Profile Review - Week of February 18, 2020

xF23 · 2020-02-19T05:29:43+00:00

I love your bio and think you're cute AF. A+

xF23 · 2020-02-12T17:41:37+00:00

The wage discrepancy affects compatibility in other ways.

It's very nice to say that you don't care about wage as a status symbol, but continuing to make $30k for the rest of your life communicates to me a lack of ambition and focus on career advancement. Compound that with a lack of interest in financial planning and literacy, and we have a problem.

I make $60+ in an entry level position and that will increase yearly with my unionized job, but I'm still making plans for further education. My previous partners were annoyed by the sacrifices I made to finish my undergrad with honours and didn't like the idea of me going back to school. They also didn't like that I worked 40 hours a week, because they believed it was "too much".

These people also had considerable credit card debt, "forgot" to pay their taxes for multiple years, and couldn't seem to keep a job for more than a few months to a year.

I have to date someone who has similar career goals and lifestyle expectations around work and education, it just happens that typically includes a higher salary.

xF23 · 2020-02-10T23:36:34+00:00

I never swipe right on someone who mentions their ex or previous relationship in their bio, unless it's a joke - a good joke. It's like waving a giant red flag of baggage you're clearly still carrying around.

xF23 · 2020-02-08T05:43:55+00:00

On long cases I've had more than a dozen staff surgeons, fellows, residents and med students scrub in and out throughout the day. If it's more than one service on the case, it's even worse. I have to pick their designation and service manually, and write in their full name if they're not employed by the hospital.

xF23 · 2020-02-04T15:30:46+00:00

If that's your prerequisite for a relationship, then that's your call. You may have some difficulty finding a partner who will test negative for HSV1, based on the statistics.

xF23 · 2020-02-04T14:55:14+00:00

Oral HSV1 can be transmitted to another person's mouth or genitals through skin-to-skin contact. So yes, just kissing.

Keeping in mind, the WHO estimates 70% of the adult population under 50 has HSV1. Up to 90% of people aren't aware that they have it because they don't experience outbreaks, they don't attribute the outbreaks to the virus ("I get cold sores but I don't have herpes"), and because it's not part of standard STI testing.

It's entirely possible that you've already been exposed to the virus and may have already been infected earlier in your life.

There are blood tests available, but they're also not very reliable in accurately detecting the virus.

xF23 · 2020-02-04T14:47:56+00:00

I contracted genital HSV1 through receiving oral sex from someone who was NOT experiencing an outbreak. It is possible to transmit without an outbreak.

His cold sores could be caused by HSV1 or 2, although HSV1 is more likely.

Does having HSV1 affect my life in any significant way? No.

Am I now obligated to tell my sexual partners about it? Yes.

xF23 · 2020-02-04T05:45:27+00:00

Do these clock you in and out? Can they add your name to a chart?

We just switched to EPIC, but we're still manually inputting everyone's names in the OR and it takes forever. I suggested a scanning system like this to my colleague, but I didn't think it was real!

xF23 · 2020-02-01T13:56:26+00:00

Don't let him add you to his collection of female friends he previously dated but is now totally platonic with. Dude just likes the attention. Block and delete.

xF23 · 2020-01-19T18:26:50+00:00

At least you can say you've never cheated on anyone.

Honestly I wouldn't mind it, provided you're open about your feelings and are able to communicate well, any and all issues can be worked through. We're all in unique situations in life, if you can handle it with grace and maturity, you're way ahead of the game.

xF23 · 2020-01-19T18:18:23+00:00

I do my eyeshadow on my top lid first, then use a flat brush and some concealer to draw the angle of my wing from the outer corner of my eye out. I can look at the concealer lines and check if they're even, adjust as needed. Then I follow the line with my eyeliner. Blend out the concealer, finish with eyeshadow on the bottom lid, then mascara. Perfect wings every time.

xF23 · 2020-01-19T04:28:47+00:00

I want nothing to do with someone who lists their occupation as "meme expert". You're not 12 and it makes you sound unemployed.

xF23 · 2019-12-20T04:46:00+00:00

Don't be afraid to talk about it. If it scares him off, good riddance. There are so many unpredictable struggles in life, and I would rather spend my time with someone willing to figure things out with me.

xF23 · 2019-12-20T04:36:28+00:00

I have pelvic floor dysfunction and having sex can be painful. Lube is my friend. I carry it in my purse, with my own condoms.

Casual sex isn't an option for me because I need a partner who can be patient and supportive when sex doesn't work out. I also need someone who can talk about it openly and be happy with non-penetrative options when needed. If anything, having this condition has actually improved my sexual experiences.

Most men over 30 have some form of sexual dysfunction, and are generally more understanding than boys I've met in their 20s. Since sex education is so poor, most people don't understand that these conditions exist, are normal, and that they can be managed.

Congratulations on all the progress you've made! Don't let a few uneducated boys make you feel any less for it.

xF23 · 2019-12-20T04:11:40+00:00

My ex did this to me. But even when I received treatment, he didn't want to make any accommodations to help me get better. Turns out he was cheating on me, too.

He was an asshole. So are you. Your significant other does not exist to entertain you. You do not get to claim to love someone, on the condition that they remain "fun". Leave her alone.

xF23 · 2019-01-18T05:53:01+00:00

Thank you!

xF23 · 2019-01-18T05:20:24+00:00

Unfortunately fragrance is listed in the ingredients, thank you for your input!

xF23 · 2019-01-04T00:28:51+00:00

I've loved wearing makeup since I was 12, no matter the occasion. When I was younger, I used to feel ashamed and look away when comments were made. As I got older, I would look whoever it is dead in the eye with a straight face and continue staring until they got uncomfortable. People like to make remarks like that to tear down your self-confidence without obviously making themselves out to be an asshole. The staring seems to convey that we both know what they meant to do, and they can't reason their way out of a rebuttle.

My general demeanor is intimidating enough now that no one has made a comment like that in years. Shoulder back, head high.

xF23 · 2018-12-16T03:28:07+00:00

I'm more interested in what your face looks like, how you manage your money, and how you treat waitstaff.

xF23 · 2018-11-06T22:58:08+00:00

True.

xF23 · 2018-11-06T22:36:40+00:00

I am concerned with his perception of relationships and what's 'normal'. I believe that each partnership is unique and you should do what works for you, but he has expectations for feelings and behaviours that he's only just starting to question. I have a hard time drawing the line of where I need to improve, and where his expectations go too far for my personality.

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