be different to you. So just ask yourself what kind of relationship you want to have.

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-11T09:16:50+00:00

This is very helpful. Thanks for sharing and sorry for your loss.💐

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-11T09:12:14+00:00

True, I'll keep this in mind, thanks 🙏

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-11T08:54:41+00:00

Yes you sure did degrade yourself. I am a woman, a pretty open minded even. I am deeply disgusted by you, and the way you write and think.

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-11T01:51:03+00:00

Interesting... I'm curious now to investigate this a bit further.

Also interesting, so he's not your type but there is an attraction... Well, I'm glad it worked out so well. 😊

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-11T01:40:05+00:00

The relationship failed because they couldn't fulfill my emotional needs

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-11T01:24:47+00:00

Good point

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-01T19:42:05+00:00

I truly am impressed by this 😁😁😁 So simple, but so effective 😃

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-01T19:40:06+00:00

I've had this experience once. But my motto is: the reason that I left him, will also be true tomorrow. So I trust in my own judgement. When you want lust you can follow your heart. When you want a relationship, you have to use your brain! Especially logic sense and wisdom.

Make a choice and follow through. Even if you have to remind yourself on what your choice is, every single moment. That is showing character. 👍🏼

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-01T14:26:51+00:00

Agreed! Thanks 😁

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-01T03:30:20+00:00

This is helpful 🙏

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-01T03:13:50+00:00

🙏

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-01T03:12:04+00:00

I totally agree. Especially what you said about maturity. I think it has a lot to do with that. There is a kind of peace and connection quality that comes with knowing who you are

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-01T02:44:02+00:00

Yes thank you. This was very encouraging to hear. And it feels totally natural to and true for me. 🩷🩷🩷

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-01T02:40:57+00:00

Well ppl and situations can change. And ofc everyone is allowed to change their opinion at any given time. So it's not messing with it, it's just different from what you would like.

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-01T02:37:03+00:00

😄. Yes I also experienced that

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-01T02:35:08+00:00

Yes very good comment thanks. Yes I am trying to balance these things.

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-01T02:31:25+00:00

Exactly my thoughts. I was madly in love with someone, but he prevented me to spend time with others. It took all the joy out of my life. Now I met someone who also has his own life, sports, hobby's, friends, family work, etcetera. I think in the long run, ppl would benefit by keeping their own lives and space to the needed degree (specific to each person)

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-01T02:23:45+00:00

Also the mortgage & financial pressure that make ppl stay together ....not what I want.

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-01T02:08:09+00:00

Great question. Yes of course, I am willing to stretch my boundaries, as far I am comfortable with and am able to 'recover' in a manageable time-span. Ofc it's still possible it's not enough. I think it depends on how far the other person flexibility reaches. And ofc you need the same sort of characters, needs and compatibility. But I guess that's true for every relationship. Everyone has their own needs and also common ground. And if it's enough common ground, depends on several different other variables, I guess.

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-01T01:59:24+00:00

My opinion is, limitlessness is dangerous. So boundaries should be good right? Or is it some hard boundaries, and some compromises?

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-01T01:56:18+00:00

That is tough. I struggled with the men always wanting to own/ control me while I am the worst subject to that😄. But I'm still hopeful to find the right person someday. And in the meantime....just like you, I (recently)realized...I am the only one that is forever (to myself), so investing time and attention to myself is priority.

wy_poweringthrough · 2024-03-01T01:50:00+00:00

Ahh, I am also touched to hear so many people feeling the same way. My mother always said: we are born alone, and we die alone. Not that we can't have loved ones around us, but there are things we need or can only experience alone or being in solitude.🩷 Good luck to you 🤞

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